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WIBU to knock on this womans car?

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Wynndolynne · 08/11/2025 19:25

Was nipping in M&S foodhall this evening and outside the shop there was a woman asleep in her car. I noticed her because she wasn't sat up, with her eyes closed, like when you just rest your eyes. She was slumped to the side. Not even with her head against the window but way down on the plastic part of the door. I showed DH and he sort of laughed and said she must be knackered.

Went in M&S, grabbed a few bits and waited for my C&C order, so we were in there a good 20 mins.

Came out and woman is still in exactly the same position so I go closer and see there are 2 kids in the back seat, both in carseats
One about 4 and the other about 2.

DH has walked ahead and is already out of reasonable shouting distance. I just knocked on her window and she jumped awake
I must have scared the shit out of her.

I felt pretty stupid and apologised to her and have felt quite embarrassed thinking about it since. She really looked passed out and inve I saw the kids all sorts went through my head.

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Wynndolynne · 08/11/2025 19:36

WhamHamThankYouSpam · 08/11/2025 19:34

Absolutely not being unreasonable, well done for checking on her.
Many years ago a dad, waiting in his car to pick his daughter up from a school local to me, suffered a medical emergency and was sadly found dead in his seat. Tragedies can and do happen

I'm so sorry, thats awful.

Thats what made me knock really, I thought what if i read tomorrow that she had a medical emergency, I would be one of those people reading and wondering how no one noticed or helped

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WhamHamThankYouSpam · 08/11/2025 19:34

Absolutely not being unreasonable, well done for checking on her.
Many years ago a dad, waiting in his car to pick his daughter up from a school local to me, suffered a medical emergency and was sadly found dead in his seat. Tragedies can and do happen

Wynndolynne · 08/11/2025 19:33

66babe · 08/11/2025 19:30

I’d have been more worried than you , I’d have tried to initiate a conversation “ sorry to knock , just wanted to check you ok ? “
Then gauge her response ? Was she ill , drunk , on drugs , exhausted? It’s not normal to fall asleep in a car with young children
She could have had a cardiac or cerebral event .. or been off her face
Both things would need escalation to help her and the children . If she was just exhausted you’d like to hope she’d have said “ I’m ok , sorry , just knackered , I’ll get a red bull “

She seemed fine, she said she was OK, did a thumbs up, she didn't look out of it or ill or anything. To be fair I didn't have a conversation and it was through the glass.
But yes, really weird to be asleep in a carpark at 5pm with 2 small kids in the back.

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myglowupera · 08/11/2025 19:31

Ywnbu, she could have been in a really bad way and there’s no harm in making sure someone is ok.

66babe · 08/11/2025 19:30

I’d have been more worried than you , I’d have tried to initiate a conversation “ sorry to knock , just wanted to check you ok ? “
Then gauge her response ? Was she ill , drunk , on drugs , exhausted? It’s not normal to fall asleep in a car with young children
She could have had a cardiac or cerebral event .. or been off her face
Both things would need escalation to help her and the children . If she was just exhausted you’d like to hope she’d have said “ I’m ok , sorry , just knackered , I’ll get a red bull “

lampshadehatstand · 08/11/2025 19:27

We all need to look out for each other more. Nothing wrong with being concerned and checking on her.

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