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Kid left out of party - why?!

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Partypooper101 · 08/11/2025 21:54

DD9 is in a small very boy heavy class. A girl in the class who she considers a friend, not a bestie, but definitely a friend, is having a party and has invited all the girls in the class bar DD and one other girl. Before everyone comes for me, yes of course I know nobody is obligated to invite anyone to their party, and no there have 100% not been any fallouts etc. There’s definitely no issues between them, DD was surprised not to be invited and although she’s not said anything about it at school, at home she’s admitted to me she’s hurt at being left out and doesn’t understand “what she’s done wrong to be left out”. The parents of the girl whose party it is are known to be wealthy; it’s not a money issue of having to be strict on numbers, and it’s being held at their massive house so not a space issue either! DD has invited this girl to every party she’s ever had (& we’re definitely not wealthy! 😂)
I know I’m probably being pathetic but it stings. DD is lovely. I’m not saying that blindly either, she really is. Why’s she been left out?! ☹️

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Genevieva · 08/11/2025 22:03

Is she friends with the other girl? Can you arrange for the two of them to do something fun when the party is happening, so they can go into school and talk about what they did when everyone else is discussing the party?

Senso · 08/11/2025 22:03

I never understand the thought process behind these sorts of situations unless there is a huge backstory of jealousy etc. I mean why would you go out of your way to exclude anyone if there’s no real reason?

OP, do you know why the other girl hasn’t been invited too?

MummaMummaMumma · 08/11/2025 22:01

Maybe the kids haven't actually fallen out, but your daughter has been mean to the party girl?

Bigtreeesss · 08/11/2025 21:59

She wasn’t the only one left out
Perhaps the parents only wanted to host x kids?

who cares just move on

PollyBell · 08/11/2025 21:59

We would have no idea why she is left out but seriously you need to work on this, you said yourself do one is entitled to an invitation so beleive that good grief

NuffSaidSam · 08/11/2025 21:58

My guess in these circumstances is that it was a mistake/oversight/lost invitation.

Or the parents have given an arbitrary number for the DD to choose without really thinking it through and it's meant two girls not being invited.

Partypooper101 · 08/11/2025 21:57

The mum set up a WhatsApp group. So yeah, she’s definitely not been invited.

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TwinkleTwinkleLittleBatgirl · 08/11/2025 21:56

Do you KNOW she’s been left out? How were invitations issued?

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