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Mid argument with boyfriend

78 replies

Whatwouldyoudo111 · 06/11/2025 19:02

Will try to keep this short and sweet, however I need opinions.

As per the title, mid argument with boyfriend as I feel he has lied to me about where he stayed on two separate occasions earlier in our relationship (have been together for 13 months). He has denied this, but regardless during this argument I spitefully brought up his ex partner, insinuating she is a plain Jane (yes I know) and he came back to me and said she isn’t she has great tits a great ass and an athletic body she’s fit. He then reaffirmed she does have great tits!

He has since apologised and has said he said it to hurt me, but I honestly feel he’s crossed a serious line in already a pretty serious predicament we were in.

wwyd? AIBU? For the record he is 33.

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PumpkinTwistyWindToots · 06/11/2025 19:39

You sound like a pair of twats

Topseyt123 · 06/11/2025 19:37

You were the first to cross a line with your shitty remarks about his ex. Dick move by you there and in many ways you fully deserved the response you got.

It could be argued that he too did cross a line. However, it could also be argued that you both sound extremely immature and need to grow up.

Endofyear · 06/11/2025 19:32

Sounds like you both need to grow up! If you're having these kind of childish arguments after 13 months, I don't hold out much hope for the relationship!

TheLivelyRose · 06/11/2025 19:32

Scottishskifun · 06/11/2025 19:30

Not sure why your pissed off OP you tried to point score, comment on a woman's appearance etc and your bf simply retaliated and defended your attack.

Sounds like you tried to chuck an egg at him only for him to catch it without breaking and lob it back!

Either way you need to examine why you wanted to be spiteful in an argument.

I'm not sure that's true.She thinks he lied about where he was.Twice, and I do wonder if she brought his ex.Up because she thinks he was with her.

Seeing as he so quick to say what amazing tits she has possibly he was.

Scottishskifun · 06/11/2025 19:30

Not sure why your pissed off OP you tried to point score, comment on a woman's appearance etc and your bf simply retaliated and defended your attack.

Sounds like you tried to chuck an egg at him only for him to catch it without breaking and lob it back!

Either way you need to examine why you wanted to be spiteful in an argument.

Pollqueen · 06/11/2025 19:29

Of course he came back, you started it and pretty nastily too

gamerchick · 06/11/2025 19:29

Sounds like a not of growing up to do all round.

Why are you arguing about nothing. Leave the bloke alone, stop dragging up crap or end it.

TheLivelyRose · 06/11/2025 19:28

We've all checked out a partners ex at some point or another or know what they look like.

My partner's ex clearly wasn't into him. They were together for 5 mins, she was still emotionally attached to her ex and actually slept over night in her exes bed whilst she was with my current partner. He believes her that no sex took place 🤨Even if she didnt shag her ex her behaviour was still unacceptable and I'd count it as cheating.

He didn't sound that into her either some of the stuff he has said.

When he mentions her I could say your ex was in bed with her ex a month after she started seeing you, so you didnt set her world on fire.

What's the point? He's not with her anymore he's with me. If he wanted to tolerate cheating behaviour that's his business.

Is that where you're going with this. Did you bring his ex up because you think he lied about where he was because he was with her? That changes the map a little bit. Maybe that's why he's defending her.

It's not unheard of my current partner.ToleratedHis ex sleeping overnight in her ex's bed and I cannot believe he didn't dump her for that.Although he said he nearly did. The whole thing was over in less than four months.Anyway, so it was neither here nor there.

Is that where you re going with this?That you think he was with her?

JLou08 · 06/11/2025 19:26

It was a retaliation to your shitty comment. I don't think you have any right to be so pissed off with him.

MayWelland · 06/11/2025 19:24

You need to apologise OP

janehopper · 06/11/2025 19:24

But I quite like him for defending her against the bitchy comment about her looks.

janehopper · 06/11/2025 19:22

You're both being ridiculous

Wolfpa · 06/11/2025 19:22

What did you think would happen bringing up his ex like that

BlissfullyBlue · 06/11/2025 19:18

Six of one….

AgnesX · 06/11/2025 19:17

You started it, you're in no position to try and claim the moral high ground. Talk about childish.

beeautifullif3 · 06/11/2025 19:17

Oh pathetic 🙄

NormasArse · 06/11/2025 19:16

Some women do have great tits; sounds like she’s one of them as he mentioned them twice.

Its pretty mean spirited of you to have a go at an ex about the way she looks- you deserve to feel uncomfortable about his response.

And when his next partner slags you off, you can be confident that he will speak of you fondly too.

Mewling · 06/11/2025 19:16

I’d say that’ll learn you, but at a guess it probably won’t.

BellissimoGecko · 06/11/2025 19:14

YABU. He was not BU.

stop insulting other women when you argue with your boyfriend .

lnks · 06/11/2025 19:12

It sounds like he match your level of spite.

What are you getting from this relationship? It sounds doomed tbh if this is the way you speak to each other

Anearoa · 06/11/2025 19:11

He crossed a line because you crossed one first. You sound like you deserve each other.

Zempy · 06/11/2025 19:11

Pathetic

Topjoe19 · 06/11/2025 19:10

You let yourself down there didn't you.

Butterflywings84 · 06/11/2025 19:10

Also if you don’t trust him then what he has said is not really your issue. How long ago were these instances he stayed away? Why don’t you believe him? If it is something you keep bringing up then can’t see how you will move past it

Vaxtable · 06/11/2025 19:10

I think you need to grow up