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Is this too long a commute?

111 replies

rememberitalltoowell · 07/11/2025 19:36

1.45 hours each way, 3 hours a day - 10 minute drive to train station, hour train, 20 minute walk. Would be out the house 6.30am - 6.30pm ish.

Two days a week

I have two young kids, nursery and reception.

I've worked remotely the last few years so a bit worried about doing this and the knock on affect of the long days on the kids.

OP posts:
Zanatdy · 07/11/2025 19:45

I’d do it twice a week for the right money. Once on train you can chill, or continue to work. 5 days a week no, but twice, easily do-able.

redskydelight · 07/11/2025 19:45

I wouldn't do it. But I was permanently exhausted with 2 young children even with a very small commute. You know better than I do about your energy levels and how demanding your children are. And if you have a partner/wider support system that will pick up the slack.

FartyAnimal · 07/11/2025 19:44

2 days a week - yes. I used to do that for 4 days when my son was little. If it's a good job and I assume dad does drop off and pick up?

socks1107 · 07/11/2025 19:44

I do an hour and 30 there and an hour and 45 back ( no fast trains in the evening) and I do it three days a week that’s just been reduced from 4. It’s fine, I do life admin or read and I don’t really think about it now

craigth162 · 07/11/2025 19:43

I did 2 hrs each way 5 days a week for a couple of years and was fine....but that was pre kids and when my stepdad was at home and happy to have dinner done. I was out 6.45a.m till 7p.m. I'd try it but only if you're not also having to come home and do dinner, bed times, etc all alone.

Hiddenhouse · 07/11/2025 19:42

I’m also considering this although mine is closer to two hours each way, it’s horrendous but money…

Meredusoleil · 07/11/2025 19:41

No. Even for 2 days a week. Still too long imho.

TheBeaTgoeson1 · 07/11/2025 19:41

2 days a well. No.

Nitgel · 07/11/2025 19:40

2 days a week yes if it's a job you want

Comedycook · 07/11/2025 19:40

Five days a week...no chance.

I might do two days a week if the money and prospects were good.

Also...what childcare do you have in place for your kids? Is there someone nearby to do an emergency pick up if they are sick at school or nursery?

WonderlandWasAllAHoax · 07/11/2025 19:36

Personally yes, there is no way I would do that. Not worth it.