To tell off kids in the pub

I got on the bus the other day and a phone was playing something full blast. I just called down the bus "could you turn that down a bit please" old guy quickly did so and apologised and I said thank you, no issues

YANBU I find it pretty odd that parents would choose to take very young children to a wet pub on a Friday night at all to be honest. Maybe if it's a quiet village local or something, but most wet pubs I go to are just not that child friendly in the evening.

With that said, if they are there they obviously shouldn't be running around or playing games with the sound turned up. It's in no way similar to hearing conversation. Tinny, repetitive sound - whether from a phone or iPad - cuts through and is incredibly annoying in a way that normal speech just isn't.

Of course I'd also chuck off / fine people who insist on having phone conversations on speaker on public transport for much the same reason.

Yes.

Definitely not unreasonable!

So according to the MN police the children should not be out after 7pm regardless of age and day of the week and if they are out they can't run around and if they don't run around but are talking to loud that is also annoying and if they aren't talking and watching/ playing with their ipads that's a good enough reason to tell them off and spoil their parents evening...understood.

Well done, we took our children to the pub when they were young but only lunch times if we were going there to eat. I can understand taking them if you have no other option but once there its up to the parents to supervise children appropriately. DH and I went out for a meal for our last anniversary (pub with food) and two groups of parents were sitting next to us, completely ignoring the children while they cartwheeled between the tables. They were enjoying themselves and did not seem to care that their darlings were impacting everyone else's evening. I'm afraid I did not speak up because I did not want to spoil the meal for DH by complaining.

Definitely UANBU. Another lazy scumbag family.

Why not read previous posts?

Are you a bad parent with feral kids by any chance? I have a number of situations in bars, restaurants and on a place where the tinny, shitty mouse of cartoons was not fair or appropriate, I've sat drinking wine on a terrace and a couple sit there with a loud tinkly nursery tune playing on repeat to entertain the baby in a pram whilst they boozed! People's kid's don't have higher rights than anyone else and you have to be indecent to let your kids annoy other people and ruin other people's experience.

You asked them to turn it down/use headphones.

Why did you say in your thread title you told them off?

No, a big part of it is this modern belief that kids shouldn't be disciplined, neither would I want to have a kid of mingling with ferals or getting stabbed by ferals, but also because society hates discipline now, many kids seem horrible and it doesn't sell the idea!

YANBU this really pisses me off and I hear it every day on the tube.

If I'm feeling brave I ask people to turn it down. The number of people who play videos or have calls on speaker is outrageous. Yesterday two kids were loudly watching videos while their parent scrolled their own phone, I wish I'd told them to turn it off.

Slightly off the track here but we used to go into pubs, drinking, at 14 & 15. If challenged we were 18 but we knew that if we stepped out of line we wouldn't be allowed back in. We were also risking a clip round the ear from the clientele.
We, therefore, were like church mice learning to be respectful and how to behave in public.Nowadays kids have to be 25 and produce ID.

Did you ask the children or the adults? If children probably should have asked. Parents.

Most pubs have a time limit for kids, rightly so.

I find talking loudly about menopause, sex life or other adult topics tends to encourage parents to remove their offspring!

If they can't tolerate earphones then there should be no sound at all. If you set that from the very start of using gadgets then they don't know any difference.

I say that as a parent of an AuDHD child, who always had a tablet on silent or earphones.

Given 62% of people think that people doing this on public transport should be fined, it's not exactly a niche view.

There are technical reasons why the sounds from small speakers doesn't blend with other, more natural sounds well and tends to cut through, hard to tune out, and to be more grating to those at a moderate distance.

Knowing that (a) it affects the majority of people in a negative way, (b) there are fact-based reasons why this is a category of sound that has a particular impact and (c) there is an easy fix to this, why on earth wouldn't you use headphones?

Indeed.

This ^
Imo anyone who listens iPad in a public place should use earphones.
It doesn’t matter if they are 6 or 60 y.o.

Not just my opinion.

I agree, Last night we were in a restaurant and there was one large table in the middle of the room which a couple of children belonged to. We were at a table with a banquette along the wall.

The children wandered off from the large table and came to the empty table beside ours where they proceeded to crawl and loll about on the banquette beside us. Mum kept glancing over and I did give her a bit of a "Paddington hard stare" (which she totally ignored) about the fifth time she looked across.

I get that it was nice for her to have a break from them but why would we want them crawling all over the seat beside us?

I think children need to be taught to behave discreetly in a restaurant from the time they are tiny. Then it's never an issue.