Stain on sofa I'm really cross

Accidents happen. It’s frustrating but no more than that. Surely you can have the cushions upholstered, if it really isn’t able to be removed (is it ink?). It doesn’t require buying a whole new sofa, that is OTT.

@GingerPaste lm just being honest. When l damage or lose something then l make it right. I don't see why OP needs to run around resolving or suck up having a throw, she like me might hate throws

When you get your replacement sofa you need to pay for a care plan. Most places will do 5 years and cover professional cleaning or replacement if necessary.

Have you tried professional cleaning?

People saying you are being a drama queen are being mean, so is your DH. I would be devastated as well and your DH should be looking for solutions and comforting you not making you feel bad. Of course you are upset!

Ok, did you take out any form of insurance/stain protection guarantee when you bought the sofa? If so, that’s your first port of call. If not, you’ll think twice about it next tim3, sometimes we have to learn lessons the hard way.

if you don’t have a stain protector guarantee….look at your contents insurance, you may be covered.

if insurance is not an option and it really can’t be cleaned (I bet it can), ask an upholsterer for a quote.

Taking on credit card debt and not talking to your partner is incredibly childish. It’s a sofa. You need to take a step back, take a deep breath and evaluate your response to this accidental damage, it’s not proportional.

@ErrolTheDragon l find velvet sofas easier to clean e.g. when our cat vomiting all over ours

Don’t you have accidental damage cover on your home contents insurance?

Harsh and unkind

I would also be a bit gutted but this is part my reasoning to buy second hand furniture only going forwards. There is too much replacing of things now, for not really a good reason. Also, if it’s not ‘perfect’ when you get it, you can relax more and just not lose it when one of the kids spills a drink or leaves a pen on it or whatever. I feel for you OP, but threatening not to have a holiday etc is just going to make you feel worse in the long run. It’s not really one of life’s big events is it?

Nope clearly the option is to just throw the couch away and buy a whole new one. There are no other options.

Apparently.

How did she get ink on it in the first place ?

It's all a bit dramatic isn't it? Have you never even so much as dribbled something on your sofa? Too full coffee? Wobbly wine glass? Juggle that paprika crisp?

If it makes you feel any better, my husband has literally shat on our sofa....

Well his Ostomy bag exploded on it his first night back from hospital. Seeped through my sofa bed and the springs too. I'd feel blessed with some ink.

A sofa with non removable or washable covers is utterly useless.

You do have options OP.

Contact the company where you bought it, ask if you can get a replacement cushion if applicable.

Alternatively, there are companies who can repair and match furniture parts who could make a new matching cover or recover the area, it might be salvageable.

What a nasty person you sound.

Abit harsh.
I understand why OP is upset but I agree that it needs to be put in perspective. A nice throw will cover it as an interim solution.
This is resolvable, several problems aren't

There are so many different options before you get to replacing the whole fucking sofa and cancelling a holiday.

I get the the feeling that they wouldn't make your MIL feel bad enough though would they?

The first time I had a new sofa ( still got it now ) ever...within a day my DD got hold of a permanent marker I don't even know where from and wrote on it.

Of course your poor MIL feels terrible. Not only has she stained your new sofa , she now feels responsible for ruining your holiday. Claim on your insurance like everyone else would
And yes carefully curated is a wanky expression.

I would be upset but not to the extent of losing my holiday or not speaking to family. She feels bad - I would be very cross if she didn't. At the end of the day it's just a piece of furniture. Get a throw or a cushion. How must you poor mil feel - lost her husband and now sounds dependant on you for a home and you've made her feel like this. Calm down and get over it

Op try and find a way around it can you post it ?
Put a patch over it like you decorate clothes with I'm sure some clever arty people could help you out .

Honestly please just try and relax a bit, it was an accident not done on purpose. Yes it’s upsetting and it’s a natural reaction to be cross but take some time and think about it in the grand scheme of things. It’s just a material possession.

I grew up in home where everything had to perfect and I got screamed at for any accident like a cup being broken. I swore I would never be like my parents because they always made me feel like the absolute worst person for the most minor of things and whilst things getting broken or damaged here do upset me I just take the time to think it wasn’t malicious and it could happen to anyone.

How brave are you @Lotsnlotsoflove? You could try and remove it yourself.

surgical spirit (isopropyl alcohol (IPA)) is suggested online

check the care label first, (usually found on the underside of your sofa cushions).

How to get ink stains from velvet?

Ink stains can be tricky, but a mixture of rubbing alcohol and water can help. Gently dab the affected area with a cloth soaked in the solution. Make sure not to rub, as it can spread the stain. After cleaning, dry the area with a soft towel.

Worth a try, save a fortune on a new sofa?

Good luck.🍀

In Deborah Devonshire's autobiography she describes a stay at Balmoral. She was writing a letter in her room and knocked a bottle of ink onto the floor. Appalled, she told a member of staff as she went down to dinner, apologising furiously. They told her not to worry and someone would look at it. When she returned to the room the stain was gone and nothing was ever mentioned.

Perhaps you could contact Balmoral house for tips.

I do understand why you are upset.

But for your MIL it must be a very stark reminder she's not in her own home where I'm sure she'd like to be with her late husband.

Give yourself an hour to feel sad then paint on a smile and pretend you are over it.

Another vote for your home insurance. If you have accident damage on your contents they'll replace it. Give your mil a break I think. It was an accident.

I found hairspray great for getting ink out of clothes. Never tried on a sofa though