DH didn’t get DD anything but got his nieces

Probably because he knows his own daughter has lots of dolls already?
Why would he buy her another of something she already has lots of. The fact its a particular brand is just that brands clever marketing, they are just dolls like any other and she already has lots of dolls?!

If this was something so obvious to buy her why didnt you think to suggest it to him before he went, it can't have been that obvious a thing she would want, you didn't suggest it either.

Can't believe people are getting so worked up either... These dolls are super expensive, at best he could have asked his wife if he should get one.

This says it really.

Yes, because I can't imagine that this is the only thing he's fucked up on. Once a useless, selfish test, always a selfish, useless test.

It could have so easily gone the other way.

”AIBU? Dh was asked to buy DNs American girls dolls so he went and bought one for DD. It was so expensive, it’s bloody huge for a doll, and she has stacks of dolls!! I know she’ll want all the accessories for it as well which we just don’t have room to store.
I know it’s nice he was generous but aibu to think he should have asked first?”

Generally I don’t stick up for husbands who say ‘I didn’t think’ but in this instance I think OP is being a bit unfair. I agree she’s disappointed SIL thought of it but didn’t say anything.

Most dads I’d like to think in a store buying something for little girls with his own little girl at home would go daughter would love one I’ll get her one as well.

DH wouldn't have done. I strongly suspect he has ADHD and it just wouldn't occur to him to get something unless I had asked him.

I can't see the issue here. SIL sent him the money and asked him to get X and Y.

You never mentioned American Girl Dolls and he presumably saw them in person and didn't think they were worth the money for his DD.

Also, if he'd bought one for DD, he'd have needed to spend the same amount again finding something for DS.

I agree with the poster saying you're annoyed because SIL thought to get two for her DD's and you didn't.

What excuse?

His sister asked him to pick up these dolls and gave him money. He still brought gifts for kids, just not a doll to add to the many his daughter already has.

Unless OP and him discussed getting said doll as a Christmas gift too, he did nothing wrong.

I wouldn’t be upset about this - he was on a work trip and dashed in to get something specific requested by his sister, he wasn’t mooching around pondering who else he could lovely things for and forgot his own DD!

years ago I was in NY on a business trip and went to the American girl store for a specific doll for my DD - honestly I nearly lost the will to live in there, it’s crazy overwhelming and I just wanted to get what I needed and get out. I’d be surprised if he didn’t feel similarly

This wouldn't bother me and your thread title is a bit misleading.

His sister gave him money and instructions whilst he was on a business trip to buy the dolls. Unless there's a backstory where DD has said she would really like one of these specific dolls then I don't see what the big issue is.

This is a little extreme.. Based on the title I thought he had bought his nieces gifts and not his own DD, which is no the case.

I would agree he could have potentially discussed with his wife, regarding gettin one for their DD, but they are really expensive dolls, so it's not just a small purchase on the whim.

You make it sound as though he bought his nieces presents and got his own children nothing but this isn’t true. His sister asked him to bring back the dolls she wanted to give
her girls for Christmas. She gave him the money for it. He obviously had ideas about what his daughters are going to be given for Christmas. For a change I am Team DH on this one. Why would he buy them dolls when Christmas is just around the corner and they will be getting presents of both your choosing. Are you always like this op? Making problems where there are none. You have posters on here calling your dh cruel. Appalling.

I duno i don't think it's the crime of the century. If it's not something you or DD have specifically mentioned i can understand thinking it's not that big a deal. Similarly if SIL had already asked and he had to bring 2 back, how much suitcase soace would he have left anyway ?

American Girl will ship to the UK if you phone and ask. Although it might not be affordable given the shit storm that is US shipping at the moment.
Not sure where the hideous comments are coming from, they are wholesome age appropriate dolls, with nice accessories, albeit expensive. We have a few, although mostly bought second hand.

OP your husband was being an unthinking arse. Why do people make excuses for these men, even if he wasn't sure, he could have asked you. The AG store is extensive, there is nothing like it in the UK, no idea how you'd not think to get your doll loving child something. If he'd thought they were too expensive, that would be fair, but he didn't think at all.

If the dolls are expensive would he also then have needed to buy something of the same value for your son? That then seems to make the trip very expensive when usually people just bring home a token gift

the thread title reads as though he went to buy dolls for his nieces off his own accord and nothing for his kids.

this is slightly different - he was given specific instructions, with money and he essentially did someone a favour.

yes it’s sad that he didn’t have a brainwave and do something nice for his kids, but it’s more of an inconsideration than a conspiracy.

I get what you mean.

However, AG dolls are really expensive and half the fun is actually going to the store and choosing the doll, dress and accessories; getting it's hair done, ears pierced (😳) etc. You're partly paying for the experience.

If you're just going to choose the doll yourself and give it as a gift, it could be any old doll really.

Remember what exactly??

I don't get all the man hate here.
If i was abroad in a doll shop doing a favour for my sister in law, it definitely wouldn't occur to me to get them for my kids. Especially if they already had lots of dolls.
It's not thoughtless, it's not being an arse or any of those other things.
Not like he didn't bring back anything for his kids at all.

I've now read the whole thread and see that he did buy small gifts for your DD. Now I think you are being ridiculous!

They are about 2x more expensive than in the US.

This man? Wtf has he done so terrible other than not buying a gift that makes him "this man"

Seriously look at the actual pathetic excuses of parents that really neglect their families.

I wouldn't have a problem with that. His sister asked him for something very specific as a christmas gift and gave him the money. Very different if he'd just spontaneously decided to buy his nieces something and not his daughters.

How ridiculous. Your girls are 6 and 8 and those dolls look like a million other standard ones you get here. I think at their ages they would have tons by now and he has said that. Also comparing to a 2yo that would love a doll to a 6yo - he’s being the sensible one.
he could have bought something else though. He’s right on the doll front.

OP did he bring anything for your son or you?

PP being satirical surely?