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DH is using community pantry for free food

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cookingaroast · 08/11/2025 20:12

There is a community pantry in our village, with the purpose being to cut food waste. I completely support cutting down on food waste, and the food provided is all from supermarkets who would otherwise throw the food out. My issue is more I'm a bit uncomfortable with us taking the food.
We are both in the tech industry and both fall into the higher tax bracket for our salaries, more than capable of paying for food ourselves.

I've said to DH I don't think we should be utilising this resource and leave the food for others who need it more than us but he loves the bargains (free food) he gets from it. He genuinely wants to show off the stuff he's picked up whenever he goes - which is usually once a week.

I guess I feel a bit uncomfortable that this free food could be a lifeline to people. I do like charity shopping and getting a bargain but I don't feel as bad, as I'm paying what they decide they feel it's worth and the money is going to charity. This is completely free and run by volunteers.

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Irenesortof · 09/11/2025 16:00

whattheysay · 09/11/2025 14:57

How would anyone know how many people are struggling in the village and how can anyone be sure that if you don’t take it it will be taken by someone else?
If there was one in my village I wouldn’t have a clue who needed it it’s not like I know the financial situation of every person I would assume anyone who needed it would go there and collect the food.

You can check with the organisers whether theres food left over or whether the demand is greater than supply. Unless there is a shortage, its the right thing to use it up. In my town we all started off feeling free to use the foodshare then some of us stopped when the cost of living went up and more families asked to join.

Fiftyandme · 09/11/2025 15:54

Needmorelego · 09/11/2025 15:47

@Fiftyandme you are obviously lucky to live near one that has these things.
Some aren't like that though. Some are just leftovers from the nearby Greggs distribution centre or wherever.

I did say I use a mixture of the local food waste pantry and Olio.

Fiftyandme · 09/11/2025 15:53

godmum56 · 09/11/2025 15:46

Absolutely but its not going to be helpful to people who don't have a well stocked pantry and can't afford to pick up a bottle of wine. That's why its a community pantry and not a food bank. Food banks give out bags of food that will supply meals for x number of days without any addtions.

No one’s talking about a food bank. Someone asked how picking up unpredictable food waste could possibly work to incorporate into meals - and I answered.

Fiftyandme · 09/11/2025 15:51

Needmorelego · 09/11/2025 15:32

Sorry but you have lost me completely.
When people generally say they "plan" their meals they mean that Monday will be spag bol, Tuesday fish cakes and rice and so on.
If you turn up at the community pantry and all that's available is donuts, crates of satsumas and some cheese all the recipes in the world won't make a "proper" meal out of that.

But ok - challenge accepted.

If you gave me me those perishable ingredients right now, here’s what I would make using only those ingredients and items already inin my pantry:

Pea and mushroom risotto, cheesy garlic bread (peas from my freezer, dried mushrooms from my pantry, stock cube and risotto rice from my pantry, garlic powder, butter, dried taragon, chili flakes, part baked bread in my freezer.

Doughnut bread pudding - eggs from my vanilla and cinnamon from my pantry, milk from my fridge, doughnuts plus any leftover bits of bread I need to use up, brown sugar if needed from my pantry.

Breakfast - satsuma smoothie with satsumas, yogurt (already in my fridge), oats, ice.

Needmorelego · 09/11/2025 15:48

Kirbert2 · 09/11/2025 15:46

I've been a member for about a year now going twice a week and there's never only a few things available and nothing else.

The one I go to is like a proper shop with fridges, freezers, shelves and then crates for fruit, veggies etc and there's always plenty.

They do vary obviously in what they have.
There's no specific rules and it depends where it is and who runs it.

Needmorelego · 09/11/2025 15:47

@Fiftyandme you are obviously lucky to live near one that has these things.
Some aren't like that though. Some are just leftovers from the nearby Greggs distribution centre or wherever.

Kirbert2 · 09/11/2025 15:46

Needmorelego · 09/11/2025 15:32

Sorry but you have lost me completely.
When people generally say they "plan" their meals they mean that Monday will be spag bol, Tuesday fish cakes and rice and so on.
If you turn up at the community pantry and all that's available is donuts, crates of satsumas and some cheese all the recipes in the world won't make a "proper" meal out of that.

