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Phonicshaskilledmeoff · 09/11/2025 09:05

I am becoming increasingly frustrated with the way our country is run. I love my country, but what on earth can I do to fix it? the Rachel reeves pension and stamp duty rumours have tipped me over the edge.

I believe 90% of our lives is the summation of our own choices. Bar (some of) our own (and families) health and tragic life events, there is very little we can’t choose in this country.

I’m not saying that the playing field is fair - I absolutely acknowledge that some groups face structural barriers that make good choices harder. Others are unaware those choices even exist. That’s where government should step in—not to equalise outcomes, but to equalise access to meaningful choice.

I think we all acknowledge that bad governments are ones that take away choices. This government, however is also taking away choice by incentivising bad choices. Policies should nudge people toward self-sufficiency, not make state reliance easier than self-reliance, or rewarding short-term decisions over long-term

Our Government should be working towards equitable availability of choice (not equal - see below) to make sure those choices are as easy and available to everyone. Policies should be in place to make sure people are encouraged to make the right choices.

I increasingly feel like I make the right choices and think what was the bloody point!

I’m going to wish I never paid into my pension soon and went on holiday instead! Should I just spend my money, move into a smaller house and quit my job. At this point I think I’d be better off.

Jargon Buster - EQUALITY - It’s assumed there is a level playing field and everyone gets the same resources. EQUITY - Everyone gets what they need to succeed, which may mean different levels of support.

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redange · 09/11/2025 12:29

Misunderstanding how the system works.

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 09/11/2025 12:29

Polaris81 · 09/11/2025 12:27

Who/where?

I have not seen any.

Edited

Absolute nowhere of course but that poster can’t bear the thought that any of these posts could be from genuine posters who are fucking sick of it.

bottledboot · 09/11/2025 12:28

@Polaris81 For one we have huge intergenerational inequality in this country largely because of housing costs, how are you putting that down to unequal inputs?

plumclafoutis · 09/11/2025 12:28

WildLimePoet · 09/11/2025 12:25

She’s living comfortably because she’s getting more than people who will have worked all their lives and still can’t afford the freebies she’s getting.

The gaslighting around ‘oh, but benefits are such a pittance’ wont fly. If it really wasn’t so comfortable to live on benefits, millions wouldn’t be doing so.

I think it is you that is doing the gaslighting.

Negroany · 09/11/2025 12:28

WildLimePoet · 09/11/2025 12:22

Lie. Motability cars are taxpayer funded. Almost one in 4 new cars are taxpayers buying cars for people who don’t work.

It's not a lie.

They fund them themselves through the portion of PIP that is awarded for that. So, out of their benefits.

But, regardless of that, what do you have against them? Do you think disabled people should be confined to their houses?

redange · 09/11/2025 12:28

There is an awful lack of understanding across the public and media, how the Motabilty scheme actually works.
I understand there are some issues mostly regarding 'perceptions' of what someone can claim Motabilty for. The public and some in the media do not consider how difficult it is to get 12 points on that part of the PIP process.

The public should also be aware that by cutting the Motabilty scheme there are likely to be major consequences, to the British Car Industry . This if you consider the industry is propped up by the fact 25% of all new car sales come from Motabilty .

I think also what annoys many people is the perception that people are driving cars that are not affordable to them. They miss two important factors here firstly the top end cars on Motabilty always require a significant payment from the individual. Secondly the car company concerned make them available because they cannot sell that model in a normal market !

WildLimePoet · 09/11/2025 12:27

Kirbert2 · 09/11/2025 12:26

Some people with motability cars do work.

And none of them, working or not, are buying these cars without taxpayer funding. A lie is a lie, whichever way you dress it up.

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 09/11/2025 12:27

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Polaris81 · 09/11/2025 12:27

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Who/where?

I have not seen any.

Polaris81 · 09/11/2025 12:26

bottledboot · 09/11/2025 12:22

@Polaris81 I never claimed otherwise? But what does that have to do with my post? We have high inequality vs other similar countries, why do you think that is?

My previous post provides the answer you seek.

Unequal outcomes come from unequal inputs.

If you wish to compare with other countries, then I would suggest that certain individuals reliance on our welfare state, and an abrogation of responsibility amongst some, to take ownership for their life choices, might provide an answer.

What do you think?

Kirbert2 · 09/11/2025 12:26

WildLimePoet · 09/11/2025 12:22

Lie. Motability cars are taxpayer funded. Almost one in 4 new cars are taxpayers buying cars for people who don’t work.

Some people with motability cars do work.

bottledboot · 09/11/2025 12:26

No point trying to explain to people who didn’t pay attention in GCSE economics or don’t pay attention to how economies of countries around the world are functioning.

@WildLimePoet please explain why recognising that we have high inequality means you do not understand economics?

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 09/11/2025 12:26

zazazaaarmm · 09/11/2025 11:49

Did you know that the country where people pay the highest taxes in the world has also been voted the happiest country to live in for the last 8 years?
They also have the best public services that people are willing to pay for.
They also have the softest, considered prisons in the world, and are consistently one of the lowest ranking crime countries.

