Sister has inherited huge wealth. Help

Is this going to be one of those posts where every answer is made to make the sister even worse.

well maybe she’s grieving. Definitely not THEY hated him.

used to a rich live style. Oh no he hid the money

We get it you’re jealous. You can say you don’t want the money all you want but you clearly do.

Her and her child are celebrating the monster being dead and enjoying spending their money from the monster husband and father.

Just stop being their sounding board. It’s only you it’s hurting not her or her happy child.

I’ll assume the child is a teen to be happy their dad’s dead. More than old enough to let mum know their thoughts in that lovely stroppy teenage way.

Clearly it depends on the individual.

It sounds as though there will be plenty left over.

Id be brutally honest. Tell her you’re all struggling and her flaunting it is making you all resent her.

Have you considered taking out a life insurance policy for her with you as the beneficiary?

Just be less available.. By the sounds of it she won't be rich for long.
I always thought I and a half decent relationship with my df until he Won Big. He walked away. Yet again... Was fuming he'd done to my dc what he did to me though.

That's what I think too.

It's actually quite unmaternal.

Sorry but what sort of person inherits life changing money and watches their parents and siblings struggle?!

I would absolutely say something along the lines of ‘ you know I’m really happy for you, but had it occurred to you that me and our parents are struggling and you could make all of our life’s easier and that would mean so much’

Selfish cow!

Wow, so she is spending her child's inheritance?

Well he could have left his estate in a more vindictive way.

And why a will is so important if split up !

well she is very lucky to inherit so much money and not feel grief over the ex

all the money in the world wouldn’t have been enough for me when dh died

you need to say to her that it’s amazing she has this money so that she can now help out her loved ones - ie hint about parents and hopefully she will reliese you need some help

as brisk as sounds how much would you be happy with ? To make your life easier

Equally the money will run out one day if she keeps spending £300k a day

To what purpose?

Surely she was living a pretty nice lifestyle when they were together and even when separated?

It might be worth saying something like -

"If you're going to live as long as Mum and Dad you might want to set yourself an annual limit on your spending otherwise you won't have anything left for your own old age."

Just go no contact with her. She sounds really thick skinned and selfish. £300k in a day. Now that is quite a lot.

Perhaps rather than say anything try replacing the "oo"s and "aa"s with "very nice" as your stock response before promptly changing the subject. Eventually, she might get the hint!

"It is your money and you are entitled to spend it as you please, but we are all struggling, stressed, exhausted and I just don't want to hear about it, it is making me feel worse, I am sorry."

Wow. All well and good if your family are on a par with you financially, but if you were aware that they were struggling to make ends meet, would it still not occur to you that your family might really appreciate some help from you if you could give it?

So they are celebrating spending his money.

Glad to know the child’s happy about it.

I wouldn’t want her rubbing my nose in it and can understand your annoyance with her behaviour
But taking what is fundamentally her child’s inheritance from his/her father wouldn’t sit AT ALL well with me either. Not from the mother, but equally not from you, your siblings or your parents
That aside, presumably she would have stood to gain a shed load of cash in divorce too?

Hmm. If she's bought a holiday home she is investing it for DC....

I bought a sports car not long after DH died. I didn't get rich, but he left me comfortable, and realising how short life is, I decided to enjoy some of it.

TBH it's never occurred to me that my family would want me to help them.

Not so sad that she's rocking in a chair at home crying her eyes out is it? She's spending as she goes without a care in the world.

I accept that it could be PTSD alleviation or similar, so hopefully when the dust settles and the grief recedes somewhat she will help out. Unless it's all gone by then.

The thing is, she did the equivalent of 'marrying well' which wouldn't entitle you or your parents to any of her money. However, now you've shared the circumstances I don't see why you should be expected to applaud her spending. I'd just ask her to be a bit more tactful when it comes to talking about money.

I understand this in normal circumstances (ie; without the child in the picture) but actually I think that isn't really on here.

Happenstance has it in the OP's name, but if I was the child and found my separated DM had sprinkled my deceased father's money around her "doing good at top speed". I'd actually feel that was sort of misappropriating it.

Presumably it has come to her either because he hadn't had time to change his will to leave it directly for the child, or because he needed her in a position to give the child a good life if something happened to him.