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DH is using community pantry for free food

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cookingaroast · 08/11/2025 20:12

There is a community pantry in our village, with the purpose being to cut food waste. I completely support cutting down on food waste, and the food provided is all from supermarkets who would otherwise throw the food out. My issue is more I'm a bit uncomfortable with us taking the food.
We are both in the tech industry and both fall into the higher tax bracket for our salaries, more than capable of paying for food ourselves.

I've said to DH I don't think we should be utilising this resource and leave the food for others who need it more than us but he loves the bargains (free food) he gets from it. He genuinely wants to show off the stuff he's picked up whenever he goes - which is usually once a week.

I guess I feel a bit uncomfortable that this free food could be a lifeline to people. I do like charity shopping and getting a bargain but I don't feel as bad, as I'm paying what they decide they feel it's worth and the money is going to charity. This is completely free and run by volunteers.

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Fiftyandme · 09/11/2025 20:28

FortnumsWeddingBreakfastTeaPlease · 09/11/2025 20:24

Most people don't need the explanation. They understand what the purpose of the hubs are, through common sense rather than "well, it says I can go, so..."

Some funders don't care that people are hungry. It's not their primary objective to be perceived by. They just want to be seen to be "greener" so they sign up for the reducing food waste, reducing food miles narrative via community fridges. We apply for their funding on this basis. They hand it out to tick their box at their AGMs. We use the funding to feed more hungry people.

You don't have to like how it works. And yes, we crow on about the reduced food waste. But most people can easily understand that it's dressed up as one thing, but very much operates as a food bank.

You took the time to do a survey of a representative cross section of society? I doubt it.

GrooveArmada · 09/11/2025 20:26

I agree with this. [Edit: quote didn't quote - sorry - this relates to the above posts]

If it's Hubbub then its mission is very clear, it's an environmental focus organisation:

"Community fridges are a tried and tested way of reducing the environmental impact of food waste. Every year, the UK bins a shocking 6.4 million tonnes of edible food—worth a staggering £21 billion (WRAP, 2023). And if food waste were a country, it would be the third biggest emitter of greenhouse gases globally. Across the growing network, each fridge redistributes between one and four tonnes of surplus food per month, making the collective impact of the network huge.
However, they also do so much more: all across the UK, fridges have become the centre of the community. As well as stopping good food from going to waste, people can also take part in other activities, learning new skills such as how to grow or cook food, or simply drop in for a chat. In 2024 we supported over 100 community fridge sites to expand their offer to include community meals and cooking and growing workshops. In the context of rocketing food prices and widespread loneliness, many community fridges have also become a lifeline and valuable meeting place at the heart of their community."

https://hubbub.org.uk/community-fridge-network

If it's not Hubbub, but you're using similar wording then you're totally confusing people and need to rethink your marketing strategy. HTH 👌

Community Fridge Network - Hubbub

A Community Fridge brings people together to eat, connect, learn new skills and reduce food waste. Find a fridge near you or get support to set one up.

https://hubbub.org.uk/community-fridge-network

FortnumsWeddingBreakfastTeaPlease · 09/11/2025 20:24

Fiftyandme · 09/11/2025 20:16

Don’t expect people to read your subtext.

Most people don't need the explanation. They understand what the purpose of the hubs are, through common sense rather than "well, it says I can go, so..."

Some funders don't care that people are hungry. It's not their primary objective to be perceived by. They just want to be seen to be "greener" so they sign up for the reducing food waste, reducing food miles narrative via community fridges. We apply for their funding on this basis. They hand it out to tick their box at their AGMs. We use the funding to feed more hungry people.

You don't have to like how it works. And yes, we crow on about the reduced food waste. But most people can easily understand that it's dressed up as one thing, but very much operates as a food bank.

Jijithecat · 09/11/2025 20:22

FortnumsWeddingBreakfastTeaPlease · 09/11/2025 20:08

Lol.

Thanks for explaining how the organisation I'm part of works.

