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AIBU to think I didn't get the job?

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FlappicusSmith · 07/11/2025 14:51

Job interview on Tuesday. Went pretty well - don't think I could have done much better. They said they'd let us know by 'end of the week'. At least 3 other candidates, maybe 4. It's Friday, 3pm and I haven't heard anything...

I didn't get it, right? My theory is they've offered to someone else and are waiting confirmation before sending out rejection emails.

A bit of context - it's not a sector where ghosting happens. It's also one where HR processes have to be followed, so I guess a legitimate reason for not hearing back is there's an HR backlog.

Anyway, I'm going mad with the torture of not knowing and all attempts to distract myself aren't working.

What do you think?
You are being unreasonable = you got the job. Or maybe you did - HR is just taking ages.
You are not being unreasonable = sorry chuck, you didn't get it as you would have heard by now if you had

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FlappicusSmith · 07/11/2025 15:46

PrimalLass · 07/11/2025 15:21

I'm in the same boat. As I've had no call I now expect a rejection email at 5pm.

Maybe it was the same job!

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TodaRythm · 07/11/2025 15:42

You are being naive by taking the comment "by the end of the week" at face value.
If the job was yours you would have heard by now. It's been three days, lovely.

PersephoneParlormaid · 07/11/2025 15:27

I wouldn’t assume you’ve not got it until 5.01pm

ThirdStorm · 07/11/2025 15:25

Give it a bit longer.

I've been interviewing and I saw my first candidate 2 weeks ago and the last one yesterday and I have a meeting in a minute to make the decision. It is not my preference to make people wait so long and keep them hanging but sometimes it happens. I had also indicated it would be 2 weeks due to seeing various shortlisted candidates (and gave an update to that effect a week ago) and today is already disappearing so I fear we won't be letting anybody know now until Monday.

Somanylemons · 07/11/2025 15:24

You don’t know when the other candidates interviews are - could even be the last one is happening today or has had to be rescheduled pushing the timeline out. I’d wait till Monday before discounting yourself.

PrimalLass · 07/11/2025 15:21

I'm in the same boat. As I've had no call I now expect a rejection email at 5pm.

Jiski · 07/11/2025 15:19

If the senior manager/ director is unavailable they may not be able to sign off the decision.

Payitforward55 · 07/11/2025 15:15

I really feel for you. I hate this feeling so much. We can all guess but really its just a waiting game. To be honest up to 4.30pm could still be you. After that chances are they might be offering someone elde. Fingets crossed for you.

Overthinker191728 · 07/11/2025 15:08

I have always found that those calls have come after 4/4.30pm, just as I give up hope!

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FlappicusSmith · 07/11/2025 15:08

Ok, thanks. I know that it's not over until it's over. But the waiting is absolutely doing my head in! I wish they'd just said 'we'll let you know in the next week or so' as then I wouldn't be agonising over the expectation that I should have heard by now...

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NaranjaDreams · 07/11/2025 14:55

Eh. My instinct is that they tend to offer on Friday and then tell the other applicants on Monday once it’s been accepted, but there are sometimes delays and you never know!

I think you just have to wait it out, and at least take some comfort from knowing you’ve not been ghosted.

Swiftie1878 · 07/11/2025 14:54

If you were a definite No, you’d have heard by now. At the very least, you are in a holding pattern. Keep your fingers crossed. x

chattychatchatty · 07/11/2025 14:53

Have to vote YABU as technically it’s not yet the end of the week. Give it till midday Monday and then maybe give the recruiter a call.