DH didn’t get DD anything but got his nieces

Oooh! Vulgar! Get the smelling salts out!

@Idontdobumsex It’s called being educated and well read..
Nothing @Futurehappiness has typed sounds anything like a 1930s vocabulary! Simply, educated.

OP there’s a website called dollstoysngifts.co.uk if you message the guy - Simon - he can order one for you from the US at a really reasonable rate!

Slightly more expensive but there’s also mydollcollection.co.uk who are in the uk and sell the .

I am not going to take language lessons from someone with a MN name as vulgar as yours.

My first thought was "sil asked him and paid him the money" the title is misleading. Had he bought them as gifts from himself. I would of seen your point. But! He didn't even think of this himself. He was asked and paid. He probably was a little annoyed he had to do it at all. It isn't something he thought about.
Had he been gift shopping and not on a business trip. He may have had a different thought.
He wasn't away having a jolly good time. He was working. I mean maybe he networked as well. But certainly not there to relax.

Exactly - not everything is a battle.

Also OP - you don't need to get your daughter a $130 dollar doll on a whim - just because someone else has one.

You speak like someone from the 1930s. Modernise your language a bit

I have read and commented on it as I see fit. As I can do for any thread that is shared for public comment.

So, erm, don’t read it then?

Absolutely zero evidence in the OP's post that the DH is either thoughtless or useless. Just an assumption that the DH (despite plenty of evidence to the contrary) must be useless because of course all men are.

This kind of mindless 'all men are useless' pile on by a bunch of women on this thread plays to some of the worst stereotypes about women and makes the thread an embarrassing read.

My guess is that, although this doesn’t sound particularly ‘bad’ of the husband, he’s always thoughtless/useless so this is the straw that broke the camels back for OP

How? From the OP:
I asked if he didn’t think to get DD one and he shrugged and said doesn’t she already have loads of dolls
So he did think about it and decided against it. Or, he didn't but when asked he came to the same conclusion he would have done if he had asked himself in the shop so same outcome. And nothing to suggest his viewpoint that it wouldn't have been a great present for her anyway isn't just as valid as OP's.

Some of us are not psychic and don't know how your post was meant.

I’m not really sure what you mean. My post was meat to be lighthearted with a touch of sarcasm.

Or maybe, and hear me out,

You knock the patronising shit on the head and stop being so controlling

I must have, I'm intrigued to hear how im wrong?

The underlying problem here is OP doesnt entertain any thinking that doesn't align to her own.

As i said we'd no doubt have an opposite post lambasting his waste of money if he'd been of the opinion she needed a grossly overpriced doll and OP was of the opinion she had enough.

And the same chorus of women telling us how men are useless feckless arses

Embarassing

You must have read a different OP to me.

Or maybe he thought that he didn’t want to pay for an overpriced doll for a child who already has a house full of dolls. I don’t think that’s unreasonable at all.

its about time women realised that men just don’t think the same as we do. They are very simple and have to be told to do these sort of things.

This kind of thread makes me roll my eyes. I am one of the first to call out the bad behaviour or thoughtlessness of some men, but this really isn't that. The women on this thread criticising the DH as throughtless and selfish, are not making themselves or women in general look good in their determination that the man must be in the wrong.

This poor man was sent on an errand by his sister to buy an expensive toy, during a business trip. Once he gets home he gets harangued by the OP for not buying their DD a doll in circumstances where she herself would have bought one. Now if that were my DB I would know better than to take up his time by tasking him to buy toys, during a stressful business trip. And if it were my DH I would be annoyed at my SIL imposing on him with her shopping list during his important trip (rather than buying it online and sucking up the extra cost).

It sounds as though he made a decision; not to buy a further expensive doll for his DD because he didn't think she needed one. Shock horror it is different from the decision the OP or some women would have made.

The bad thinking and decision making are on the side of the women involved, in this case. Sorry.

Can't you get her a doll in the UK for Christmas? Why does it have to come from New York? His sister wanted this particular type, so he bought it for her -with her money. If you wanted a particular doll, you should have asked. If a doll is a doll to him (which is reasonable) it never occurred to him that you'd want it over one you can buy at home.

Just looked up what they are and imo overpriced tat! But then I'm old and out of touch with what kids want.

I do get how you feel but it’s only a doll for God’s sake!

You sound like my mother. She's a mindless impulsive consumer, just buy buy buy buy buy, because it's there, because it's shiny, because it's new, because I WANT!!! Then it gets promptly tossed aside and the process begins again.

She calls me mean and stingy for not buying impulsively, thinking before buying. I might pick something up, think about it, decide it's not worth it or I don't really need it and put it back. She thinks that's stingy and I'm 'counting pennies'.

Dd had plenty of toys when she was younger. But not piles and piles and piles. What the hell for? I've seen kids doing it, take it, open the package, toss aside, open another, toss aside. They get played with for 5 mins and never touched again, while mummy and daddy are bringing more.

I wouldn't have bought this doll either. She has plenty of dolls as per OP, never expressed interest in this particular doll, it's pricey. I definitely wouldn't have bought it and I'm not a man.

It does seem to be a case of she would have liked it if she'd been bought it.

Well that's the case with a lot of things, doesn't mean that they all need to be bought!

Especially when the motivation seems to be that cousins will have them!