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To think my neighbour's Halloween decorations epitomise how abusurd their setup is? (Pic attached)

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Carla786 · 07/11/2025 21:59

My 'next-door neighbours' have still not moved in, 3 years after they claimed to be arriving in their forever home. There's been a recurrent pattern with the house next to me where it gets redone by the latest buyer, elaborately & noisily & then gets sold on. No one has ever lived there for much longer than a year. (We suspect there is some kind of property-trading ring going on : our house was bought by my grandmother's parents in the 30s when prices were lower, but obvs have skyrocketed since. It seems criminal when there are so many people waiting for homes. Several other houses on the street are the same, it feels a bit ghost-town & def not neighbourly)
It was the same with this neighbour. They did heavy building works for a new basement & granny flat, among other big changes -noisy & very dusty, which was bad for several of our family who have asthma. Not to mention that I was doing my A levels then . And these are still nowhere near complete 3 years after they started. They haven't moved in : OK, it's not finished yet, but I suspect they'll follow the same pattern as previous owners.
But ofc they wanted to put these lovely decorations up, at the house they've never yet lived in & probably won't- and they're still up today.
My mother sent the pic (I'm at uni)- she's a bit of a conspiracy theorist & thinks the gravestone messages are a threat. I definitely don't go that far, though it feels bad taste. I love Halloween but have never liked gravestone decor, esp as the local cemetery is round the corner & we often visit my grandfather's grave.
MN verdict? Are the neighbours CFs, with this as the icing on the cake? Or are we overreacting?

TLDR : Neighbours who have taken 3 years to move in due to noisy dusty building work for a supposed forever home have decided to put up gravestones on the front lawn of a house they've never lived in and probably never will. Gravestones went up before Halloween & are still here today.

To think my neighbour's Halloween decorations epitomise how abusurd their setup is?  (Pic attached)
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RubyMentor · 08/11/2025 04:05
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LeilaLandi · 08/11/2025 03:59

It does sound weird and annoying. No idea why you’d put decorations out when you’re not there.

And for building works to go on that long must be a right pain as the neighbour. It does impact. Totally get it. And agree.

There’s only so much that can be done to a house so I do not get how they are never getting finished either but there’s no obvious answers.

I can see why this would be a constant topic. We have things going on around our house, particularly with one set of neighbours, that as a family we’ve lived with, all know about, comment on, and continue to comment on!

daisychain01 · 08/11/2025 03:54

Carla786 · 07/11/2025 23:11

Come on, that's clearly not what I'm saying.

I KNOW housing is in crisis now, I know I'm very lucky to be in this position.

That's the issue here : I'd welcome neighbours who move in & stay.

The issue is that a reccurring thing has been people buying up, redeveloping, selling on s, & never living there, or at best sporadically.

That was what my mum meant by a property trading ring, as thus has happened with several houses adjacent to us. I think that's a jump, I don't believe that myself.

But your neighbours aren't buying, doing up and selling. You've said yourself, they've owned the property for 3 years and they're making an investment by updating the property.

They aren't deliberately making noise, the modernisations cause noise. If you feel they are making excessive noise you can keep a diary of all the times they're banging and drilling, present it to the planning department of your local authority and they can determine if it's causing local environmental disturbance,... ah wait, you can't do that, because you don't live there, you're at uni.

if it's dusty then why are you expecting them to live there, surely that the whole reason why they're not living there.

unleashthebook · 08/11/2025 03:51

I don’t see how a single property can be repeatedly redeveloped at a profit? People buy doer uppers but it makes no sense to buy one already done to start over 🤷🏼‍♀️

LeilaLandi · 08/11/2025 03:41

Lurkingandlearning · 07/11/2025 22:48

Am I the only one wondering why so many people buy houses near OP and her mum and then apparently can’t get away quick enough?

😂😂😂

ticklyfeet · 08/11/2025 03:34

Carla786 · 07/11/2025 22:44

Thank you! Lots of posts seem to be missing these points & just thinking I'm a Halloween Scrooge .

