I’m not saying relationships should be transactional or that love isn’t important, of course it is. But being in love doesn’t pay bills, raise kids or secure your future. I’ve seen too many people marry purely for romance and end up stressed, struggling or stuck in situations they can’t afford to leave.
AIBU to think that while money shouldn’t be the reason to marry someone, it absolutely should be a factor? You don’t have to be gold-digging to value financial security, it’s just being realistic.
Or is that too pragmatic and unromantic?