DH didn’t get DD anything but got his nieces

Yes I got told I shouldn't let my kids play with their star wars toys. What the hell are toys for? How are six year olds being brought up if they are planning heirlooms instead of playing with their toys?

What about the mother who is so concerned about her daughter needing yet another doll but no worries if son gets nothing or is that ok because he's going to end up being a man?

As I said earlier poor little boy

Yet another example of a useless and thoughtless man. Fuck sake.

Anyone that says sexual orientation is a choice is an actual fuckwit.

Agree people said this about various toys in the past, mostly they are now pretty worthless, just get them to be used, and if not don't bother

My DD likes dolls but she has £30-£50 Our Generation and Baby Annabels, even if I was in a shop that sold £100-£200 dolls it's not something I'd consider buying unless she was absolutely desperate for that specific type.

Also weight bringing things back, you cant get everything, but ae said I would have prioritised close family, but it is difficult if he has promised his sister.

Six year olds are planning heirlooms? In my house toys are for playing with.

This thread is fair bringing back memories - Christmas 1984, my mum managed to prevail on my father to FINALLY allow Santa to bring me a Cabbage Patch doll.

Until that point the male parental refused to allow one to darken the door of the house on the grounds that they were the "fucking ugliest things" he'd ever seen. In the end, I was grudgingly allowed a European version, which were smaller, and apparently slightly less fugly. 😂

These American Girl Dolls look moderately less attractively challenged, tbf.

You can get them in the UK but they seem to be about £200, how much were the ones he bought his nieces?
I don’t think it’s odd that he didn’t think of it. If she’s got lots of dolls already he may not see why she would want or need any more, especially if they’re incredibly expensive unless she had a real specific need for that brand. Lots of men don’t browse shops like many women do, they go in for a specific item and they get out as quickly as they can. Sounds like it just didn’t occur to him- I don’t blame him.

Are you annoyed that SIL thought to ask, and you didn't OP?
Maybe he was thinking they were vastly overpriced and not particularly attractive, in which case buying one for DD wouldn't enter his head.
Your nieces are allowed to have something, arranged and paid for by their mum, without your daughter having to have one too.
You are being a bit silly, jealous and childish, IMO.

That is bad form of him OP. He doesn't need to be 'asked' or 'told' to pick something up for 'his' daughter FFS.

Its a long time since I played with dolls but even I know what American girl dolls are and he DID know there was something special about them if his sister asked him to pick some up for her kids.

I confess I don't know much about dolls at all, but have read back through the thread and seen that these ones are expensive and many pps don't like them.

Having said that I did have a good idea of the kinds of things that my DC would like for Xmas, and if I was in a shop that sold the kinds of things that they liked. I would have at least thought about what I could get them or rung home and asked opinions. And if budget was an issue, I would have looked to see if there was a more reasonable alternative.
I mean he was actually in the shop anyway.
I think its really sad that he didn't even think to do that and I don't blame OP for being rather disappointed that he didn't.

Get her the doll from the Argos Xmas advert and kick him to the kerb

Exactly, yet several posters are choosing to ignore that tidbit including OP.

She seems to care more that he didn’t get a doll for their DD and did a favour for their SIL.

I think considering their DD is 6 and she leaves out the age of her son, that sweets are a decent gift while keeping things equal between both kids. Am curious how old the son is and would OP have expected a gift just as expensive for their DS too.

I think it depends on whether the OP's family are the type that would spend £100+ on an impulse gift for just one child.
My family definitely aren't, don't know if that's tight!

But if he'd bought the DD a doll, some sweets and a magnet for DS would be very unequal.

I think that the doll would have been kept for Christmas though?

Think we’re agreeing. I do wonder why OP is upset that her daughter didn’t get an expensive doll yet the sweets are acceptable for their son.

Her posts do seem to ignore her son and it’s all about her daughter not getting yet another doll and that her DH got the dolls that his SIL asked and gave money to him to get for nieces.

I really don’t get why it’s wrong for him to decide not to get them when he thinks DD has enough dolls.

Seems ridiculous he is wrong yet OP is seemingly right to expect him to get a doll that their daughter never hinted or asked for unless OP is going to drip feed that their DD did ask for it.

I agree. Selfish, lacking in imagination, and dare I say it...used to others doing his thinking for him.

"Hasn't she got enough dolls already?" - isn't that something Trump was saying when he put the Chinese tariffs up and people were complaining it would make toys more expensive.

Is he really tight or something?

I don't think you should have had to tell him. If he found himself in a little girl's paradise of girl toys and didn't know what to get he could have rung you.. or lets just hazard a guess here, bought the same toy for his DD that he bought for her cousins so they could have all played with them together at xmas.

He did buy gifts for his family though. Totally normal been on a trip little things he picked up kind of gifts.

Not buying an extra massively expensive Christmas present isn't insensitive.

What would YOU have done OP?.....i already know the answer.....i too live with a selfish prick and YADNBU......very sad 😌

I can't believe some of the comments on here. My mom went on a work trip to America and when she came back half her suitcase was stuff for me! Just cute little things that she knew I'd love. I cannot imagine being so busy or uncaring that you don't buy gifts for your own family. Even if your husband wasn't sure, he could have easily asked you what your kids would like. His behaviour is a bit insensitive.

I know this.

But she wasn’t the one in the shop.

No.

it shows he’s thinking about what his daughter MIGHT like and checking with his DW whether it’s a good idea.

IMO buying it without checking (ie just copying SIL) shows just as much lack of thought for his daughter as not bothering at all.