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She's dying isn't she?

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McSteamyorMcdreamy · 07/11/2025 23:15

Mum discharged herself from hospital today.

Hiatus hernia. She can't eat or drink anything. Literally throws it straight back up.

Can't walk because her lower back is buggered.

UTI in blood. Been given antibiotics but nothing seems to be giving her a boost.

Sat in a sodding chair for 36 hours at A&E. Not slept for at least 48. Said she just wanted to go home.

I'm really scared 😭

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OP posts:
pureolive · 21/11/2025 08:29

I'm so sorry for your loss

TrippingOverMyAssets · 21/11/2025 08:29

I’m so very sorry. I was with my precious mum at the end. 💐

SockFluffInTheBath · 21/11/2025 08:25

I’m so sorry for your loss OP. I’m glad she was peaceful at the end, and she will have heard you all there with her. What a rollercoaster few weeks you’ve had, look after yourself.

mummymetalhead · 21/11/2025 08:24

I’m so sorry for your loss. 😔

EmeraldPebble · 21/11/2025 08:22

I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss, to you and your family @McSteamyorMcdreamy 💐

AhBiscuits · 21/11/2025 08:19

Gosh, that happened so quickly. You must all be in shock. My sincere condolences OP.
I lost my mum when she was 67 in similar circumstances so I have an idea how you must be feeling. I hope that you are receiving lots of support. 💐

scoopoftheday · 21/11/2025 08:14

My sincere condolences. I recently lost my mother. Sending you all the love in the world right now.

May your beautiful mother's soul rest in eternal peace 💐🕯

CharlieUniformNovemberTangoYankee · 21/11/2025 08:11

So sorry for the loss of your lovely mum. Sending love and strength to you and your family 💜

Dery · 21/11/2025 07:47

So sorry, OP. Huge condolences.

Washingupdone · 21/11/2025 07:31

I am so sorry for your loss. Flowers xx

Mumof2heroes · 21/11/2025 07:28

Oh OP I'm so very sorry. You knew all along how serious it was. I'm so glad you have family around you. Be kind to yourself in the coming weeks and months 💐

MrsOvertonsWindow · 21/11/2025 07:19

So very sorry for your loss. You did the best that you could for your Mum. xx

Deedeebob · 21/11/2025 07:18

I’m so sorry OP. Sending love ❤️

Greymalkin12 · 21/11/2025 07:17

So sorry for your loss x

Iwantanapnow · 21/11/2025 07:15

So so sorry for your loss

and your story resonates as my dear mum was also let down badly by the hospital. I still miss her today 7 years later

Sending love

FlamingoQueen · 21/11/2025 07:08

I am so sorry for your loss. Sending hugs x

cannynotsay · 21/11/2025 07:06

I am so sorry for your loss xx

Everythingwillbeokeventually44 · 21/11/2025 06:33

So sorry for your loss 💔 love and thoughts are with you & your family x

MelodiousMoo · 21/11/2025 06:28

McSteamyorMcdreamy · 21/11/2025 02:37

My beautiful mummy passed away at 2am.

Surrounded by her husband and 3 children.

She looks so peaceful. 💔

I am so sorry. You sound like the loveliest close family. I am glad you were all together at the end. What a truly horrific week for you. Wishing you all the strength in the world. If you ever feel like sharing any stories about your wonderful mum, please do so if it helps. She sounds incredible xx

MelodiousMoo · 21/11/2025 06:26

McSteamyorMcdreamy · 20/11/2025 23:25

Hearing my 36yo, 6ft 7in, 18st brother shouting "mum wake up"

Broken 💔

💔💔💔💔 sending love xxx

Nefrititi · 21/11/2025 06:25

McSteamyorMcdreamy · 21/11/2025 02:37

My beautiful mummy passed away at 2am.

Surrounded by her husband and 3 children.

She looks so peaceful. 💔

I am so so sorry, thinking of you all ♥️

LoudSnoringDog · 21/11/2025 06:22

Sorry for your loss. X

Kate8889 · 21/11/2025 06:14

So sorry for your loss, big hugs to you and yours

marriednotdead · 21/11/2025 06:08

My sincere condolences to you and your family, you’ve been through so much.
. May you find comfort in the memories of your mum and the knowledge that you were able to all be with her in the end 🌺

ButWhysTheRumGone · 21/11/2025 06:07

I’m so sorry for the loss of your lovely mum. I was following your thread and hoping for her to get well then saw your update. Try to take good care of yourself and I hope you manage to get some sleep. I hope this thread can give you some support x