Sister has inherited huge wealth. Help

You need to warn your sister that 'Rachel's gonna get her' unless she is more discrete.

Obviously the right thing to do would be to give it all to the Cats Protection.

It sounds like she’s going to blow through it all and fast. Has she already helped you? There has to be a stopping point if she has but it’s also not her responsibility if you’re struggling.

Me too. It always includes making sure my siblings and their families are sorted. (Not that I do the lottery much, got fed up with never winning 😭).

Well isn't she a charmer.

Edited: ah yes a spouse would be a difficult thing.

If the inheritance is due to her husband dying, honestly I think you need to cut her a bit of slack for being self absorbed.
Also, if im going to be totally honest, it would depend on why my family were struggling for money on if id give them any. I wouldnt give a financially reckless sibling any money, nor would I give any to parents who had been stingy as hell their entire lives or had favoured siblings over me. Not saying thats the case here, but its not always as cut and dried.

Get a grip sis, you couldn't stand Dave anyway.

You could say, so sis are you going to do something nice for mum and dad?

I think that’s a perfectly acceptable question to ask your sister. It may make her realise she’s not being very thoughtful.

Spouse i expect

I am not anticipating ever coming into any money, but on the rare occasion that I purchase a lottery ticket, I will fantasize about what I would do if I win the money. My fantasy always includes paying off my brother and sister-in-law's mortgage, paying off my best friend's mortgage, putting money in trust for my kids and my nieces and nephew.

Obviously it would depend on the amount, but for context the current Mega Millions jackpot in the US is $843 million.

This happened with my sister.

She had shares in a company that were acquired and she became a multimillionaire overnight.

With is came epic obnoxiousness and entitlement like I've never seen. She keeps inviting me to holiday on her boat or in her Spanish property but you couldn't pay me to go. She spent 15k on a motorcycle even though she hasn't ever ridden one or expressed interest in one. I challenged her and she said "it's all relative, when you have millions 15k is nothing".

It has utterly changed her and her behaviour is so intolerable that I just hardly ever see her anymore.

Assuming it’s from the sister’s partner/partners family rather than within their and OP’s own.

Maybe it’s from a friend or partner of her own rather than a mutual relative.

Yes and she might be spending for the short term buzz to cope with her feelings of loss or trauma. It really depends on why she had come into so much money

Ask her if she knows the story of Viv Nicholson.

Viv and her DH won £152,319 on the pools in 1961 (around £4.6mil in today’s money)
and she spent the lot.
went to her grave poor as the day she was born. Left nothing

@Bruisername Thanks, I knew it was something like that. In these circs, it is definitely wealth if its multi millions and it's not doing much whispering.

Probably her husband died

Could you try reminding yourself that the inheritance came because of who she lost and she'd probably rather have the person than the money?

It's going to be hard to reconcile your two lifestyles.

You and your parents struggling while she spends money like water.

Of course all her chat is probably going to be about her lifestyle and what she is doing. And that is probably going to make you feel awful.

Not sure what the solution is. Probably at some point you will need to talk to here and explain how difficult it is for you. Unless she lacks empathy completely she should understand this. However the fact that she is not being more discreet currently maybe suggests that she won't.

What sort of person has she been it the past before the new found wealth ? Caring, understanding of other peoples needs ?

nah, this is vile behaviour. Swerve her

How come one sister has inherited millions and the other two sisters nothing?

I think it’s ’money Talks, wealth whispers’

That's a challenge. If she inherited for sad reasons (I mean there is not normally good reasons) try to focus on what she has lost rather than what she has gained?

But personally, I would probably just tell her to read the room, and point out the rest of her family don't have 2 pennies to rub together so can she please stop. But that does depend on a) why she inherited and b) on yours and her relationship.

What did she buy, a Lamborghini?

I agree with @5128gap, ask her for some money. Certainly ask her to give some money to your parents. Win win.

I can't imagine having multi millions and not helping my immediate family , especially parents ! I don't blame you for feeling this way . She's an insensitive person for telling you her extravagant purchases . I wonder if the reckless spending is an attempt to Gome to terms with her loss.

I expect the spending is her grief response. If her spouse she’s probably thinking there’s. I point not spending it as you could die with it sitting in the bank

perhaps sit her down and express concern at her profligacy and how she is deep down.

if no issues just say that you’re pleased she can enjoy life and you like seeing her happy but give your difficult financial position it makes you uncomfortable talking about her expenditure