Shouted at neighbours kid

And this is why we have feral teenagers possibly with knifes so prevalent . No fear of consequences for for aggressive behaviour, no fear of authority because the likes of your neighbour and husband are concerned that they might be in trouble . The little shit knows he can get away with it . Imagine what he will be at 14 !

I would do exactly what you did OP .

The kid sounds a brat and probably has too many people ineffectively “having a calm word” and not enough sharply telling him what’s what.

I’d be pretty cross if my DH in effect took the side of the bully hurting our children.

It's what amy parents would naturally do, all you did was shout and rightly so! Your OH should've backed you up. Xx

Your neighbours reaction and your DH is exactly why wee bastard kids like that are growing up to be big bastard adults. You did nothing wrong. Its high time we went back to when adults were allowed to discipline kids, when I was young my neighbours gave us into trouble the same as my parents, all the adults in the street did. Kept us in line. I'd definitely be speaking to wee bastards parents.

Yanbu. I'd have shouted at him too and I'd be finding his parents to tell them what he'd done so they could discipline him. How dare your neighbour and DH say you was being unreasonable. My husband shouted at kids for pissing about at end of our drive throwing our gravel at each other which caused some damage to our car (thankfully cosmetic) they ran off but they didn't do it again.

@Onerva15 You have now learned that not only is that 10-yr-old kid a bully, your neighbor and your OH are twat waffles. You, OTOH, rock!

Report them to the Police and Social Services
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Get legal.advice. If you live in Social Housing
.Let you Landlord know.

I would have done exactly the same. I would have then started on my OH to grow a back bone and defend and protect his kids!

Ten is old enough that he won't be traumatised by an adult shouting at him for pushing smaller kids. He probably gets the same from the duty teacher at school in the playground. I think it's good for your kids to know you have their back.

Your OH is a dick and probably just wants a quiet life. Are they his kids?

Omg your husband is a fuckwit !!! Where the hell is he coming from siding with your neighbour ? What you did was absolutely fine in my eyes and then I’d of marched to his parents and told them to their face what he’d done on more than one occasion and then told them what you’d done . These kids are nothing but bullies and need telling

I think it depends what you mean by shouted. A loud and authoritative voice is completely appropriate in this situation, losing control and properly shouting/screaming at a child isn't ok ever really (though I do have sympathy, I'd be furious if someone did that to my children).

Have you spoken to the child's parents (both about their behaviour and your reaction)?

Your OH is a twat! I'd have done exactly what you did. That kid sounds like a nasty sod.

I've only shouted at other people's children once and it was a similar situation. I think it's a natural reaction to protect your child. Your OH was a dick.

I would have reacted exactly the same as you did.
I'd also have gone to the ten year olds house and told his mum so that she knows what he's up to and that you told him off - otherwise she won't know what he's doing and he can keep thinking he can do what he wants. Also you don't want the dickhead neighbour to report his version of events.

Your husband sounds like a face-saving twat. I'd have felt humiliated by his reaction so I'd be making damn sure that, that situation never occurred again by telling him to step as a parent in future and as a partner, and that his automatic response should always be to support you, not someone else! The knob head.

Sometimes kids need shouting at! You don't have a calm chat with a 10 year old who's shoving and kicking. You shout at them and march them back home. I'd go and speak to the parents too OP.

When you say you shouted at him, what do you mean?
Were you effing and jeffing? Were you ‘screaming’ at him?

If it was just an ‘oi! what the hell do you think you’re doing?’, then you were completely within your rights.
If it was stronger than that, then you may need to reflect a little.

Tell your perfect calm husband to go and have a reasonable calm word with the parents of this angel then. I’d be raging too.

Sign yours up to some jujitsu classes or similar. Their confidence will grow and they won’t be a target. I don’t know why but bullies just know who won’t fight back.

It’s sort of depends on what you mean by ‘properly lost it’. Shouting, directly addressing the behaviour , standing up for your child, remaining at a reasonable distance- probably ok. Screaming, swearing, name calling, threatening, getting up too close to the child- possibly not.
Im tending to think that DH should have taken your side or at least said nothing.

Were you swearing and out of control or just using a raised voice and regular words?

I would get some form of cctv at the front of your house. Then you can just report to police if the parents don’t care their kid is a bully.

you need to speak to the parents and let them know what happened.

I'd have done the same. Bullying little fucker.

I need more info. Why did your neighbour immediately put you in the wrong? What’s your husbands justification for not taking your side? Does he feel you went too far? Did you?

Because, for me, I don’t think you did anything wrong from what you’ve said. But I find it surprising that two other adults (who were there/in the vicinity) have taken a different view.

Balls to them all, you did what I would have done. The other kid needs to hear how to behave. Feel free to go and tell the parents what happened and that you needed to intervene. Well done.

if I was the other kids parent I would have thanked you, as next time another kid may not walk away and could in fact hit him harder.

I would and have done exactly the same, and it takes a lot me to get riled up enough to be confrontational. I’m very much a let the kids handle it between themselves first, but sometimes bullies need a shock and I think you did the right thing.

Oh the joys of parents thinking their kids can do no wrong. This happened to my eldest a younger children was flinging a necklace around nearly caught his eye. Shouted at then, parent don't shout at my child they did no wrong

Your husband is an absolute moron! I’d be raging in your shoes.

He’s more interested in saving face with some random neighbour than checking on you and your children.

Arsey kids do need a short shock occasionally and if that involves another adult shouting at them, so be it. I’ve done it when older kids have monopolised play equipment for toddlers and I’ve made them move on.