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She's dying isn't she?

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McSteamyorMcdreamy · 07/11/2025 23:15

Mum discharged herself from hospital today.

Hiatus hernia. She can't eat or drink anything. Literally throws it straight back up.

Can't walk because her lower back is buggered.

UTI in blood. Been given antibiotics but nothing seems to be giving her a boost.

Sat in a sodding chair for 36 hours at A&E. Not slept for at least 48. Said she just wanted to go home.

I'm really scared 😭

MNHQ EDIT to gently suggest that MNers new to this thread take the time to read through all of the OP's posts before answering

OP posts:
Original poster
McSteamyorMcdreamy · 20/11/2025 23:25

Hearing my 36yo, 6ft 7in, 18st brother shouting "mum wake up"

Broken 💔

OP posts:
NewAgeNewMe · 20/11/2025 23:00

I just have to say that it was an honour to be with dad at the end. Heartbreaking but a complete and absolute honour to be his advocate and by his side. Sending you hugs.

tougholdbirdy · 20/11/2025 22:51

Just read your posts….been through it with my darling mum a couple of months ago. Sending you a big hug and strength .

Cornishclio · 20/11/2025 22:51

So sorry to hear that your first instincts were correct and that your mum was treated so poorly at the hospital. I hope she goes as peacefully as possible. What a nightmare for you all.

MrsMillyFluff · 20/11/2025 22:49

Oh OP I'm so very sorry that you're all going through this nightmare. Massive hugs and loving thoughts to you all 💐

LizzieW1969 · 20/11/2025 22:43

So sorry to hear your updates, OP, I’m thinking of you and your family.

dancinfeet · 20/11/2025 22:35

sorry to read your recent updates, thinking of you and your family 💐

Barneysmomma · 20/11/2025 22:33

So very sorry to read your updates. The MN Community are all holding your hand through this night. x

Jeschara · 20/11/2025 22:25

So very sorry. Thinking of you.

ArchieStar · 20/11/2025 22:20

Oh OP. Sending you a hand hold at this time. I know it’s the last thing on your mind but please do make sure PALS knows all about this, the good care and the bad.

we are all here for support. 💐

HighburyHope · 20/11/2025 22:19

Holding you all in my thoughts tonight, OP.

Zippymonkey · 20/11/2025 22:15

Sending strength to you on the most difficult of nights for your family.

KellsBells7 · 20/11/2025 22:15

I hope she’s comfortable and peaceful OP. Keep talking to her. I’m so sorry you’re going through this Flowers

LemaxObsessive · 20/11/2025 22:13

🤍

SamBecket · 20/11/2025 22:08

I'm so sorry. Wishing you strength and peace.

HildegardP · 20/11/2025 22:00

So sorry to hear this McS. To quote my Nana before anything difficult, "Don't forget to eat, you'll need your strength."

Nessiesfoodprovider · 20/11/2025 21:56

Sending thoughts for a peaceful passing for your mum, and hugs to you in this liminal space. You've had a right couple of weeks!

nannyl · 20/11/2025 21:55

McSteamyorMcdreamy · 20/11/2025 21:49

So she's still holding on, although the "rattle" has taken hold a bit today. 2.5 hours dozing in nearly 48hrs. Think I'm running on fumes now.

We think it is going to be overnight tonight.

Thankyou for all your kind messages. Really helped over the last couple of weeks ❤️

Heart breaking to read.

sending you all so much love at this truly awful time.

BeNavyCrab · 20/11/2025 21:54

This must be incredibly difficult for everyone involved. Sending you lots of virtual hugs xx

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 20/11/2025 21:53

I'm very sorry @McSteamyorMcdreamy are the rest of your family with you?

Original poster
McSteamyorMcdreamy · 20/11/2025 21:49

So she's still holding on, although the "rattle" has taken hold a bit today. 2.5 hours dozing in nearly 48hrs. Think I'm running on fumes now.

We think it is going to be overnight tonight.

Thankyou for all your kind messages. Really helped over the last couple of weeks ❤️

OP posts:
pinkshinny · 20/11/2025 16:16

I'm so sorry - have been thinking of you and your mum xx

mummymetalhead · 20/11/2025 12:06

I’m so so sorry OP. I can’t begin to imagine what you’re going through 😔Flowers

Lilacsilver · 20/11/2025 10:10

@McSteamyorMcdreamy
Sending love.
I hope you feel able to come back to this thread because there's a lot of support here and it might help.

didgeridid · 20/11/2025 09:42

@McSteamyorMcdreamysending love ❤️