The reality is, we're effectively food banks for people who are too embarrassed to ask for food bank referrals. Perhaps 5% of users don't fall into that category and want to reduce food waste. The rest could not care less. They are hungry and don't want the embarrassment of a good bank referral. I meet monthly with other heads withing the network and it is the same across the board.

But, keep banging on about "but you say it's for everyone on the poster" if it helps you ignore the glaringly obvious reason it's marketed that way.

I also volunteer at a Community Fridge which is also part of the Hubbub network and ours is open to anyone and I mean anyone.
We've had so much to share at some points that our volunteers have jumped onto buses waiting at the bus stop to try and give away the food.

Kindly, if the main purpose of your organisation isn't to reduce food waste, then you're sending out mixed messages and that's unfair.

FortnumsWeddingBreakfastTeaPlease · 09/11/2025 20:18

Goldwren1923 · 09/11/2025 20:13

way to be dense. That’s YOUR one.
there are plenty of others who are genuinely to cut food waste and there are people above thread who confirmed.
not every place is exactly like your place of work

Did you struggle with the part about other hubs stating this is across the board?

Bit "dense" eh?

Fiftyandme · 09/11/2025 20:16

FortnumsWeddingBreakfastTeaPlease · 09/11/2025 20:02

The majority of our users who need food support, are people who are too embarrassed to seek a food bank referral. It's great that you were able to use that service. The feedback we hear all the time is how undignified it feels.

We are marketed "open to everyone" to try and remove the embarrassment factor, so the people who truly need us, come in. It's a thing. Most food hubs do it. We have nationwide meetings where we constantly discuss removing barriers and stigma.

The people who take the most and have to be "policed" for trying to take multiple of items that clearly say "please, one per household" are people who are not in need.

Some people are just self absorbed, self interested and grabby. But if enduring 1 of OPs husband types, means we help 10 people in need, then it's worth it

Don’t expect people to read your subtext.

Thistlewoman · 09/11/2025 20:15

cookingaroast · 08/11/2025 20:12

There is a community pantry in our village, with the purpose being to cut food waste. I completely support cutting down on food waste, and the food provided is all from supermarkets who would otherwise throw the food out. My issue is more I'm a bit uncomfortable with us taking the food.
We are both in the tech industry and both fall into the higher tax bracket for our salaries, more than capable of paying for food ourselves.

I've said to DH I don't think we should be utilising this resource and leave the food for others who need it more than us but he loves the bargains (free food) he gets from it. He genuinely wants to show off the stuff he's picked up whenever he goes - which is usually once a week.

I guess I feel a bit uncomfortable that this free food could be a lifeline to people. I do like charity shopping and getting a bargain but I don't feel as bad, as I'm paying what they decide they feel it's worth and the money is going to charity. This is completely free and run by volunteers.

HE is BU.
That food should be for people who are desperately in need. He loves a yellow label-I get that. But taking it from a community pantry is like taking candy from a baby. Shame on him!

sgtmajormum · 09/11/2025 20:15

Community pantries are run differently to food banks, they are more geared up to prevent edible food being thrown away. However I would probably go at the end of the session so those that need the food have the first choice.

Goldwren1923 · 09/11/2025 20:13

FortnumsWeddingBreakfastTeaPlease · 09/11/2025 20:08

Lol.

Thanks for explaining how the organisation I'm part of works.

The reality is, we're effectively food banks for people who are too embarrassed to ask for food bank referrals. Perhaps 5% of users don't fall into that category and want to reduce food waste. The rest could not care less. They are hungry and don't want the embarrassment of a good bank referral. I meet monthly with other heads withing the network and it is the same across the board.

But, keep banging on about "but you say it's for everyone on the poster" if it helps you ignore the glaringly obvious reason it's marketed that way.

way to be dense. That’s YOUR one.
there are plenty of others who are genuinely to cut food waste and there are people above thread who confirmed.
not every place is exactly like your place of work

FortnumsWeddingBreakfastTeaPlease · 09/11/2025 20:08

Digdongdoo · 09/11/2025 19:55

Hubbub is a food waste initiative. Anyone can use it. If that is not what your organisation wants they should manage food distribution in a different way.

