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To think my neighbour's Halloween decorations epitomise how abusurd their setup is? (Pic attached)

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Carla786 · 07/11/2025 21:59

My 'next-door neighbours' have still not moved in, 3 years after they claimed to be arriving in their forever home. There's been a recurrent pattern with the house next to me where it gets redone by the latest buyer, elaborately & noisily & then gets sold on. No one has ever lived there for much longer than a year. (We suspect there is some kind of property-trading ring going on : our house was bought by my grandmother's parents in the 30s when prices were lower, but obvs have skyrocketed since. It seems criminal when there are so many people waiting for homes. Several other houses on the street are the same, it feels a bit ghost-town & def not neighbourly)
It was the same with this neighbour. They did heavy building works for a new basement & granny flat, among other big changes -noisy & very dusty, which was bad for several of our family who have asthma. Not to mention that I was doing my A levels then . And these are still nowhere near complete 3 years after they started. They haven't moved in : OK, it's not finished yet, but I suspect they'll follow the same pattern as previous owners.
But ofc they wanted to put these lovely decorations up, at the house they've never yet lived in & probably won't- and they're still up today.
My mother sent the pic (I'm at uni)- she's a bit of a conspiracy theorist & thinks the gravestone messages are a threat. I definitely don't go that far, though it feels bad taste. I love Halloween but have never liked gravestone decor, esp as the local cemetery is round the corner & we often visit my grandfather's grave.
MN verdict? Are the neighbours CFs, with this as the icing on the cake? Or are we overreacting?

TLDR : Neighbours who have taken 3 years to move in due to noisy dusty building work for a supposed forever home have decided to put up gravestones on the front lawn of a house they've never lived in and probably never will. Gravestones went up before Halloween & are still here today.

To think my neighbour's Halloween decorations epitomise how abusurd their setup is?  (Pic attached)
OP posts:
Carla786 · 07/11/2025 23:14

RogueFemale · 07/11/2025 22:57

@Carla786 YANBU, ignore the pile on merchants.

Thank you! It seems some are just laughing at the picture rather than reading the background.

I'm obviously not complaining about people buying the house, the issue is never moving in but doing huge renovations!

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Carla786 · 07/11/2025 23:13

JipJup · 07/11/2025 22:50

Why does it seem silly?

Christmas is 2 paydays away for most people.

I meant stuff like Xmas trees. I mean, it's only 7 Nov. I don't really mind, just feels a bit early.

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Carla786 · 07/11/2025 23:11

blondebombsite13 · 07/11/2025 22:50

I think you’re talking out your arse, OP, sorry.

Your grandmothers parents bought your house in the 30s, did they?

Hurrah for them.

Thats not real life. Everyone else has to participate in the “property trading ring” as your mum calls it 😂

As a pp said, it’s Friday night, you’re at uni, go out and enjoy yourself and stop worrying about your mums neighbours Halloween decorations.

Come on, that's clearly not what I'm saying.

I KNOW housing is in crisis now, I know I'm very lucky to be in this position.

That's the issue here : I'd welcome neighbours who move in & stay.

The issue is that a reccurring thing has been people buying up, redeveloping, selling on s, & never living there, or at best sporadically.

That was what my mum meant by a property trading ring, as thus has happened with several houses adjacent to us. I think that's a jump, I don't believe that myself.

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Flannelfeet · 07/11/2025 23:10

IwishIhadcheese · 07/11/2025 23:04

I don’t understand how much work one house needs? Surely if multiple people are buying it, doing work and selling it there can’t be much left that’s not brand new? Have I misunderstood?

Im beginning to think its Amityville they are buying 😬😬😬🤣

IwishIhadcheese · 07/11/2025 23:04

I don’t understand how much work one house needs? Surely if multiple people are buying it, doing work and selling it there can’t be much left that’s not brand new? Have I misunderstood?

GingerPaste · 07/11/2025 23:03

I’m loving the Halloween decorations!

Flannelfeet · 07/11/2025 23:03

JipJup · 07/11/2025 23:00

Or dress them up like carol singers 🤣

🤣🤣🤣. That sounds like it should be out of the gremlins!! Tis the season to be jolly.. 🎶

JipJup · 07/11/2025 23:00

Flannelfeet · 07/11/2025 22:56

Thanks for the reminder!! 😭. Maybe the neighbours will put a santa suit on the skeleton for Christmas 😆 🤣

Or dress them up like carol singers 🤣

RogueFemale · 07/11/2025 22:57

@Carla786 YANBU, ignore the pile on merchants.

Flannelfeet · 07/11/2025 22:56

JipJup · 07/11/2025 22:50

Why does it seem silly?

Christmas is 2 paydays away for most people.

Thanks for the reminder!! 😭. Maybe the neighbours will put a santa suit on the skeleton for Christmas 😆 🤣

Flannelfeet · 07/11/2025 22:51

Lurkingandlearning · 07/11/2025 22:48

Am I the only one wondering why so many people buy houses near OP and her mum and then apparently can’t get away quick enough?

