Sister has inherited huge wealth. Help

So OP has her hands out, her parents have their hands out... the dead man's family will have their hands out etc etc. Good friends that helped him with his investments maybe...
Where does it end? How much do you give them? Pay off a mortgage? Fine. So they then go buy another house and expect that to be paid off too. Or get into debt and expect you to pick up the tab because "you can afford it".

FFS, can you not read?!

She is not grieving. Her ex was hiding wealth during a divorce and he passed before it happened so the sister inherited. His own fucking child is happy that he is dead!

so what if they have their hands out, the ops sister is glad he is dead so sounds like he was horrible. You’re confusing two things here- she doesn’t owe anyone the inheritance from her ex. This is true. What other people on this thread are saying is in her circumstances we would support our family, especially if they were struggling. That’s not about they’re owed her windfall inheritance, that’s about how we treat the people we love when we have the means to do so.

Good fortune??

she's inherited money not won the lottery.

i actually suspect 'inherited' might be the wrong wird anyway & she's got the money because her husband (wife?) has died.

People blathering in about her being selfish or whatever need to poor down & consider her state of grief. She's needs HELP emotionally & financially.

Her ex will have family and will probably have their hands out too.
Death and inheritance brings out the grabby people, it always does.
Ultimately, OP is not the beneficiary of this money. Why should she get money from her sister's ex DH? Why should her parents get money from their daughter's ex DH?

It sounds like OP is sensible about it and just wants her sister to stop rubbing her face in it. That is fine. I do not understand the people saying she should get money.

Oh come off it. If this sister invites her mum to her birthday party do you also think that she has to invite her horrible dead ex’s friends? Nobody thinks that way. Gifting something to your immediate family does not entitle the rest of the world to the same from you.

lol where did I say I wouldn’t help?!

I absolutely would not go asking for money though. To anyone. That’s gross.

@AmberRose86 So you wouldn’t do anything for your parents whom you love if you had a lot of money and they were struggling financially?

Why wouldn’t you help them? Do you think they’d help you if the situation was reversed?

God don’t you have any self respect at all?!

Yep, and no one is entitled to someone else's inheritance.

Death and money brings out the worse in people. It is like chucking soapy water on a patch of grass. All the worms come out.

I would just tell her that your parents are struggling and she should give them some financial help. Maybe your Mum could point out that you and your other sister are also really up against it.
I could not have that much money and leave my sibling or parents struggling, maybe she really does need it spelled out that most people would give some of that to family. She could give up one tenth of it and not notice any difference in lifestyle etc, but it would be a huge chunk for the rest of you.

If they were like someone of the posters on this thread and believed themselves entitled to it? Absolutely, I’d be quite contentedly fucked up. Not sorry.

It would depend on your relationships. I would not give my DF a penny as he would just drink it all away. Dsis's DH is set to be a millionare when his parents die. My DB... he would accept money and keep coming back for more as nothing would really change.

Would you genuinely watch your parents and siblings struggle for money and work multiple jobs to make ends meet whilst you live like a King?! That's actually quite fucked up. Sorry

Expecting money from someone inheriting is off the scale entitlement.

As if believing yourself entitled to a handout isn’t.

Spending £300k on a house and a new car is hardly a stunning example of profligacy tbh. What you perceive to be rubbing it in is quite possibly her just sharing details about her life.

Wow! And she hasn't given you single penny? Not even your parents?

That's off the scale selfishness.

There are many millionaires outside of your sister, she's just in closer proximity.

Focus on aggressively improving your finances, like you would even if you didn't have a rich sister

Drop them £5k... and when it is gone they come back and ask for more.
Not saying that would happen with OP's family, but some people treat others like an overdraft.

It doesn't matter if this thread is true, the posters have answered honestly. Only on here could £10 million not be enough to drop your parents and two siblings £5k each (to not interfere with any benefits).

Agreed. Sorry I fell for it

Not just the parent either. The family of OP's ex could well be gunning for some money too.
Inheritance can bring out the worst in people.
A will leaves money to a specific person. But when it comes down to it, some people just do not respect that at all.
My sister married a man who is set to inherit £millions when his parents die. I am on UC. On no planet am I going to think of putting my hand out, or even hint about it getting anything whatsoever. I have only met his parents once, and that was at their wedding.

@tinyspiny Yes, I think I’d have to as well assuming that they have a good relationship.
She doesn’t sound as if she’d notice that your parents are finding it tight with the increasing COL so you’d need to be direct- “ Sis, Mum and Dad are finding it harder to cover everything as bills keep increasing-can you help them out abit ?”

I don’t thinking hints are going to be effective with her, you need to make it clear!

I have a close friend IRL who came into money unexpectedly and they decided to make one-time gifts to their immediate family. They paid off their parent’s mortgage, for example, and gave their brother a cash gift. They made it clear that was it though and it worked. No one has asked for more. I think I’d do the same.

Absolutely I’d be comfortable. The money would be my children’s and I’d be the custodian of it. It’s not a personal lottery win. And if my sister thought she was entitled to my children’s inheritance I’d think she had a screw loose. And in this case it’s not just the sister, it’s the parents too. How many people are the children expected to support?

Do you think she could be thinking of gifting money at Xmas? How much time was there between the bereavement and inheriting the money?