It is very odd. But that's what's happening....I hope it'll change some day. When my mum was growing up in the 70s the street was just a normal one. It's dad the community feel hasn't been there for a long time.

I know what you mean. The entire area where we live are all bungalows built in 1930. Almost everyone has an extension built onto generous sized gardens to create a large kitchen diner and have had loft conversions to accommodate 2 extra bedrooms. All good and OK…we’ve done the same, but within a 2 month period.
However recently there have been many people buying these properties and extending right up to the boundaries and are so close they could almost be sharing a gutter.
These are people are different in that they never intend to move into the house and have built massive extensions and sold on, making a massive profit in doing so, they are property speculators Although I can’t object formally its a hell of an inconvenience for their neighbours.

For 2 years now I’ve had tradesmen’s vans blocking my driveway, dust finding it’s way into my home and into my car and the constant noise from Mon-Fri 8am to 4pm.
I think it’s taking so long to complete the renovations because they will have more than one project on the go and any one time.
The Hallowe’en thing is just weird! 🤷‍♀️

Mumtobabyhavoc · 08/11/2025 02:14

They prob are wanting to flip it for profit and are trying to avoid taxes / higher insurance on an empty non-primary residence if you have that where you are.

coxesorangepippin · 08/11/2025 02:09

Loads of decs like that near us

RedRoss86 · 08/11/2025 01:54

I don’t get the whole TLDR thing. So for that, YABU 😅

Washingbasquait · 08/11/2025 01:14

I imagine it can be annoying to live next to a house that’s under constant development. That said, I think you’re deeply over invested in what your neighbours are doing, and your mother’s analysis of the Halloween decorations is unhinged (to put it mildly).

ItsameLuigi · 08/11/2025 01:07

CrazyCatMam · 07/11/2025 23:15

I remember watching a TV programme about professional Christmas decorators. Lots of the houses were owned by clients who loved overseas, and rarely, if ever, lived in the UK properties. They were seen as investments. Yet they spent a fortune paying professionals to decorate them for Christmas. It would make me sad too OP if I had to live in a street of empty houses.

My DH rented an apartment in London while he was working there (we’re in Scotland). It was a newish development and the whole block was deserted! Baffled us that anyone would buy an apartment, furnish it and leave it sitting empty.

I think the responses on this thread are strange. Of course no one wants to live in a street of empty houses with Halloween decorations up a week after Halloween.

No neighbours and Halloween decorations all year round? That's actually my dream. I keep Halloween decorations in my house all year because I prefer it to typical homewares. Got cute skulls, buntings etc.

FullOfMomsense · 08/11/2025 01:01

If your asthma is so bad that you can't handle your neighbour's home renovations you need to live in a bubble. That's the most ridiculous complaint I've ever heard.

Maybe get a hobby that isn't watching a house 24/7?

GarlicHound · 08/11/2025 00:51

Crikey, if they were laundering while working for JP Morgan they'd be risking a (presumably) very well-paid career!

Back in the heady days of property flipping, it was sometimes worth carrying out 'Allowable Capital Improvements' which could be offset against capital gains tax when the place was sold for a gigantic profit. Doesn't feel like that would work now. But they could be exploiting some other wizard wheeze - I'm not exactly an expert on investment angles!

Carla786 · 08/11/2025 00:43

GarlicHound · 08/11/2025 00:06

This is the most plausible explanation for the constant renovations to permanently unoccupied homes, I think.

I like the graveyard scene.

Just to wind your mum up even more, OP, the owners might move on to running brothels at the homes. Perhaps your mum's curiosity's the only reason they haven't moved the women in yet ... tell her to keep her eyes peeled for trip hazards when she puts the bins out 👀

Yes,,definitely money laundering could be it. They apparently work for JP Morgan, which they seem very proud of- not sure if that's relevant or not!

Brothels, hope not! Who knows at this point 🤷‍♀️ My mother would certainly be the first to realise, I expect,, if they did! 🤣

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GarlicHound · 08/11/2025 00:06

Owl55 · 07/11/2025 23:16

Money laundering , they’ll never move in!

