Shouted at neighbours kid

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Onerva15 · 08/11/2025 15:41

We live on a small very quiet street and usually my kids 6 and 9 play out no bother with the other children. In the last couple of months one the older kids (10) has decided for whatever reason to pick on my two. It started with inappropriate language and escalated to them being chased on their bikes and my oldest being pushed off and hurting his arm. Today they were all happily playing and I was supervising. This kid comes up to my eldest for no reason and shoves him, my eldest doesn't like confrontation and he walked away. This kid followed him and hit him, my youngest who is only 6 but quite big stood between them and this kid kicked my 6yr old. It happened fast and at this point admittedly I lost it and properly shouted at this kid. A guy from across the road who I don't know and who doesn't have kids then started shouting at me for shouting at this kid. My OH who was in the house came out and took the neighbour's side. I'm absolutely raging.

I should have gone to speak to the parents earlier but I appreciate that kids also need to stick up for themselves and navigate issues so I haven't immediately stepped in (I'm not a helicopter mum) but have been more vigilant which is why I was supervising and saw everything this afternoon. It was so unprovoked I think that's what made me so angry. I definitely shouted at him but I wasn't anywhere near him when I shouted. I wonder what other people would have done? My OH says I should have calmly had a word!!

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Starlight7080 · 08/11/2025 16:10

My instinct is to say your dh should have supported you. But it depends to what degree you shouted at the neighbours kid.
Also if you dont already you obviously need to be constantly supervising when your dc play out side.

themerchentofvenus · 08/11/2025 16:09

@Onerva15 you need to go and speak to the parent and ask to speak to their child in front of them. Point out to the child that he has physically assaulted a 9 year old and a 6 year old. I'd then tell him that at 10 years old he can be criminally charged so he needs to think carefully about his behaviour and be kind.

Cherrysoup · 08/11/2025 16:04

What’s this ‘his adult’ thing? His parents? Can’t we say parent/s?!

I’d be furious with my Dh if he went straight to agreeing with random neighbour before checking what the had done to yours.

amber763 · 08/11/2025 15:55

You are 100% in the right here and your husband is a dick

BookArt55 · 08/11/2025 15:54

I'd be so angry at your husband if I was you.
Shouting at a kid to stop physically assaulting my child when their adukt wasn't there to stop them- completely agree. 'Stop that right now' type of thing is fine. Then I would have walked to his house abd spoken to his adult immediately.
Then I would have gone home and shouted at my husband. 😄

SaySomethingMan · 08/11/2025 15:53

Really really poor form on your dh’s side for siding with the neighbour. He should’ve stood with you and told you in private that he disagreed with your actions.

Evaka · 08/11/2025 15:52

Your partner is a dick. I'd have gone through the little fucker for a shortcut.

Jellicoo · 08/11/2025 15:50

Let the dust settle and move on.. It's probably no bad thing in the long run that you got angry, it'll make the kid think twice next time.

You'll get replies saying what people would have done in an ideal world but in reality we don't always have time to think things through.

It's a shame your husband didn't trust you to handle it though, or at least stay out of it if he's not going to back you.

xoxogosssipgirl · 08/11/2025 15:47

Me too, I’d have done exactly what you did. Little shitty kids like this are the worst and need telling!

herbalteabag · 08/11/2025 15:47

I would have done the same thing as you, and have done similar in the past. I think it's good that the child knows his actions aren't going unnoticed. And this is a 10 year old, not a little toddler.

purpleme12 · 08/11/2025 15:46

If his adult wasn't there and he was behaving like this then I don't think you're being unreasonable.

But next time I'd be a hell of a lot nearer so I could hear what's going on too

JudgeBread · 08/11/2025 15:44

Your OH is a dickhead for siding with the neighbour. I'd have shouted at the little bullying turd too, someone should be.

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