To think it’s weird when women say they point out pretty women to their men?

Yes but I don’t openly say it to DH because he doesn’t need to know who I find attractive. I watch University Challenge and think Amol Rajan is quite hot but I don’t need to tell DH that.

I think it's odd. I can't imagine being out with my husband (or female friends or adult daughters) and saying "look at that woman, she's beautiful". Or point out a gorgeous man, to my husband - I'm sure he'd love that. Just odd.

I didn’t know this was a thing and don’t think I know anyone who does this?
We only point out beautiful dogs to one another 😂

I bet men never point out gorgeous guys to their wives or girlfriends.

I do this about both sexes too! Like others said, I just say whatever is in my head to my husband! And I'm genuinely being complimentary.

Saying that, I think it can be an insecurity thing sometimes. I would say it to my ex because I either thought he was thinking it or before he said it first! But I always felt he was too good for me and it's a much more healthy relationship with my husband.

I can’t imagine being so suspicious of, or invested in, the behaviour and motivations of random women and what they say to their partners. It think it’s probably internalised misogyny and I feel sorry for you, OP.

I occasionally say “she’s a beautiful woman” say if our server was particularly lovely - this happened last week - but I’m not comparing or trying to be cool, I’m just pointing out a fact. I’ll often say “oo I love that woman’s outfit” too.

I think you’re either overthinking op, or looking for a reason to pick holes in other women.

I think age makes a difference, getting older makes youth more beautiful!

I will notice a woman more for her style & outfit choice tbh which DH isn't interested in.

I actually do comment to DH if I see a very good looking man because they are super rare. Tbf so are good looking women but women can make themselves look more attractive, I did point out a beautiful older lady to DH, she had amazing bone structure.

i used to do this.

It was my way of creating a form of control over the wandering eye and hands of my then boyfriend. If I knew he appreciated this woman, I could keep an eye on it all.

I was in my early 20s so very young and naive.

It's only "really really weird" to you. It's not like I am pointing out an attractive woman or man every day. It's not often at all. It's also not a matter of looking round for someone attractive. Unless you walk around with your eyes closed you see people, you see animals, you see trees etc etc etc etc. I appreciate beauty in all things.

Do you never think an actor or singer is attractive? I would find it weird if DH never found anyone attractive, Anyone who says that is a liar

Wow what a lovely person you sound. I thought this was a discussion forum but was obviously wrong.

I do think it is ok as that is exactly what I said. I don't think it's weird but then, also as I said, I am not insecure

I agree and think it’s really, really weird. In my DH’s only other ‘serious’ relationship they would do this and so he thought that was ‘normal’ (we were young when we met). I thought then and still think it’s an odd thing to do. To admit you’re looking at other people in that way, to your partner. I also just don’t want to know.

Love that's your relationship if you choose to do that then that's on you just because you think it's ok so fucking what

I don't think its odd at all. I am no oil painting but I am also not so insecure that I can't point out an attractive woman to my DH.

I dunno, I'll mention particularly attractive women and men to my DH on occasion and he does the same to me. It's not because we're being cool, it's not even sexual I think its just the same way one might point out anything noteworthy when you're out and about- be it an exceptionally good looking person, a cute dog, a nice window display, an interesting building etc. To quote the internet - it's not that deep.

Yep it's bloody odd neither me or my dh do this why would someone want their man looking at another women going oh yeah she's gorgeous pointed out by his wife just weird

I don't see women nudging their partners "saying, wow she's gorgeous" or wow, what a fantastic body". I think you are projecting.

I don't have a problem enjoying beautiful women and men. But I don't nudge my DH as if it's something extraordinary, it's a couple of seconds personal appreciation without needing to broadcast it.

I think it screams worse self esteem issues than not.

I try to point out women's skills though because dd is usually in tow.

I’ve been known to do this on holiday. Earlier this year we were on hols and a few of the young women had on thong bikinis. One in particular had a very perfect bottom. I did point it out to my husband. For balance, I’m also very likely to point out fake boobs and lip filler.

I definitely don't do it, I only point out my own beauty to him 😂

I mean I will say “god she’s beautiful” if we are discussing someone (this rarely happens as we rarely talk about other people. But DH would think it’s weird if I started pointing out women for us to both ogle at. Dh probably wouldn’t point put a bloke at go “phwoar…check that out!”

How many people’s conversations are you listening to to make this claim?

I think women are capable of appreciating another woman’s beauty. Nothing about trying to be cool, just noticing and mentioning to someone else. As PP said, like you might point out something else that looks beautiful or interesting. Personally I don’t get out much so don’t have the opportunity for noticing beautiful women or beautiful anything.