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She's dying isn't she?

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McSteamyorMcdreamy · 07/11/2025 23:15

Mum discharged herself from hospital today.

Hiatus hernia. She can't eat or drink anything. Literally throws it straight back up.

Can't walk because her lower back is buggered.

UTI in blood. Been given antibiotics but nothing seems to be giving her a boost.

Sat in a sodding chair for 36 hours at A&E. Not slept for at least 48. Said she just wanted to go home.

I'm really scared 😭

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shhblackbag · 19/11/2025 22:20

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Pussygaloregalapagos · 19/11/2025 22:19

So sorry

PoisedGoldBiscuit · 19/11/2025 22:14

So sorry to hear this op, sending love X

TamarindCottage · 19/11/2025 22:10

I’m so sorry 💐

SpinningaCompass · 19/11/2025 22:10

I'm so sorry, OP.

Ohmygodnotnow · 19/11/2025 22:09

I'm so very, very sorry x

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booboohoohoo · 19/11/2025 22:08

I’m so sorry. I cannot believe what you have both been through to get to this point. So very sorry xxx

cannynotsay · 19/11/2025 22:06

Oh my gosh, OP I’m so sorry, you’ve been so brave and thoughtful and caring for your mum and helped her get support and care. You’ve being such an amazing daughter. Been checking for updates and keeping you in our thoughts and prayers x

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HildegardP · 19/11/2025 21:52

Oh, McS, my heart bleeds for you.
I know it's a lot while this is hitting you & your family like a tonne of bricks, but try what you can to get her into a hospice if there is one in your area. They're experts in palliative care - & in supporting families.

I echo this.

Smilesinthesunshine · 19/11/2025 22:01

So very sorry xx

wizzler · 19/11/2025 22:01

So sorry OP. Hope that your DM receives the care and is treated with the dignity she deserves

HildegardP · 19/11/2025 21:52

Oh, McS, my heart bleeds for you.
I know it's a lot while this is hitting you & your family like a tonne of bricks, but try what you can to get her into a hospice if there is one in your area. They're experts in palliative care - & in supporting families.

LunaDeBallona · 19/11/2025 21:44

I’m so so sorry.
You knew though didn’t you. Twelve days ago you knew yet the incompetence shown by so many staff to get to this point -what a waste of the last 12 days.
Honestly the NHS is dreadful -I’m sending love and hope as a family you can all pull together in this hard time.

Rhubarb24 · 19/11/2025 21:39

So sorry 😔

Shoutygouty · 19/11/2025 21:38

Sorry OP. Take care of her and I hope you have people to take care of you x

Shmoigel · 19/11/2025 21:33

I am so sorry to hear this. It’s awful you have had to fight so much to have her treated also. It’s criminals

Middlemarch123 · 19/11/2025 21:32

I have been following this thread, bless you and your mum. You’ve done everything you could to. I’ve walked in your shoes, so I understand how you feel. Take comfort that your mum is no longer in pain, and look after yourself x

Riverswims · 19/11/2025 21:28

I am very sorry to read your update @McSteamyorMcdreamyand sending love and comfort to you and your mum and all your family x

SugarMiceInTheRain · 19/11/2025 21:25

Oh no, I'm so sorry to hear your update. Thinking of you and your family. Please be kind to yourself x

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weirdoboelady · 19/11/2025 21:24

Sending hugs xxxx

Kmc2303 · 19/11/2025 21:24

I am so so sorry to read this, heartbreaking the poor battle ur mum has had, this should never have to happen. Our NHS is floored i work in health care, and the weeks coming will be the hardest but do what u can to support you all. If a hospice Is an option please think about it the care is amazing and personal. Please be kind to yourself. Thinking and send love to u all xx

greenismyfavouritecolour · 19/11/2025 21:23

So sorry x

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