I've been a member for about a year now going twice a week and there's never only a few things available and nothing else.

The one I go to is like a proper shop with fridges, freezers, shelves and then crates for fruit, veggies etc and there's always plenty.

godmum56 · 09/11/2025 15:46

Fiftyandme · 09/11/2025 15:10

That’s exactly what I’m saying -

agsin - well stocked pantry at home, access to google and hey presto, it’s pretty easy to use up whatever perishables you’ve picked up for free.

Tonight I’m making a vegetarian stroganoff - I had to pick up a bottle of red wine and a punnet of mushrooms, I already had all the non perishable items and sour cream, and the onions, peppers, leeks and courgettes I had from Olio over the past week.

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Absolutely but its not going to be helpful to people who don't have a well stocked pantry and can't afford to pick up a bottle of wine. That's why its a community pantry and not a food bank. Food banks give out bags of food that will supply meals for x number of days without any addtions.

Fiftyandme · 09/11/2025 15:32

Needmorelego · 09/11/2025 15:32

Sorry but you have lost me completely.
When people generally say they "plan" their meals they mean that Monday will be spag bol, Tuesday fish cakes and rice and so on.
If you turn up at the community pantry and all that's available is donuts, crates of satsumas and some cheese all the recipes in the world won't make a "proper" meal out of that.

Ok.

Again, I’m not sure where you’ve missed ‘well stocked non perishables pantry’ and not sure how you can’t see that when one does this several times a week one ends up with things like carrots, squashed, swedes, sprouts, parsnips, peppers, hard cabbages, little gem lettuces, potatoes, onions, spring onions, mange tout, baby sweetcorn, green beans, cauliflower, spinach, curly kale, leeks, fresh chili, corriander - all of which will keep a minimum of several days to weeks when stored correctly in the fridge/freezer and all if which I’ve had in the past two weeks . And it’s quite entirely possible to plan.

Needmorelego · 09/11/2025 15:32

Fiftyandme · 09/11/2025 15:27

Ok, I don’t know what to say. I’ve explained several times how one plans, I can’t say it any differently.

Sorry but you have lost me completely.
When people generally say they "plan" their meals they mean that Monday will be spag bol, Tuesday fish cakes and rice and so on.
If you turn up at the community pantry and all that's available is donuts, crates of satsumas and some cheese all the recipes in the world won't make a "proper" meal out of that.

Fiftyandme · 09/11/2025 15:27

Needmorelego · 09/11/2025 15:26

@Fiftyandme I'm confused. I DON'T think Olio is a "predictable shopping experience". That's my point. It will be completely random each day.

Ok, I don’t know what to say. I’ve explained several times how one plans, I can’t say it any differently.

Needmorelego · 09/11/2025 15:26

@Fiftyandme I'm confused. I DON'T think Olio is a "predictable shopping experience". That's my point. It will be completely random each day.

Fiftyandme · 09/11/2025 15:24

Needmorelego · 09/11/2025 15:16

Olio is a bit different though isn't it because it's individuals giving away their unwanted food.
Apologies if I am wrong about that.
But also how can you plan in advance what people are giving away?

No, Olio is supermarkets giving surplus food to others who distribute it (just like a food pantry). What’s available is unoredicrable (just like with a food waste pantry) If you were to pop to your local food pantry the morning after having a look on your local Olio network, you would find repeat items because it’s all come from local supermarket surpluses.

im not sure how you think that Olio is this nice predictable shopping experience similar to supermarkets.

But I do use the local food pantry too and the same rules apply for using what you find: well stocked non perishables pantry and google.

ive not once said you ‘plan in advance’ - the key is a well stocked non perishables pantry and access to google (for recipes). You plan once you know what you’ve got.

Needmorelego · 09/11/2025 15:16

Fiftyandme · 09/11/2025 15:10

That’s exactly what I’m saying -

agsin - well stocked pantry at home, access to google and hey presto, it’s pretty easy to use up whatever perishables you’ve picked up for free.

Tonight I’m making a vegetarian stroganoff - I had to pick up a bottle of red wine and a punnet of mushrooms, I already had all the non perishable items and sour cream, and the onions, peppers, leeks and courgettes I had from Olio over the past week.

