Sister has inherited huge wealth. Help

Agreed its not frivolous.
But I couldn't spend like that whilst my sister struggles working 2 jobs, looks after our elderly parents and helps me out when I'm stuck for nothing without trying to help her out a bit.
OP said her sister's partner wasn't a nice man sounds like he and her sister were well suited.

Possibly working 2 jobs, helping her elderly parents and now rich sister for nothing is eating her up?

I would be over the moon for my sister and I wouldn’t have to ask for a penny she will give me regardless I hope she gives you some but if she doesn’t that’s ok teach yourself to be happy for her I know it will be hard but envy will eat you up otherwise .

£300k on a holiday home and a car is not ‘blowing it’ by any stretch of the imagination.

For all we know she’s allowed herself a certain amount to spend/invest, and is saying the vast majority for the children she shared with her ex.

Which is actually not that much for a new car and a holiday home. I'm sure she could have spent twice that without trying hard, and several things mes that if she'd wanted to.
Which makes me suspect that the "flashing money" around is nothing like the impression given.

And the OP thinks that's spending frivolously? The car might have been an average family car? And 300k on a holiday home home or abroad doesn't buy you much these days. How's that spending frivolously? As I said, she's not telling the entire truth. People are quick to jump to conclusions and start hating on someone they know nothing about, or have never met. I always reserve judgement until ive spoken to the other party. This story doesn't add up. When she originally posted, it was very strongly worded and made it sound like the sister has spent the £300k frivolously. It looks like she's now slowly dripping feeding the facts.

Its very clear from the OP that on the day she spent £300k she bought a car AND a holiday home.

Thank you. Someone who thinks like me. There's too much exaggeration to the story. First of all £300k car? The OP has no grasp of reality. I feel for her but I think the sister might have had enough of supporting people who had no intention to better themselves so she gave up? And she's coming on mumsnet to bemoan the fact that the sister is boasting. I don't believe any of it. Those of you who are feeding the op ego, shame on you for not seeing this story for what it is

It would be interesting to get the sister's side of the story. Has it occurred to you that people have the tendency to exaggerate? And would narrate an event based on their perspective. Believe you me, from my experience, no human being would neglect their family after coming across such vast amount of money. Doesn't make make sense, there's more to the story. And do you actually believe they story about a £300k car? Cummon! There's too many issues with op s statement that I would say it's an exaggeration of the facts. Believe you me, I have worked with individuals like that and what I found was, I got to dig deeper, it was often the case that the person making the complaint was the one with issues. Unfortunately majority of people come on mumsnet to seek advice re: issues but they fail to state the facts or they often narrate a story based on their point of view. You are not likely to receive correct advice when you do that

Whilst I understand your sentiments- if the OP is raising kids, working 2 jobs, helping her elderly parents and helping her rich sister with odd jobs fir nothing then I'm not sure when she has time to better herself.
She doesn't want money but I expect she also doesn't want to hear about her sisters £300k sports car and holiday home as she gets ready for her second job.
£300k is 10 years salary to many people.
Sister doesn't have to give anybody anything but she doesn't get to lord it and upset ordinary people just because she's a millionaire. I'd be distancing myself from her - to protect myself and my children.
Life isn't fair and we have to accept that but its hard when you're the one struggling and getting the unfair deal.

There must be more to this. Any loving family member would share some of it with you.

I’d have self combusted with jealousy. I freely admit it

Hi op this is a horrible situation because she could be like oh jealousy is not a good look on you. I would just smile say lovely and move on if she’s selfish with money she’s not likely to give you any but never say never! once the novelty wears off having bought all the things she can she might change right now she might just be so glad he’s dead and she can afford to waste his money. If it gets too much in a few months just say it’s great you’re a multimillionaire but some of us are struggling to make ends meet maybe less gloating to us would be nice.

Is your sister meghan markle ?

If she's spending 300k a day she'll run out of money, not this year but maybe in 5 years from now or 3 or 2,
You're right to feel the way you do, 300k shared between you and your family would of been life changing.
We read about lottery winners who burn through it all due to lack of control and no financial intellect, wealth is an energy a frequency and being tight or ungenerous is a low vibe, it will naturally disperse and she better hope her family are still there when she's burnt out.
Be glad your were born the one with a heart and not the one thats an asshole.

I hope she wakes up though.

Ops mortgage free though. What help does she really need.

If they are struggling with two adults working and no mortgage so better off than most they have racked up some serious debts on credit cards and such.

Not also sensible to pay those off for people. It’s not like ops roof over her head is at risk it’s paid out.

Whilst it’s her money to do what she wants with, I can’t imagine having millions and not helping out my family.

Where did I say she was entitled to her sister’s money? You quoted me saying she shouldn’t feign being excited about the things her sister has bought, and shouldn’t do work for her sister anymore that she’s not even grateful for, because she can afford to pay for someone to do the gardening etc.

It’s just an explanation for her behaviour- and it doesn’t entitle her to her sisters money

Also @Amy8 it's not “someone you love” - op has said they were separated and he wasn’t a nice man so op’s sister was actually happy he’d died.

So?
Why does that mean op should have to feign being impressed by her latest purchase?
Why does that mean op should carry on helping her out with gardening that she can now afford to pay someone for?

I think in CofL & times where people feeling pinch disparities felt much more keenly. Where there’s a Will there’s a family, as they say. Bereavement, even if estranged, means people need some slack cut.

Poverty??

The OP lives in a home owned outright as the mortgage has been paid off.........

That's Poverty is it??

when someone you love dies - you aren’t necessarily thinking about others first

Honestly - if she’s grieving it would be awful to lose her sister too

I’ve had this as a widow. It wasn’t millions but enough to pay towards mortgage

the jealousy was unreal from family and friends - who weren’t struggling

It’s a hard one but she is in a grief response - she will calm down, try having a conversation with her , please don’t swerve or leave her

i had that and miss my friends so much