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She's dying isn't she?

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McSteamyorMcdreamy · 07/11/2025 23:15

Mum discharged herself from hospital today.

Hiatus hernia. She can't eat or drink anything. Literally throws it straight back up.

Can't walk because her lower back is buggered.

UTI in blood. Been given antibiotics but nothing seems to be giving her a boost.

Sat in a sodding chair for 36 hours at A&E. Not slept for at least 48. Said she just wanted to go home.

I'm really scared 😭

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ADHDQueen · 20/11/2025 09:19

So very sorry to hear such bad news OP. Have been through something similar recently & can only echo the comments about how wonderful hospice care is. Will be thinking of you and your lovely mum. 💔

Daftypants · 20/11/2025 08:24

McSteamyorMcdreamy · 19/11/2025 18:28

CT confirmed secondary liver cancer. Primary is in her bones.

All treatment stopped, morphine and now under palliative in private room.

No words.

Oh I am so sorry 😢 and she’s been treated appallingly.
Your instincts are right and all of the health care staff should have listened to you

OrlandointheWilderness · 20/11/2025 07:48

I’m so so sorry OP. I was hoping for a better outcome for you both.
I know it’s not what you are wanting to have to deal with right now but I would say - try and record a few conversations with her. Being able to hear someone’s voice is such a comfort when things progress.

hopefully they will keep her comfortable. I’ll be thinking of you both.

Enko · 20/11/2025 07:47

So Sorry. I had hoped your instincts were wrong

Weenurse · 20/11/2025 07:09

So sorry 💐

Kidsgotothatschool · 20/11/2025 06:46

I am so so sorry. What terrible news. I had been following hoping this would be resolved for you all. Sending you and your precious mum hugs.

MelodiousMoo · 20/11/2025 06:27

What a shock. I am so sorry. You sound like an amazing daughter xx

AnnoyedAsAllHeck · 20/11/2025 02:48

McSteamyorMcdreamy · 19/11/2025 18:28

CT confirmed secondary liver cancer. Primary is in her bones.

All treatment stopped, morphine and now under palliative in private room.

No words.

I am so very sorry to read this update.💔 Even though they don't really help, I am sending you {{HUGS}} and comforting thoughts as you traverse this next step.

Keep talking to your Mom. Talk about happy and funny memories. Even if you think she doesn't hear, she does. It will be good for both of you. 💐

GrandTheftWalrus · 20/11/2025 02:12

Im so sorry OP. Sending lots of love and hugs 🫂

Sillysalamander · 20/11/2025 02:03

Oh my goodness OP! I got a shock just reading your update, I cannot imagine how shocking it must have been for your family. I am so, so sorry! I’m glad you advocated for her and got her seen but I am sorry she is so poorly and that she hasn’t recieved the care she deserves. Big hug x

Monty27 · 20/11/2025 01:39

@McSteamyorMcdreamy wishing you strength. Be gentle on yourself. 💜

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Why would you wade in to a thread 10 days and several hundred posts in without bothering to read any updates. No need for the health anxiety comment either.

Momtotwokids · 20/11/2025 00:53

I so sorry.

Allisnotlost1 · 20/11/2025 00:41

So sorry to read your update @McSteamyorMcdreamy . Try to take comfort from the fact you fought hard for her, and she’s now not in pain. When you can find your anger, complain about the terrible treatment, but for now push all that down and shower your mum with love. Thinking of you and all who love her xx

Shoemadlady · 20/11/2025 00:20

Oh god I’m so so sorry. I can’t believe this has happened to you and your family. I’m so sorry. Sending love and strength

LushLemonTart · 20/11/2025 00:10

Oh no am so sorry. It sounded so positive at one point.
I hate cancer. It's robbed me of so many 😡

Take care @McSteamyorMcdreamy 💐

Justkeepsmilingx · 19/11/2025 23:58

I am so so sorry to read your update. I have been lurking reading your posts. Nothing I can say but I am so sorry x

Cursula · 19/11/2025 23:51

McSteamyorMcdreamy · 19/11/2025 18:28

CT confirmed secondary liver cancer. Primary is in her bones.

All treatment stopped, morphine and now under palliative in private room.

No words.

Could the Martlets have a bed for her? I’m so so sorry and sending love & support x

mumofoneAloneandwell · 19/11/2025 23:42

Oh @McSteamyorMcdreamy 🥺

I am so sorry. Will keep you all in my prayers ❤️

Shelaydownunderthetable · 19/11/2025 23:37

I’m so sorry. 💔

Nefrititi · 19/11/2025 23:33

McSteamyorMcdreamy · 19/11/2025 18:28

CT confirmed secondary liver cancer. Primary is in her bones.

All treatment stopped, morphine and now under palliative in private room.

No words.

I am so so sorry, sending lots of love ❤️

Washingupdone · 19/11/2025 23:25

I am so sorry to hear about your mum. Flowers. Take care of yourself xx

CharlotteFlax · 19/11/2025 23:23

Sending much love and strength to you, McSteamy.

CissOff · 19/11/2025 23:22

I’m so so sorry OP. This is my greatest fear. Sending love x