This is the most plausible explanation for the constant renovations to permanently unoccupied homes, I think.

I like the graveyard scene.

Just to wind your mum up even more, OP, the owners might move on to running brothels at the homes. Perhaps your mum's curiosity's the only reason they haven't moved the women in yet ... tell her to keep her eyes peeled for trip hazards when she puts the bins out 👀

MJMa · 08/11/2025 00:02

Maybe no one lasts that long because of the neighbours? 😉

HughGrantsfurrysquirrel · 08/11/2025 00:02

It does definitely sound as if something dodgy is going on there. I'm inclined to think along the same lines as your mum.
In the context of what you've observed, that particular choice of Halloween decoration might indicate something more sinister. A warning to heed perhaps...

Also agree, constant banging and drilling, not to mention builders dust flying over the fence can drive you mad. Been there.

As an aside, I hate feeling forced to rush through all the wonderful festivities of the year.
I for one, will NOT be taking down my Halloween window lights until it is time for me to dazzle the neighbours with my spectacular array of Christmas lights.... .. in a couple of weeks time!! (Also, I can't be arsed to bugger about putting them all away at the mo!)

Carla786 · 08/11/2025 00:00

Stormyday34 · 07/11/2025 23:51

I’m finding it really hard to picture this road with all these big houses in that nobody ever lives in. Not doubting what you’re saying, I just can’t imagine it. I agree it doesn’t sound very much like a community but I think if my house was worth several million I’d just sell up and go and live somewhere else.

Ikwym. It is a shame....otoh I love my house & garden a lot...I love my area too, I wouldn't want to leave it & houses are very hard to buy here, though I get what you mean re selling & using the money to buy elsewhere.

Anyway, rn my gran (& mum who's full-time caring for her) are staying put, I'll have to decide later

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ParmaVioletTea · 07/11/2025 23:55

It’s absolutely none of your business. Or your family’s business.

Pistachiocake · 07/11/2025 23:53

It would seem odd to me to bother decorating a house I'm not living in. When people travel, they tend not to decorate the house they actually do live in most of the time, so I don't know why anyone would spend time and money on this. Still, it's their time and money, I guess.

biteybpob · 07/11/2025 23:52

I don’t understand. Unless there’s something illegal going on then I don’t see how there’s any issue at all here.

Your issue seems to be that you’re allowing your curtain twitching tin foil hat mother to make you similarly unhinged.

Carla786 · 07/11/2025 23:51

IridiumSky · 07/11/2025 23:26

You’re all wrong.

That is not a Halloween decoration. It’s real.

That’s an owner who took too long to finish the renovations.

Ha,,you may be right.. 🤣

Poor little girl, I hope not. Ofc in Amityville Horror they have a little girl...

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Stormyday34 · 07/11/2025 23:51

I’m finding it really hard to picture this road with all these big houses in that nobody ever lives in. Not doubting what you’re saying, I just can’t imagine it. I agree it doesn’t sound very much like a community but I think if my house was worth several million I’d just sell up and go and live somewhere else.

user1473878824 · 07/11/2025 23:50

Carla786 · 07/11/2025 23:43

The whole OP gives the context, please don't be deliberately obtuse.

But the context is meaningless. They did building works and didn’t move in yet. So now the Halloween decorations are some sort of terrible oddity that never should have been allowed. You’re at uni, it’s a Friday night. GO OUT.

Carla786 · 07/11/2025 23:49

Friendlygingercat · 07/11/2025 23:22

The house next door to me (a 4 bedroom detached) is owned by a widow with dementia who lives with her children. It has been effectively empty for the past 3 years and Im quite happy with that. Every 3 weeks of so someone appears to do the garden and check on the house. Otherwise its deserted. If I grassed them up to the LA they would get charged double council tax but Im not going to do that. I dont want it sold to someone who will redevelop it as a HMO or a noisy multi generational home.

I get that ..thus is different though, no one ever stays, constant redevelopment. If they just left it fully empty it would be a shame but the developing is particularly an issue

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