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Is it wrong for only to get my own child Christmas presents

132 replies

Blessedone1111 · 07/11/2025 14:20

My mum is saying it’s wrong I’m not getting others presents and if I was her sister in law she would think I’m out of order for not buying her children presents. I can afford to save money to get my own child presents but I really can’t afford outside of that without going without or taking from my emergency money.

why can’t Christmas just be enjoyed celebrating with family. Why do we have to buy lots of gifts.

Am I being unreasonable? I would rather we see eachother then buy eachother gifts

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Coffeeishot · 07/11/2025 14:24

Does your sister in law know you are not buying gifts ? There is nothing wrong with not buying as long as everyone is in the loop and not buying for yours.

Purpleturtle45 · 07/11/2025 14:22

Confused. Who is it your mum is saying you should buy a gift for?

Greggsit · 07/11/2025 14:22

It's not wrong as long as your sister in law knows in advance so as not to get your child presents unless she wants to. It would be wrong to expect presents but not give them.

NotEnoughKnittingTime · 07/11/2025 14:22

I maybe would just buy a chocolate selection box for nieces and nephews but I agree with you.

MidnightPatrol · 07/11/2025 14:22

If you’re skint, then no you shouldn’t be buying other people Christmas presents.

If you are talking about nieces and nephews, tbh I’d probably knock a couple of quid off my own child’s Christmas budget and buy them a selection box each or something (or some other small, cheap chocolate thing!).

ThatsCute · 07/11/2025 14:21

Your mum doesn’t get a vote in how you run your family budget.

Addtosignup · 07/11/2025 14:21

Well this sounds a lovely happy family and I’m sure Christmas is a joy!