Why we don't look at it far more as a model is because we have a terribly biased press who have pushed an agenda the benefits the most well off. So we have consistently had people voting.The parties that will actually cause them the most harm.

I’m happy to look at that as a model.

We are becoming a high taxation country alongside expensive food, expensive utilities, expensive transportation and expensive housing. This runs alongside failing infrastructure and a lack of law and order so people feel unsafe. No one voted for this ever.

WildLimePoet · 09/11/2025 12:25

plumclafoutis · 09/11/2025 12:23

How is your mum ‘living very comfortably’ on the state pension which is just of £900 per month? It is lower than most European countries and cost of living is high, in particular our fuel and food bills.

People talk about ‘the government’ but forget this one has only been in for a year and a half. You can’t sort out over 18 years of austerity and bad decisions in that time. I don’t know what the solution is but it is not the fault of disabled people or pensioners surviving on the most basic of pensions. We always punch down in this country.

She’s living comfortably because she’s getting more than people who will have worked all their lives and still can’t afford the freebies she’s getting.

The gaslighting around ‘oh, but benefits are such a pittance’ wont fly. If it really wasn’t so comfortable to live on benefits, millions wouldn’t be doing so.

bottledboot · 09/11/2025 12:25

It is lower than most European countries

You need to put that into context @plumclafoutis

Pensions are higher in other countries because they tend to reflect contributions, the more you pay in the more you get. We don't do that.

EastGrinstead · 09/11/2025 12:24

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EasternStandard · 09/11/2025 12:23

Muffinmam · 09/11/2025 12:22

Me neither. I understand the discontent - but I do not think she articulated her discontent in any meaningful way; so, it was a rant about nothingness.

Read her subsequent posts.

WildLimePoet · 09/11/2025 12:23

Polaris81 · 09/11/2025 12:20

Not everyone is equal in their contribution to the UK - economically, or otherwise.

Nor is everyone equal in their ability to contribute.

The world is not egalitarian - never has been, never will be.

Socialism does not work - never has done, never will do.

No point trying to explain to people who didn’t pay attention in GCSE economics or don’t pay attention to how economies of countries around the world are functioning.

plumclafoutis · 09/11/2025 12:23

MNLurker1345 · 09/11/2025 10:32

I would challenge this also. My mum did
not work much in her life, she had to
many children that she could not afford. She is now living in a brand new-build and living
very comfortably on the state pension. And she has a moan every now and then that it’s not enough. And my mum is not unique.

I ask her where does she think it comes from and why she feels so entitled.

No one is saying that she should be put out on the street or left to starve to death. But her needs are provided for, whilst others that make better life choices, and I did despite my mum, are not being considered.

OP feels punished for making responsible choices, a sentiment many feel now. We work, save, make sensible choices, while the system ignores this.

Why bother doing it properly if it no longer counts?

I feel much the same. It’s exhausting trying to do the right things and then watch policy after policy, such as OP mentions, chip away at any sense of reward or stability.

How is your mum ‘living very comfortably’ on the state pension which is just of £900 per month? It is lower than most European countries and cost of living is high, in particular our fuel and food bills.

People talk about ‘the government’ but forget this one has only been in for a year and a half. You can’t sort out over 18 years of austerity and bad decisions in that time. I don’t know what the solution is but it is not the fault of disabled people or pensioners surviving on the most basic of pensions. We always punch down in this country.

Muffinmam · 09/11/2025 12:22

BMW6 · 09/11/2025 09:10

Can't make head nor tail of what OP is asking.

Me neither. I understand the discontent - but I do not think she articulated her discontent in any meaningful way; so, it was a rant about nothingness.

Rrfdssf · 09/11/2025 12:22

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 09/11/2025 11:41

Bad advice. I stupidly said similar to my kids. Now I tell them to get a great education and a good job in another country.

What's bad? How is anything you said different?

WildLimePoet · 09/11/2025 12:22

Negroany · 09/11/2025 12:01

Why do you have a problem with notability cars? You know people who have them fund them themselves, right?

Lie. Motability cars are taxpayer funded. Almost one in 4 new cars are taxpayers buying cars for people who don’t work.

bottledboot · 09/11/2025 12:22

@Polaris81 I never claimed otherwise? But what does that have to do with my post? We have high inequality vs other similar countries, why do you think that is?

BMW6 · 09/11/2025 12:22

Phonicshaskilledmeoff · 09/11/2025 10:16

sorry about that.

i want to government to support positive choices - ie saving for retirement, finding employment, buying a house, having children when you can afford them.

So you just want a Government who encourage self reliance and personal responsibility for their own lives?

Sounds a vote winner to me - Welfare for those who cannot support themselves, for genuine reasons, not the work shy and grifters.

fivebyfivefaith · 09/11/2025 12:21

I dunno what they don’t incentivise
I’ve lost my job through no fault of my own after being employed since I was 13 on a work permit, I also have a degree

the government gives me £400 UC and that’s it to live on until I find a new job. It just covers my mortgage. No money for gas, electric, council tax, food…