AIBU to be upset when Mum's have been banned from my child's team tour?

Apparently he mums are banned

So they take a male chaperone.

hahaha!!
Such positive role modelling.

I haven't seen that. How would they stop people turning up at the venue and joining other spectators?

Because they can't stay in the hotel for this tour?

💯 this.

If it’s rugby, it’s “under 13s” meaning some of the boys will be 12. Year 8.

Lots of positives about rugby and team sports but the drinking culture isn’t one of them.

Mums being there means things will get dampened and some of the boys will prefer to hang out with their sober parent instead, meaning the whole boozing vibe gets ‘spoilt’ for those who wanted to get shitfaced. Its all about the dads fun, they don’t even realise how bored the 12/13 year olds get when their parent is drunk, rambling and repetitive. And it’s the perfect environment to encourage young teens to drink and then the dads feign horror the next day whilst also slapping their boy on the back for being one of the lads.

Oh. Well, when you put it like that.

I didnt realise there was only a choice between 'andrew tate' and 'Boys with dead or absent fathers either can't go, or the coach needs to have unsupervised access to them on the trip for...reasons.'

There is plenty of male bonding between the coaches and the other boys while playing the sport? What kind of bonding will be happening outside of the sport in the hotel room that needs mothers to not be present?

They said in the OP.

No, but then they're literally sidelined 👍

Apparently they are on this tour as well as the hotel.

I am sure that under modern legislation this is sexist. Is there anyway you can get this checked out and go to whomever is above the coach. He sounds like an MCP.

and the ones who don't have a dad or a coach that is female.

How does that work?

Are women banned from the sideline?

I didn't realise the side line and hotels were single sex spaces where only men can go

"It's so awful that boys only have Andrew Tate as a role model of how to be a man"

"Okay, we're organising a males only sports trip which will encourage father-son male bonding and give teenage boys a productive channel for all their energy and competitiveness"

"No, not like that!"

I was a single parent so had to go on ds’s football tours when he was young. I was the only mother there. Every other child took their dad. I didn’t really mind and didn’t make a big thing about it for ds’s sake - everyone knew he didn’t have an alternative and nor did I!

i would tell the coach to think about single parent families - not everyone has a dad that can attend these things!

So now we should forbid males from single sex spaces for two thousand years to make it equal?

Facts don't care about fairness or feelings.

Statistically men are the biggest sexual and violent abuse threat to women, children and actually other men too.

Decent men understand why safeguarding considers men more of a risk to women and children, and they don't whinge because they don't want men like that (of which there is a horrifyingly large number) near their families either.

For what reason?
What if one child had lost their mum and only had her dad.
That's such a terrible attitude

There's quite a range between allowing a coach private access to your child and not allowing personal relationships with other people.

So are mums banned from all attendance at this club?

Whichever new coach/coaches came up with this idea, be very wary around them. You should be suspicious of any man that clearly is trying to get more unsupervised access to children.

Let's be honest, there has never been any investment or respect for female sport. You can't compare because boys have always had the better deal as far as sport is concerned.

The issue with this 'dads only' set up is that this is a club with male coaches who has already shown a complete disregard for safeguarding.

It's not remotely a positive single sex set up.

It's a man with no regard for safeguarding cutting out more parents (and in the OP's case a parent who has already raised issues and been downplayed) and having more unsupervised access to children.

It is basically inevitable that more children will not have a father able and willing to go with them on this trip. So, was the safeguarding disregarding coach one of the possible allocated chaperones for unaccompanied children?

The wider picture of this club and their set up needs reported to the sporting authorities and parents need to wise up and remove their children.

My DC's have done multiple tours in different sports in the UK and abroad and there has NEVER been a one sex coaching team. The organising can be quite difficult and costly so where any extra help or support is needed it has always been any help or support is accepted regardless of sex.

That’s not correct…..there has to be an aim that is met through the provision being single sex.

So, a single sex refuge had the legitimate aim of enabling women to have a space away from people of the sex who have harmed them.

A single sex library would not be legal because there is no legitimate aim for this to be female or male only.