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Petty issue now a big issue, because he swore on my deathbed

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ILoveHolidaysAbroad · 07/11/2025 13:06

We had an anniversary recently. I bought my gift for him well in advance. He went to Asda on the day and clobbered together a gift bag of stuff. All nice enough, but I did mention it was a bit late in the day. One of the gifts was pyjamas. He swore they'd been in his boot for a week. I raised and eyebrow and he swore on my deathbed. Well, today I have found the receipt in the bottom of a bag and he was lying, he did buy them on the day. I now care more about the lying than the fact he bought stuff on the day. Would this bother anyone else?

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watchingplanesicantafford · 07/11/2025 13:18

ILoveHolidaysAbroad · 07/11/2025 13:14

So you would all be ok with your DH swearing on your life when it was a lie?

I just would never do that!

I wouldn't be ok with him lying. You seem to be most upset that he swore on your life - I wouldn't be bothered about that, because I'm an adult.

You could probably solve this by having a conversation about lying, and then moving on.

rubyslippers · 07/11/2025 13:18

Why does it matter? You got gifts and you liked them
Swearing on peoples lives is just absolute bullshit tho

TheAutumnalCrow · 07/11/2025 13:17

KilkennyCats · 07/11/2025 13:15

How could he swear on your deathbed, unless you’re actually currently on your deathbed, in which case gifts will be the least of your concerns?
What very weird phrasing.

I’ve never heard that saying before.

Coconutter24 · 07/11/2025 13:17

ILoveHolidaysAbroad · 07/11/2025 13:14

So you would all be ok with your DH swearing on your life when it was a lie?

I just would never do that!

It’s ridiculous it even came to that! Why nots just say thank you for the gifts, why care when the got them?

KilkennyCats · 07/11/2025 13:15

How could he swear on your deathbed, unless you’re actually currently on your deathbed, in which case gifts will be the least of your concerns?
What very weird phrasing.

zeebra · 07/11/2025 13:15

I wish this was my greatest problem OP.

Brefugee · 07/11/2025 13:15

He shouldn't have lied. You shouldn't have checked up.

For future anniversaries, just be clear with each other what the budget is, if any, and let it go.

ILoveHolidaysAbroad · 07/11/2025 13:14

So you would all be ok with your DH swearing on your life when it was a lie?

I just would never do that!

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localbutterfly · 07/11/2025 13:13

He shouldn't have lied, you shouldn't have been interrogating him over a gift - you got pajamas, ON your birthday - what did it matter what day he bought them? (If you thought pajamas were a crap gift, tell him what you really want next time.) His swearing on YOUR death bed is weird and a little creepy.

DiscoBob · 07/11/2025 13:12

It doesn't matter when he bought them. Are they nice? If not at least you've got the receipt to return them.

JudgeBread · 07/11/2025 13:12

I wouldn't have been rooting around looking for the receipt. If you go looking for something to be pissed off about you'll probably find it.

watchingplanesicantafford · 07/11/2025 13:08

No. I've more important things to worry about. Seems pretty petty to me. Move on.