Sister has inherited huge wealth. Help

Another post not to be believed!

Then I'm afraid she can pay for diy/gardening help. She's taking the absolute piss if she's asking you to do stuff for her. I think she can source paid help! Not even a coffee? Is she really that unaware? I find this unbelievable.

Tell her to read the room! And tell her you don't want to talk about what she's spending her money on.

She's splashing cash and gloating about her spending while you're working yourselves to the bone just to live. You don't have to be happy about it, it is rubbing salt in the wound.

I agree the sister is being thoughtless and crass flashing it.

In her situation I'd have made a simple comment that I'd had enough put in my name from the Will to look after the child to the standard his father had been able to, and that I felt a duty to leave the balance to the child in my own Will.

To me that's what the spirit of the bequest most likely was.

OP what is your Dsis' independent source of income besides this? (Sorry if I missed it)

Just to add my cousin inherited £2m+ last year. She lives in a house of the same value and has given family nothing.
Her choice but the stories of being worried about bills give me the pip.
COL is not really an issue for her but I hear about her hoarded funds weekly. She's 72 the DH 75.i think it's enough!

OP with £10m on deposit your sister will get at least £500,000 in interest each year at Coutts. No need to work or be mean.

Sorry if it’s been said already, but is she performatively spending in case any of her DH’s relatives come along to contest the will and try to take a share?
Was she previously generous at Christmas OP?
Is there any chance she is quietly getting the legal work in place so she can give you and/or your parents a windfall as a surprise Christmas gift?

Middle management and his investments were worth £10 million - who's the financial advisor.

You should concentrate on your own life and not fuss over someone else's money. You'd be taking that money from her child. Jealousy is always unpleasant.

If you dont "ooh and aah" over what she is buying she'll stop talking as much about it.

I think it's very selfish of her to be a multimillionaire and watch her family struggle. I couldn't do that. So I can't think of any words that would make you feel better about it.

Thats awful after she was her carer!

Wait you have no mortgage? You’re in a much better position than so many with young children still. How are you scrimping when you have no mortgage or rent.

So he was in middle management, had a few lucky investments which he kept secret and ended up with well over £10m. That's amazing.

I have a friend who had nothing at all when her mum died. Her mum left her car, house and money... everything, to the other sister. My friend was actually a carer for her mum, so it really hurt her to be cut out like that.

Fair enough. I actually forgot the original post 😄- but I hope it works out . All sisters (myself included) have different realtionships ..

You can be envious of someone and also not expect them to give you anything.

Feeling envy and asking someone to be more aware of others feelings and situations is not being a vulture. But flashing the cash in the faces of those far less well off than you to the point of struggling is tactless, thoughtless and crass.

It can happen. My grandparents left all their money and their house to their favourite child (my uncle) and nothing to any of the others.

I'd help my parents and siblings financially if I inherited millions. Especially if they were struggling. I find it odd that she hasn't.

I mean op did say it was a holiday home and a sports car.

With poor financial planning it’s very easy to burn through even multi millions, I hope she is being sensible too.
Ideally she’d share some with your family or set up some kind of trust for you, but it is ultimately her money.
If she’s not up for sharing, could you suggest she does something that benefits your family without handing over cash. Eg buying a house you live in, or paying for you to retrain to earn more for example?
It’s a hard situation.

BS! you are jealous you are not getting a bit of this pie.

You and your sister are vultures.

The money doesn't belong to either of you.

It is just that she is showing off to her family that she knows don't have much . Im the type of person (probably an idiot) that would never ask my family for money, but would give it to them if I had it- and certainly not spend 300k in a day , unless its a house 😄

Yes, I agree with that - but I feel the great likelihood is that that means it is there at some point - not given away!

I'm just surprised the extent to which people feel this inheritance should be spent like a lottery windfall.

Why can’t you tell us how much money she has approximately inherited? Is she ultra high net worth? Investible assets of 25 million plus. To many 1-2 mil is generationally life changing.

How do you deduct that? OP hasn't mentioned what the child was left.

You would be surprised how quicly people can burn through substantial sums of money. Next time she's telling you about her spendings ask her to google about lottery winners and how the many have nothing left after a short few years.

She's had her splurge, she really needs to see a financial planner before she's wasted the rest of it.