Lol.

Thanks for explaining how the organisation I'm part of works.

The reality is, we're effectively food banks for people who are too embarrassed to ask for food bank referrals. Perhaps 5% of users don't fall into that category and want to reduce food waste. The rest could not care less. They are hungry and don't want the embarrassment of a good bank referral. I meet monthly with other heads withing the network and it is the same across the board.

But, keep banging on about "but you say it's for everyone on the poster" if it helps you ignore the glaringly obvious reason it's marketed that way.

Needmorelego · 09/11/2025 20:06

Catandmousemam · 09/11/2025 20:01

Surely you should have to show your benefits letters to prove you are in the poverty. That is totally wrong of your husband. I think he needs a serious talking to, or remove all money for him to see what it's like living on the breadline!!!!

This thread is going round and round in circles 😵‍💫

Sleepysleepycoffeecoffee · 09/11/2025 20:05

He is doing nothing wrong. It is NOT a food bank for those who can’t afford food. A food bank relies on donations from people kind enough to give to those in need. A community fridge is for everyone as it is about cutting waste as the food is usually out of date, though nothing wrong with it. I don’t think food banks accept out of date food, so this stuff at the community fridge cannot even go to the food bank. Leave him alone. If you’re that bothered though, why don’t you donate to the local food bank to make yourself feel better?

ColdWaterDipper · 09/11/2025 20:05

At the three I’m aware of locally, there is always food left at the end of the opening time. I occasionally pop down at 10:45 (the one I go to is open 9:30-11am) and pick up anything good that’s still left. There’s a big queue there from about 9am which I presume is all the people who are really desperate for food and using it as a sort of fill-in food bank rather than a food waste reduction project, but there’s still often lots of fruit and veg left over and things like bread rolls etc. the project put on Facebook appeals for people to come down and take it so it doesn’t get thrown away. I think by letting others have access to it first and waiting (if you’re not in need of free food) then that’s the best of both worlds.

FortnumsWeddingBreakfastTeaPlease · 09/11/2025 20:02

Fiftyandme · 09/11/2025 19:52

Exactly - and as a former food bank user and at one point being unable to heat or eat I still cannot get angry at anyone turning up to a community pantry that has no ‘membership’ restrictions and taking food.

People are beyond fucking precious and I suspect many on here are suffering from a touch is ‘white saviour’ syndrome

The majority of our users who need food support, are people who are too embarrassed to seek a food bank referral. It's great that you were able to use that service. The feedback we hear all the time is how undignified it feels.

We are marketed "open to everyone" to try and remove the embarrassment factor, so the people who truly need us, come in. It's a thing. Most food hubs do it. We have nationwide meetings where we constantly discuss removing barriers and stigma.

The people who take the most and have to be "policed" for trying to take multiple of items that clearly say "please, one per household" are people who are not in need.

Some people are just self absorbed, self interested and grabby. But if enduring 1 of OPs husband types, means we help 10 people in need, then it's worth it

HildegardP · 09/11/2025 20:02

Catandmousemam · 09/11/2025 20:01

Surely you should have to show your benefits letters to prove you are in the poverty. That is totally wrong of your husband. I think he needs a serious talking to, or remove all money for him to see what it's like living on the breadline!!!!

It's not a foodbank.

Catandmousemam · 09/11/2025 20:01

Surely you should have to show your benefits letters to prove you are in the poverty. That is totally wrong of your husband. I think he needs a serious talking to, or remove all money for him to see what it's like living on the breadline!!!!

HildegardP · 09/11/2025 20:01

llizzie · 09/11/2025 18:29

I thought you had to be on benefits to use a food bank, and what you describe sounds like a food bank.

