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She's dying isn't she?

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McSteamyorMcdreamy · 07/11/2025 23:15

Mum discharged herself from hospital today.

Hiatus hernia. She can't eat or drink anything. Literally throws it straight back up.

Can't walk because her lower back is buggered.

UTI in blood. Been given antibiotics but nothing seems to be giving her a boost.

Sat in a sodding chair for 36 hours at A&E. Not slept for at least 48. Said she just wanted to go home.

I'm really scared 😭

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madameimadam · 19/11/2025 23:13

I am so so sorry McSteamy.

My dad went into hospital 2 weeks ago. Not eating, in pain, lost a lot of weight. We knew something was terribly wrong.

Turns out we were right and he had peritonitis. Ended up with the choice of emergency surgery (which wouldn’t have done anything) or palliative care.

We and he opted for palliative. They were wonderful. He died surrounded by the people he loved and who loved him, in peace and out of pain listening to his favourite music and me telling him what a wonderful dad he was and how loved he was.

It’s absolutely awful and I wish I could give you a massive hug. Much love at an awful, lonely time. You aren’t alone xx

Frolie · 19/11/2025 23:08

Dear OP, so sorry. You must all be in shock.
After such a battle for you all for anyone to even take your mum seriously.

I hope they will now treat your mum with the compassion and dignity she deserves. You’re a great daughter and she must be very proud of you.

Wellbeing24 · 19/11/2025 23:07

So very sorry OP xx

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AdoraBell · 19/11/2025 23:03

Very sorry you are going through this, and your DMum.

Our friend’s husband has lung cancer and the GP and hospital are not treating him. It’s outrageous.

Tillow4ever · 19/11/2025 23:02

I’m so sorry to hear this awful news, I really hoped for a better outcome once you finally got her admitted. Thinking of you and your family x

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BigBen12 · 19/11/2025 22:56

I'm so sorry for what you are going through (and for your mum). Sending a big hand hold for this time x

narnia2025 · 19/11/2025 22:53

So sorry to hear this

ToysRus56 · 19/11/2025 22:52

Sending you so much love, I'm so sorry xxx

SharkPants · 19/11/2025 22:52

I'm so sorry, I read your original post and thought of you. Sending love. Xx

measureofmydreams · 19/11/2025 22:51

I've followed what's been happening and am so very sorry to hear this devastating news.

IceyBisBack · 19/11/2025 22:49

You knew though...when lots doubted you. I knew when my mum had Lung cancer. She died 6 weeks after diagnosis.....but I knew it was going to happen. Sendingyou lots of love x

Nessiesfoodprovider · 19/11/2025 22:49

I'm so sorry to read your update, @McSteamyorMcdreamy .
Hopefully your mum will get the care she needs now so she doesn't suffer any longer. Thoughts are with you all.

mirrorsandlights · 19/11/2025 22:47

I’m so sorry, OP.

QuickPeachPoet · 19/11/2025 22:44

This is horrendous news OP. I am so sorry. No words to describe how you must be feeling. Your optimism in your earlier posts and then that realisation...

WeNeedToTalkAboutIT · 19/11/2025 22:41

Oh darling I am so dreadfully sorry to see the most recent update.

You are a brilliant daughter to her.

OSTMusTisNT · 19/11/2025 22:35

So sorry OP, you have been a wonderful daughter being your Mum's voice when no one seemed to listen. Thinking of you and hope Mum has a calm and peaceful journey.

Hiphopboppertybop99 · 19/11/2025 22:31

So so sorry OP x

Tdcp · 19/11/2025 22:31

I'm so incredibly sorry x

Autumngirl5 · 19/11/2025 22:28

So sorry OP after the horrible time you have had. Sending you a big hug x

loganrock · 19/11/2025 22:27

I am so sorry OP. Your instincts were right. Sending love.

1reason · 19/11/2025 22:27

So sorry to read your update.
Your instinct was correct.
Thinking of you, your mum and family at this time.

Andromed1 · 19/11/2025 22:26

So sorry. Bless her.

lifeonmars100 · 19/11/2025 22:23

All I can do is echo all the other expressions of sorrow and hope that this stranger's message brings one brief second of comfort. I am so sorry x