Its because they find out the house next door to them is haunted...or they could possibly be sick of the curtain twitching? 🤔

JipJup · 07/11/2025 22:50

Carla786 · 07/11/2025 22:49

A lot of shops I've seen have Xmas stuff up already, I don't mind that much about it being the wrong time frame, though it does seem silly. The issues are much bigger than a few gravestones.

Why does it seem silly?

Christmas is 2 paydays away for most people.

blondebombsite13 · 07/11/2025 22:50

Carla786 · 07/11/2025 22:12

Well that's my mother's opinion more..I don't personally think it's a ring. I do think it's weird & wrong that most people on the street essentially buy up houses, develop them noisily & extensively, then sell them on to people who repeat this cycle & never actually live in the houses, or at best very sporadically. We barely have any actual neighbours, just temporary developers.

I think you’re talking out your arse, OP, sorry.

Your grandmothers parents bought your house in the 30s, did they?

Hurrah for them.

Thats not real life. Everyone else has to participate in the “property trading ring” as your mum calls it 😂

As a pp said, it’s Friday night, you’re at uni, go out and enjoy yourself and stop worrying about your mums neighbours Halloween decorations.

Carla786 · 07/11/2025 22:49

A lot of shops I've seen have Xmas stuff up already, I don't mind that much about it being the wrong time frame, though it does seem silly. The issues are much bigger than a few gravestones.

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Lurkingandlearning · 07/11/2025 22:48

Am I the only one wondering why so many people buy houses near OP and her mum and then apparently can’t get away quick enough?

Flannelfeet · 07/11/2025 22:47

lifeonmars100 · 07/11/2025 22:42

I've still got my light up mercury glass pumpkin shining away in my fireplace, it is really pretty so I am going to keep it there and then mingle it in with the my Christmas lights

I love to hear that!! 👍. Im a bit more of a fancy skull collector, i have loads and keep them out all year, also crystals everywhere and different unusual things that are more suited to Halloween. ❤️

Carla786 · 07/11/2025 22:46

youalright · 07/11/2025 22:32

You sound ridiculous. Firstly how do the Halloween decorations effect you. Secondly how does dust in a completely seperate property effect your asthma. Thirdly how does it effect you if they move in or not.

There was colossal pile of rubble left in the back garden for months . There was also very noisy drilling in the front garden. I don't know why it's weird to say that living next to huge building site wouldn't affect asthma sufferers. It definitely did.

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Carla786 · 07/11/2025 22:44

Sparklesandspandexgallore · 07/11/2025 22:26

I actually think the decorations should come down. Halloween is one day and that is the 31st October.
Are you saying that these people live elsewhere op? If so I don’t understand why they have put decorations up at a house nobody lives. Surely this is encouraging trick or treaters.
As for renovating and then moving, seems odd unless they are property developers. Seem odd that it keeks happening to the same house too. Surely you get to a point where you can’t keep renovating.

Thank you! Lots of posts seem to be missing these points & just thinking I'm a Halloween Scrooge .

It is very odd. But that's what's happening....I hope it'll change some day. When my mum was growing up in the 70s the street was just a normal one. It's dad the community feel hasn't been there for a long time.

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lifeonmars100 · 07/11/2025 22:42

I've still got my light up mercury glass pumpkin shining away in my fireplace, it is really pretty so I am going to keep it there and then mingle it in with the my Christmas lights

Flannelfeet · 07/11/2025 22:38

youalright · 07/11/2025 22:32

You sound ridiculous. Firstly how do the Halloween decorations effect you. Secondly how does dust in a completely seperate property effect your asthma. Thirdly how does it effect you if they move in or not.

They have had the house for generations, maybe she is scared that the haunting in her house has been passed to the house next door and thats why the dislike of skeletons and gravestones have came from? 🎶insert dracula tune🎶 muhahaha

Flannelfeet · 07/11/2025 22:33

PInkyStarfish · 07/11/2025 22:32

Crikey! In the nicest possible way you need to get a life! You have a very weird fixation on your neighbours and having an obsession like this is not healthy.

Especially when she could be going out and getting rat arsed on a Friday night!! 😆 🤣 😂

youalright · 07/11/2025 22:32

You sound ridiculous. Firstly how do the Halloween decorations effect you. Secondly how does dust in a completely seperate property effect your asthma. Thirdly how does it effect you if they move in or not.

PInkyStarfish · 07/11/2025 22:32

Crikey! In the nicest possible way you need to get a life! You have a very weird fixation on your neighbours and having an obsession like this is not healthy.

Flannelfeet · 07/11/2025 22:29

JipJup · 07/11/2025 22:24

They're probably winding up the nose-pokes next door.

🤣. Ive been thinking the same..my name is Michael Payne and I am a nosey neighbour. Curtain twitching nosey buggers!! Ive still got a pumpkin sat out my front door, bet im getting spoken about by the pricks that live next door to me 😬. Oh well, i don't give 2 🖕. 😂

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 07/11/2025 22:27

Looks like me on after night of clubbing back in my much younger day.🤣