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Sister has inherited huge wealth. Help

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Hidinginthelootoo · 06/11/2025 16:09

My sister has inherited huge wealth... multi millions. Through sad circumstances.
Myself, my younger sister and our parents are all struggling money wise, due to poor pay (work two jobs to try to help), sister is divorce, parents just pensioners. I am trying so hard to be happy for her as she spends spends spends, one day she spent £300k! I try to oo and aa over what she buys, but I'm dying inside and drowning at home. Please help me be more positive, or explain nicely how it's making me feel without ruining our relationship.

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honeyrider · 06/11/2025 17:59

Horsie · 06/11/2025 17:56

Nice!! What on? Am hoping jewellery....

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A holiday home and a car.

Horsie · 06/11/2025 17:56

WallaceinAnderland · 06/11/2025 16:43

I once spent over £300k in one day too.

Nice!! What on? Am hoping jewellery....

Fridgemanageress · 06/11/2025 17:54

Hidinginthelootoo · 06/11/2025 17:01

The child will never struggle with money, neither will their children. It's that kind of money.

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No amount of money can’t be spent. it goes exceptionally quick. The old adage of “a fool and his/her money …

Horsie · 06/11/2025 17:48

I cannot imagine inheriting multimillions and not helping out my family. It's unfathomable to me. I'd probably even give some to my cousins as well, and to friends if they were struggling. But not everyone feels that way, not by a long shot. We sometimes hear of stars who have multimillions and never help out their families.

Calliopespa · 06/11/2025 17:47

Hidinginthelootoo · 06/11/2025 17:35

As per my first message, I'm not expecting money. Just wish she could be a bit more aware of feelings.

Yes I can agree with that.

She just seems to have awareness difficulties generally, so try not to take it personally.

Aintnosunshinenowitsgone · 06/11/2025 17:43

Hidinginthelootoo · 06/11/2025 17:01

The child will never struggle with money, neither will their children. It's that kind of money.

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really and she managed a car and a house for £300k. Hmm not that blowing it then

CloudyYellow · 06/11/2025 17:43

I had a friend that inherited a lot of money. She talked about money non-stop and her favourite expression was "throw money at it".

She made my skin crawl.

imnothavingagoodtime · 06/11/2025 17:42

MuttNutty · 06/11/2025 17:36

The absolute BEST thing about suddenly coming into millions would be to spread the joy. God I dream about being able to help family and friends. Pay off mortgages… Treat people to
holidays... sigh.

Your sister is thoughtless at best and downright unpleasant at worst.

Omg same! I worry about being able to include everyone as I have a big family. What is the point in having millions of those you love are struggling?!

tuvamoodyson · 06/11/2025 17:41

tuvamoodyson · 06/11/2025 17:39

Compensation?

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Sorry! Just seen the full thread…

SeaUrchinEgg · 06/11/2025 17:40

imnothavingagoodtime · 06/11/2025 17:24

Sorry but what sort of person inherits life changing money and watches their parents and siblings struggle?!

I would absolutely say something along the lines of ‘ you know I’m really happy for you, but had it occurred to you that me and our parents are struggling and you could make all of our life’s easier and that would mean so much’

Selfish cow!

If my husband died and left me a lot of money it wouldn’t occur to me to give it to my parents and siblings. That money would be for our children. The sister may be crass to show off to struggling relatives, that’s not good behaviour, but what sort of grandparent would expect money from their grandchildren’s inheritance? That’s hugely greedy and entitled

PruthePrune · 06/11/2025 17:40

" Look sis, I'm struggling financially at moment so you going on about how much you are spreading is not helping. I don't want to know so please don't tell me what you are buying".

tuvamoodyson · 06/11/2025 17:39

MimiGC · 06/11/2025 16:24

How come one sister has inherited millions and the other two sisters nothing?

Compensation?

CosySeason · 06/11/2025 17:37

MuttNutty · 06/11/2025 17:36

The absolute BEST thing about suddenly coming into millions would be to spread the joy. God I dream about being able to help family and friends. Pay off mortgages… Treat people to
holidays... sigh.

Your sister is thoughtless at best and downright unpleasant at worst.

Where do you draw a line? She might have already helped out.

BettysRoasties · 06/11/2025 17:37

CosySeason · 06/11/2025 17:36

I think people are being unfair saying money goes to the wrong type. Maybe the £300k went on a house.

It did a holiday home and a car.

CosySeason · 06/11/2025 17:36

I think people are being unfair saying money goes to the wrong type. Maybe the £300k went on a house.

MuttNutty · 06/11/2025 17:36

The absolute BEST thing about suddenly coming into millions would be to spread the joy. God I dream about being able to help family and friends. Pay off mortgages… Treat people to
holidays... sigh.

Your sister is thoughtless at best and downright unpleasant at worst.

Keytoken · 06/11/2025 17:36

It sounds to me that her and her children have had a rough time with this man and are now enjoying spending some of this wealth.

Some of it might be frittered for fun, but things like a holiday home are for the benefit of the children now and in the future.

If you need the help that badly you should ask, but I wouldn't expect any adult relative of mine to accept an inheritance that belonged to me and my DC.

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Hidinginthelootoo · 06/11/2025 17:35

As per my first message, I'm not expecting money. Just wish she could be a bit more aware of feelings.

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Mollydoggerson · 06/11/2025 17:33

She earned it by living with an ogre!!

Just tell her, I m delighted you are so financially secure, however please remember most of the family are really scrimping to get by and will be for the rest of our days. We all need to be considerate to each others worries.

TBF : she can't really spend it on her own family, the ogre s child would resent the inheritance being divided out between the maternal family. She has to spend/invest. Good for her, stay friendly, you might get to use the holiday home.

SeaUrchinEgg · 06/11/2025 17:32

Hidinginthelootoo · 06/11/2025 16:55

Its from a separated from but not divorced partner who died. They had separated but shared a child, but never got round to changing will. no other girlfriend/spouse on the scene. Not grief, they separated for a reason.

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When her husband died he wouldn’t have expected his inheritance to go to his wife’s parents and siblings, no matter what their circumstances. If he’d been that bothered he’d have changed his will but as it is, you’re not entitled to any of that money. It’s for her and her children

Heretone · 06/11/2025 17:32

Her wealth doesn’t make you any poorer.

Having said that, I’d find it hard watch that level of selfishness. I’d have to start distancing myself from her and any updates on her life and expenditures. Purely as an act of self preservation.

Calliopespa · 06/11/2025 17:31

I'm going to be brutally honest op: you all sound like vultures.

It should be being invested to provide a comfortable life for the child, then what is left over goes to the child. That's what would happen if they were still married: no-one would see it as community funds.

The fact she was separated makes it even worse for her to divert them to her own use.

There was no real relationship between her and the deceased at the end. She is a mother with a child whose father died.

ETA by the sound of it, none of you even liked him. He's being bad-mouthed even in death.

67854568G · 06/11/2025 17:30

ThatCyanCat · 06/11/2025 17:29

A truly superior individual would be both intelligent and empathic enough to understand why OP feels this way, appreciate it would be a common feeling, and not insult and sneer at her for it.

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🙃 I bow to your total superiority

Doobedobe · 06/11/2025 17:30

It sounds luke she needs a financial advisor and quick. I would be more concerned for her losing the lot than anything else.

ThatCyanCat · 06/11/2025 17:29

67854568G · 06/11/2025 17:27

Clearly it depends on the individual.

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A truly superior individual would be both intelligent and empathic enough to understand why OP feels this way, appreciate it would be a common feeling, and not insult and sneer at her for it.

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