Sister has inherited huge wealth. Help

How could she possibly be happy sitting on all that money - or spending it like it’s going out of fashion - knowing her family are struggling. I just couldn’t.

Yes I thought that too - and actually 300k isn't a particularly flashy holiday home.

I'm wondering if op meant she bought both a car and a property on the same day because if she meant just the property, there was not really an alternative but to spend it on one day.

Can’t disagree with any of that.

So direct that at the OP and her thread then? My comment was mere surprise that the figure is around the £10m mark, and that I don’t think it will last long, not sure why you’re trying to continue a non conversation with a totally different topic?

She sounds clueless about money, and if she’s spending at a rate of £300k it’ll soon all be gone.

If youre destitute I’d probably feel like I had to ask for some help, but be prepared for her to say no. It must be galling for you to witness this.

Kindly, £10m is not generational wealth if she’s spending it at the rate you have described. With that in mind, I’d be concerned about her burning through the money.

Could you just say to her: “really sorry to be a bit of a downer, but would you mind reigning in all the talk of money and spending for a bit? We are actually quite stretched financially and feeling stressed about it and it’s great that you are so happy but it’s beginning to feel like you’re running our noses in it a bit.”

She can blow through 10 million and be left with nothing if she isn’t smart. I would actually be worried about her and her children.

She needs to meet with a financial advisor. This is only generational wealth if the money is invested properly and they draw from those investments according to a plan.

Show her the history of lottery winners if necessary. There are countless examples of people who win big, think the money is infinite, and wind up with nothing.

I think she’s being extremely selfish and insensitive. Of course you’re not entitled to any money, but I could never keep that much money to myself if I knew my loved ones were struggling. I think you could at least ask her to stop rubbing your nose in it all the time.

Well clearly your sister has really been through the mill. Her relationship with her husband fell apart and then he died. Of course she would feel very sad over that. It was her ex and the father of her child. She will be carrying the weight of her child's grief too as well as the responsibility of raising their child. I think that you need to focus on the actuality for her. The grass is not always greener on the other side.

I think OP does want her sister to help her and the rest of the family with a financial gift, but may be trying hard not to think it. Really, that much money could help them all. Sister can do as she likes. It sounds like she'll spend it all stupidly anyway. OP needs to own her feelings, maybe outright ask sister to gift money to their parents to pay debt. Better to ask than just sit biting your tongue or silently judging.

The sister inherited due to her husband dying. Not the same as Premium Bonds at all.

Every month when the Premium Bond results are due I plan how I might share a big win with my family and what it might do to enhance their lives.

Your sister sounds very selfish and greedy.

She only has responsibility for your parents or her kids if they are not adults. She is not responsible for you or her siblings if you are adults and is doing you no favours by giving you money. Stop looking at what she spends and concentrate how you can improve your life, be grateful for what you have

That is true it’s like when people complain they are skint with 20/30k in savings. Or say they are poor with a mortgage free house and two mercs on the drive with multiple holidays aboard.

Neither are poor by millions of peoples standards in the uk. Not rich to some maybe but definitely not poor or struggling.

No mortgage or rent even in poor areas can be £500-£1,000 a month saving compared to genuinely poor struggling who have to pay that plus all the normal bills.

Especially as a shock & modest life before it seems & mid manager. Maybe some just invest wisely.

It is not OP's money though and therefore not her business.

10 million is a lot of assets hiding /good investments

While of course she has no legal obligation to share any money with her family, if someone inherits 10 million pounds and doesn't use any of it to support their struggling family then it does reflect poorly on them as a person.

From the tone of OPs post this isn’t a one off. Sounds like she’s being pretty frivolous, splashing the cash and not being concerned about the future or providing an income for her and for her child in the future, as I’m sure OP would not have any issue with. I stand by what I said.

But that’s your projection.

Op is allowed her own feelings on the matter… and many people would struggle to watch a sibling inherit millions and not go on to use ANY of it to help family.

So don't smile at her!

Whether or not she's got a pathological reason for not understanding peoples emotions, it doesn't change that she clearly doesn't or isn't in this scenario. Speak plainly to her.

OP said she spent £300k in one day. Not unheard of when someone buys a house. Her sister bought a holiday property and a car. She is not spending £300k everyday.

When you said she’s spending up to £300k a day, and that her child and her child’s child would never struggle for money I thought you meant at least £50m. Maybe more.

If she’s spending like that £10m will be pretty much gone in no time. Her child won’t see it other than any lasting assets like properties. That’s insane.

If someone gave me £10m now I’d be investing at least half of it. Pretty easy to crack through that amount these days on flashy cars and holidays.

Doesn't mean her sister, parents or anybody else should be hovering around muttering or gossiping that they deserve a nice wodge of the money she's received on the basis of having suffered at his hands for however long they did beforehand, though.