Two different things with different objectives. Our local surplus food org is constantly trying to expand its user base because so much food in the UK goes to waste. They specifically state that they're not a foodbank, they're open to all & their sole objective is preventing food waste.
Foodbanks usually require a referral from the DWP or other agencies, they try to provide basics that are easy to store as well as cheap & easy to cook. A surplus food org tries to find consumers for usually fresh food that's v close to its use-by date & for whatever reason isn't suitable for foodbanks. One eg; of the 2 foodbanks near me only one has any fridge space & very little of it, the chilled readymeals that turn up in the surplus food club are no use to them.

Fiftyandme · 09/11/2025 19:56

Digdongdoo · 09/11/2025 19:55

Hubbub is a food waste initiative. Anyone can use it. If that is not what your organisation wants they should manage food distribution in a different way.

Exactly.

Fiftyandme · 09/11/2025 19:55

FortnumsWeddingBreakfastTeaPlease · 09/11/2025 19:54

OP, its purpose is to limit food waste. It defines itself this way and it is what it says on the tin (no pun intended

As someone who manages exactly one of those hubs (within a larger charity) I've now explained twice why we deliberately market as "open to all'

Then you’ve fallen foul of not being clear.

Digdongdoo · 09/11/2025 19:55

FortnumsWeddingBreakfastTeaPlease · 09/11/2025 19:45

Precisely this.

I run a charity that has a community food hub and is part of the Hubbub community fridge network.

It's exactly why we advertise as open to all. You will always get people like OP's husband though. Self absorbed and grabby.

The frustrations we have when the people in real need are too embarrassed to ask for help, and gluttons who want to save money they don't even need to save take absolute advantage because "well it's says it's for anyone "

We literally have to hold a stash back so we have enough for the people who desperately need the food.

Some people have no shame or consideration. Give back. It's called the community fridge.

Hubbub is a food waste initiative. Anyone can use it. If that is not what your organisation wants they should manage food distribution in a different way.

FortnumsWeddingBreakfastTeaPlease · 09/11/2025 19:54

OP, its purpose is to limit food waste. It defines itself this way and it is what it says on the tin (no pun intended

As someone who manages exactly one of those hubs (within a larger charity) I've now explained twice why we deliberately market as "open to all'

Fiftyandme · 09/11/2025 19:53

GrooveArmada · 09/11/2025 19:51

Only on MN would one see 25 pages of raging debate over nothing 😄

OP, its purpose is to limit food waste. It defines itself this way and it is what it says on the tin (no pun intended).

He should be taking some items that you would otherwise consider throwing away as this operates as an exchange.

I have similar shops locally and this is exactly what happens. It doesn't matter who uses them.

Food banks OTOH are completely different organisations and serve different purpose.

I don't understand some people's confusion at all.

I’d just chill to Groove Armada at this point

Fiftyandme · 09/11/2025 19:52

SteakBakesAndHotTakes · 09/11/2025 19:51

OK, but it does, so...

It does…what?

Fiftyandme · 09/11/2025 19:52

Needmorelego · 09/11/2025 19:48

Maybe a badge that changes colour on your level of need 🤔
People don't seem to get this is the end of the line for some of this food.
It's been in the shop for sale.
Sometimes on special offer or reduced to clear.
It's been available for those on low incomes to buy cheap.
As someone said upthread Tesco have started giving away for free certain "yellow sticker" items after a certain time.
But after all that is done at the end of the day when the shops close for the night that food needs to be gone.
The community pantry is the last resort as a way to get rid of it before it heads to the bin.
There's no more opportunities for it to hang around waiting for "poor" people to have.

Exactly - and as a former food bank user and at one point being unable to heat or eat I still cannot get angry at anyone turning up to a community pantry that has no ‘membership’ restrictions and taking food.

People are beyond fucking precious and I suspect many on here are suffering from a touch is ‘white saviour’ syndrome

SteakBakesAndHotTakes · 09/11/2025 19:51

Fiftyandme · 09/11/2025 19:25

Then the ‘open to all’ shouldn’t state ‘open to all’ - it’s pretty simple. Words have meaning.

OK, but it does, so...

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