Sister has inherited huge wealth. Help

She isn't going to be rich for long.
But it's not your business and it's churlish to be jealous.

I imagine her spending it’s a grief response. You want to support your sister through the sadness (how you explained she got the money) but then you and your family don’t want to have to suffer in silence. Is she aware that everyone is struggling? I’d pull her aside, ask her how’s she’s coping etc and then tell her that the rest of the family are struggling financially and could she be more sensitive. If she wants to get rid of the money feel free to help parents/ family.

Try having a quiet word with her explaining that while you're pleased she's sorted financially for life, you & the rest of the family aren't & it's a bit thoughtless of her to be flashing the cash when you're all just getting by. Say you don't want her to feel bad but to tone it down around you & your parents s she's coming across as being uncaring of others.

Is that the What3Words for your local off licence/drug dealer?

"It's all lies! She's probably a junkie or alcoholic that the sister has gotten fed up of helping so she goes around trashing her name. That's the attitude junkies have. Common people!"

Did you use a vaulting pole to make that leap @ByCandidRobin?

The way you talk about people with addiction issues is absolutely grim.

Can you really not see any scenario where the ops dsis's ex couldn't have had businesses or investments take off after they split? We don't know how long they were together or how long ago they seperated. It's unusual, yes, but not impossible.

That’s not sad circumstances…..

Bye, hater. Lol

OK you're not making any sense- so either you're drunk or high 🙄
Have a nice evening....

🤣🤣🤣🤣 you guys need help. Try and find some happiness in your life instead of hating on others. The world does not owe anyone, feel pity for people like this. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

OK explain hater 🙄

If she's not an addict of some kind she's just a damn good liar then! Too many discrepancies in the story and non of it add up. If you can't see that you are probably just a hater by nature

You think the OP is a junkie? Amazing!
Some people treat family like shit get over it....

I think OP said that it was her sister's ex (sepaated not divorced) who had been abusive who had died, so it was no longer someone her sister loved.

Spending £300k on a house and car isn’t ’blowing through it’. That’s actually a very conservative amount for both.

The child will struggle with money because his mum’s going to blow his inheritance. It’s sad.

I might actually take as much time to process it if the relationship had been complicated.

Hard to believe that anyone could behave like this.

It still doesn't mean that she doesn't need time to process this change in her life and what it means for her and her child.

Do you know how investments work or are you venting?

you said it was gained on the basis of sad circumstances- you do realise she’s probably spending as a coping mechanism. As a way to sort of ‘buy’ happiness. I hate when people play the sympathy card of ‘I’m so poor but they won’t help me’, because where does that person draw the line with helping? If they give all their money away to those in need then they won’t have it for themselves. They’ll help you once then continue to helping and you’ll rely on that. Money and family is complex and I think they’re being sensible

Referencing the money is not the same thing as showing it off. Hell, simply being seen driving the car can be perceived as ‘flaunting’ by someone inclined to see it that way.

The fact of the matter remains that her original post painted her sister as being frivolous with money. And she didn't state how much her sister had inherited. She's since added that her sister had spent £300k but on a holiday home and a car and that her sister had indeed inherited £10 million pounds. Believe you me, if anyone comes accroass £10 million pounds, they wouldn't spend £300k of it on holiday home. A decent holiday home for a millionaire costs far more than that! £300k holiday home doesn't get you very much either here or abroad. Unless she's just making these figures up as she goes along or her sister is not the person she's painted her to me. The more I read about the information she's posted, the more i'm starting to believe that she's actually the nasty one between the 2 of them. She needs to get a grasp of reality. For her sister to inherit £10 million pounds, it suggests that the the deceased husband would have left about £20 million pounds when you take into account inheritance tax etc that has to be paid plus the children's share of the money. Believe you me, not a lot of people living in this country have that sort of money. They are usually past down via trust funds etc. Not left in cash for someone to inherit. This story is just bullocks! Another thing that comes to mind, the sister if married to a multi millionaire, would have been living a millionaire lifestyle anyway prior to the husband's death. OP only talks about her attitude after the husband's death but nothing about her attitude whilst living and married to a multi millionaire. Nothing adds up. Had OP said her sister had won the euro millions and refused to help the family, that would be more believable. Common people, see into the lies! This OP is the one with issues. No one works 2 jobs and have time to look after their family as well as an elderly mother. It's all lies! She's probably a junkie or alcoholic that the sister has gotten fed up of helping so she goes around trashing her name. That's the attitude junkies have. Common people!

I understand that, I was trying to point out that sister is not so thick to be completely unaware it's grating. We would all know surely?

Personally I wouldn't ask her to stop because I'd assume she already knows she's being insensitive.

All the OP wants is for her sister to stop showing off her money to those in her close family less fortunate than herself.
Not to much to ask really.

Honestly if my sister got 10million handed to her and DIDNT offer to give me a few quid I would think she is a miserable swine. She wouldnt do it though and nor would I, it is as simple as that. The fact shes being all showy about it too would leave a bitter taste in my mouth. 10grand yeah do what you like but 10 mill? You would have to be a horrible fucker not to help out your family.