Ex DP sleeping with other women while I’m pregnant

I wonder if this repulsive man tells the women he woos that his ex is 37 weeks pregnant?

He's obviously completely awful, but you ended the relationship so he can sleep with who he likes. He's shown you who he is, so don't give him the opportunity to come crawling back!

He told you who he was at the start of the "relationship" by sleeping with another woman, thats why you ended it remember... why do you think he will be any different now. he cheats, he is a cheater or he doesnt think enough of you to keep it in his pants.. cut him lose and concentrate on you and the baby. you dont need the additional stress.

Technically he is single so can see who he wants.
However it does make him look bad in terms of the fact he wants to reconcile. If he truly did then he wouldn’t be putting his energy into other women. He’d be concentrating on taking some time out and improving himself so he can be the best partner going forwards.
At least it has made the decision clearer for you!

He’s showing you who he is OP.
You did the right thing ending it.
Move on. Focus on you and your child.

I Agree with this.
It's over op he's single and can do what he wants.
You made it clear you are not getting back together so he's moved on.
Nothing you can do about it.

You did the right thing ending the relationship. If he loved you, he wouldn’t have cheated on you in the first place, and if he was truly committed to reviving the relationship, he wouldn’t be dipping his wick and taunting you with it. He sounds like a manipulative prick. Personally I’d give him a wide berth. He’s shown you who he is.

You're not unreasonable to be very hurt by the whole thing and to have split up with him.

As a single man he's not unreasonable to be having dates.

He is spectacularly unreasonable to be a) shagging around while with you, and b) telling you he wants to reconcile while continuing to put it about like a mangy tom cat.

Your friends are unreasonable to be telling you the gory details - tell them really firmly you're not interested and don't want to hear it.

Living with him at the weekends is a recipe for disaster, it's just constantly rubbing your nose in his twattery. What is the housing situation. You need space from him while he's behaving like an utter douche. Is the house rented or own? One or both of you on the paperwork etc?

Eta sorry, missed the bit about a mortgage. Is there any scope for him renting somewhere or staying with family in the mean time while you mutually work out what to do about the house - one buying the other out / selling altogether / some other solution?

OP wrote they share a mortgage, and the man goes to the property on weekends, in-between porking random women.
Doesn't seem like he does much parenting of his current child, does he OP? He sounds like a complete failure.

Is he still living with you

I guess there is a reason why he is now ex. No point in going back there as he is obviously not genuinely interested in any restoration of your relationship. Having said that, you also need to make up your mind about what you really want as you can't say you don't want him and at the same time stop him from seeing others because you find it hurtful.

He can do what he wants, but clearly he’s not committed to change and moving forward after cheating on you, and now demanding you take him back and he’ll sleep around whilst you think about it

If he really wanted to get back together, and was actually sorry for cheating on you, he would not be sleeping around.

He's a total shit, and try to guilt you by being legalistic and saying you're 'on a break' so he can do what he likes. He's showing no empathy for what he's put you through, never mind love.

But he is, thankfully, showing you exactly who he is - a repeat cheater, who doesn't want to support you.

You are so much better off without him, if you were back in a relationship with him he would be sleeping around, just less blatantly.

My relationship ended while I was pregnant, and it was very scary going it alone, but once my DS arrived I realised it was all so doable alone, and the reduction in stress by not having to manage a relationship with his father was enormous.

So sorry that he's so awful, so sorry that so many PPs are saying you're unreasonable to feel hurt/betrayed by his behaviour, but you know who he is now.

And congrats on your soon to be new arrival! I hope you have a friend or family member to be your birth partner - do not let this odious creep near you when you're vulnerable!

Actually don't think you are that BU as you probably feel vulnerable and emotional as pregnant - and he deceived you. You absolutely did the right thing and he doesn't seem to have been that serious about reconciling or he would have carried on trying. Wouldn't be surprised if he had intended getting back together but to carry on cheating. Personally I would be telling friends (and him) not to go on about his behaviour at the moment. He sounds like a knob.

He can do what he wants, but it’s pretty grim.

What he’s saying is I want to be out shagging randoms in hotels and the only reason I (mostly…except for that time you caught me) didn’t is because I was chained to you.

If I had screwed up my relationship and I wanted to fix it, I wouldn’t still be out doing the stuff that messed it up. Doesn’t sound very sincere, does it? Let him carry on being gross and you focus on you and on your baby.

So you’ve told him you don’t want him back? But you’re upset because he’s seeing other women? If you don’t want him then you can’t expect him to put his life on hold in case you change your mind

If he was genuinely interested in reconciling with you he wouldn’t be sleeping around. He definitely wouldn’t be telling you, which I’m assuming he must be else how do you know? You did the right thing leaving, as painful as it must be. Stick to your guns.

How horrible for you OP, I’m so sorry.

In a way it’s better to know for sure that he is a wrong un, if he had begged and pleaded after the ONS and was on his best behaviour you might have felt obliged to take him back for the sake of the children.

At least now you can’t doubt yourself, you can’t raise your kids with a man who shagged around on you while you were pregnant and kept doing it openly even after he got caught.

Onwards and upwards OP, good luck x

I think it’s disgusting he is living in the family home at weekends and going on these dates. What an unbelievable scumbag.

He's making it clear where his priorities lie (not with you or your baby). Time to move on.

As an aside, I now know my exH started cheating when I was pregnant with my first. And then kept cheating, managing to hide it for years. It takes a special kind of trashbag to cheat on his pregnant partner. You really deserve better. I'm guessing you only have his word for it that this was an isolated incident?

The house will have to be sorted, can one of you buy the other out?

Tell your friends (who are not behaving like friends) that there's no reason at all for them to update you on your ex's sex life, thanks. Same to the ex.

Unfortunately, if he was genuinely sorry & wanted to get back with you, he’d not be out sleeping with other women.

It’s his right to, because you ended it (and rightly so). But actions speak louder than words. Saying you want to be with someone isn’t the same as showing them. And for that reason, I think you’re right to tap out of this permanently & focus on your children.

YANBU.

If he was committed to making it work there would be no other women. At least, he'd make sure you didn't know of any other women.

He should be remorseful and grovelling not rubbing your nose in it because you established your boundary.
If this is his way of making you jealous and realising his “worth” he couldn’t be further from the mark.

God of course you are not being unreasonable.

The standards people have for men on this site never cease to surprise me.

he 'claims' he wants to make it work with you - and at the slightest resistance from you to immediately taking him back with open arms he is off shagging multiple other women - WHILE YOU ARE CARRYING HIS BABY???

If he was serious about making it work with you - or indeed just being a supportive partner to you while you are in a vulnerable state WITH HIS BABY!

He could hold. off the random shagging.

He is showing you who he is OP - that is a man not seroiusly committed to getting back into a relationship with you.

how horrifically hurtful for you Im sorry - take care of yourself