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She's dying isn't she?

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McSteamyorMcdreamy · 07/11/2025 23:15

Mum discharged herself from hospital today.

Hiatus hernia. She can't eat or drink anything. Literally throws it straight back up.

Can't walk because her lower back is buggered.

UTI in blood. Been given antibiotics but nothing seems to be giving her a boost.

Sat in a sodding chair for 36 hours at A&E. Not slept for at least 48. Said she just wanted to go home.

I'm really scared 😭

MNHQ EDIT to gently suggest that MNers new to this thread take the time to read through all of the OP's posts before answering

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McSteamyorMcdreamy · 07/11/2025 23:26

She just looks so ill and frall. She looks worse than when her mum died and she was 82!

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McSteamyorMcdreamy · 07/11/2025 23:21

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 07/11/2025 23:17

Hello
How old is your mother?
And did she discharge herself from A and E or from a hospital ward?

Edited

She was told that they would like her to stay, but that they didn't have a bed so she would have to stay in the chair.

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LeavesTrees · 07/11/2025 23:21

Why do you think she will die? Nothing you listed is very likely to kill her.
Discharging herself was a bit foolish, let her calm down then take her back.

HardworkSendHelp · 07/11/2025 23:20

Ach OP it is awful that your mother has had this poor treatment at hospital. I am
not a doctor but doctor Google seems to think her condition can be treated. A UTI can make people really unwell, hopefully antibiotics will work soon. Just big hugs, maybe a night in her own bed will do her good

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McSteamyorMcdreamy · 07/11/2025 23:20

If you could see her.

When I left this evening in between opening and closing her eyes she asked me to bring GDs to see her tomorrow.

I can't describe it.

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TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 07/11/2025 23:19

Why have you leapt to dying when she's only 67?

Has she had a GP appointment?

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 07/11/2025 23:17

None of that sounds like she’s dying.

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McSteamyorMcdreamy · 07/11/2025 23:17

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 07/11/2025 23:17

Hello
How old is your mother?
And did she discharge herself from A and E or from a hospital ward?

Edited

67

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Greenqueen40 · 07/11/2025 23:17

She's not dying, she has medical needs that have to be addressed but nothing that will kill her (as long as she gets some food and drink down).
Let her sleep in her own bed and take her back to hospital yourself tomorrow and advocate for her.

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 07/11/2025 23:17

Hello
How old is your mother?
And did she discharge herself from A and E or from a hospital ward?

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