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Olio is a bit different though isn't it because it's individuals giving away their unwanted food.
Apologies if I am wrong about that.
But also how can you plan in advance what people are giving away?

Fiftyandme · 09/11/2025 15:15

Runningismyhappyplace50 · 09/11/2025 15:13

I initially agreed with you OP but PP are right this is more of an eco shop rather than a food bank, so is fine (agree he should make a donation though).

Food waste pantries are supposed to be getting rid of food, not swapping it

Runningismyhappyplace50 · 09/11/2025 15:13

I initially agreed with you OP but PP are right this is more of an eco shop rather than a food bank, so is fine (agree he should make a donation though).

Fiftyandme · 09/11/2025 15:10

Needmorelego · 09/11/2025 15:02

No what I meant was you can't predict what the community pantry will have.
One day they might have piles and piles of unsold parsnips because someone at Tesco ordered the wrong amount in error.
The next day it might be some uncollected platters of party sandwiches from a local deli.
It's random.

That’s exactly what I’m saying -

agsin - well stocked pantry at home, access to google and hey presto, it’s pretty easy to use up whatever perishables you’ve picked up for free.

Tonight I’m making a vegetarian stroganoff - I had to pick up a bottle of red wine and a punnet of mushrooms, I already had all the non perishable items and sour cream, and the onions, peppers, leeks and courgettes I had from Olio over the past week.

WonderlandWasAllAHoax · 09/11/2025 15:04

Catseyes7 · 09/11/2025 14:58

Gosh
That's not aimed at him ,that's for people actually struggling,you are taking food out of the mouths of people struggling.
I'd be so upset if my DH did that

lol

XenoBitch · 09/11/2025 15:03

Catseyes7 · 09/11/2025 14:58

Gosh
That's not aimed at him ,that's for people actually struggling,you are taking food out of the mouths of people struggling.
I'd be so upset if my DH did that

Community larders/fridges are for everyone.

Needmorelego · 09/11/2025 15:02

Fiftyandme · 09/11/2025 14:43

Yes you can - it’s easy

Well stocked pantry
Access to google

I use Olio all the time and I almost never have to buy more than 1 additional ingredient to complete a recipe using the items I’ve picked up for free.

No what I meant was you can't predict what the community pantry will have.
One day they might have piles and piles of unsold parsnips because someone at Tesco ordered the wrong amount in error.
The next day it might be some uncollected platters of party sandwiches from a local deli.
It's random.

Digdongdoo · 09/11/2025 15:01

Catseyes7 · 09/11/2025 14:58

Gosh
That's not aimed at him ,that's for people actually struggling,you are taking food out of the mouths of people struggling.
I'd be so upset if my DH did that

Omg.

Kirbert2 · 09/11/2025 15:01

Catseyes7 · 09/11/2025 14:58

Gosh
That's not aimed at him ,that's for people actually struggling,you are taking food out of the mouths of people struggling.
I'd be so upset if my DH did that

No it's not, it's for everyone to prevent food waste.

Needmorelego · 09/11/2025 15:00

godmum56 · 09/11/2025 14:28

sometimes its things like a cold summer weekend and salad sales drop.

Yes exactly.
All it takes is some unexpected weather or something like a traffic accident that blocks the road so people can't drive to the supermarket and they are left with piles of unsold fresh goods.

Catseyes7 · 09/11/2025 14:58

Gosh
That's not aimed at him ,that's for people actually struggling,you are taking food out of the mouths of people struggling.
I'd be so upset if my DH did that

whattheysay · 09/11/2025 14:57

Irenesortof · 08/11/2025 22:34

It would be morally wrong if there are people in the village who are struggling and need more food than is left after DH has taken some. Otherwise, it's fine for anyone to use up food which is about to be dumped in landfill. It's not like taking food from a food bank.

How would anyone know how many people are struggling in the village and how can anyone be sure that if you don’t take it it will be taken by someone else?
If there was one in my village I wouldn’t have a clue who needed it it’s not like I know the financial situation of every person I would assume anyone who needed it would go there and collect the food.

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