Does anyone else miss their first boyfriend?

No, I never missed my first boyfriend. I made a bad choice in dating him and it was not a good relationship. It could have been worse, but I was relieved the relationship was over.

No. I have a 25 year old DS to remember him by

I am not sure it's about the actual person. I think it's more about being younger no responsibility and the ability to be carefree
I think bring married and having kids can be a bit scary and so we look back and conjure up the cosy memories

I went to the funeral of a friend from my teens earlier this year. BF1 and BF2 (both platonic relationships) were also there as they had gone to school with the deceased.

I sometimes miss the few good times we had and feel a general nostalgia for that time in my life (late teens), but I don’t miss HIM, no. He was a narcissist who went on to hurt me in various ways. That was 30 plus years ago though!
I did have a very passionate crush in my early twenties on a guy I had chemistry with and we had a cheeky kiss once, but he had a girlfriend. I think about him from time to time, probably more than my first boyfriend, but I wouldn’t say I miss him either.
Happily married for 13 years.

Yep, he's been working away this week. I've missed him loads. He'll be home tomorrow. Can't wait.

I think first loves stay with you forever, but you only remember the best bits. And then you probably didn’t have to deal with the hard work of life like mortgages, office politics, children or ill health.

No I'm glad he's doing well , as he probably worked hard for it .
And I don't think it's healthy to be gutted , after all I was the dumper and at 17 who knows how it would have gone !

I get angry when I think about my first boyfriend. What the hell was I thinking? How could he have treated me like that? Why did I stick around?

I often think about exes. Fond memories that they are a part of. I also think of the person I was with them, I miss her too! I think its quite normal to do this.

I do know what you mean. My son (20) recently split up with his first serious girlfriend after 2 years. He's gutted and though I know it's something he has to work through, it brought back very strong memories of my first serious relationship coming to an end. I think first love is usually so resonant because you're having all those feelings and experiences for the first time.

It was decades ago but he does pop into my head now and again, and it's strange how sharp my memory is. The boyfriends I had between him and my husband are a bit of a blur and I don't remember them or think about them the same way at all, in fact barely at all.

He wasn't my first "boyfriend" though. The first lad I dated (chastely) and thought was wonderful for a few weeks was a total pillock! Those memories are not resonant!

First boyfriend was 16-18 and whilst he was ok as teen bfs go, I have never missed him. I've only missed one out of my exes - missed dreadfully. Then I met DH and don't miss even the one I pined for anymore.

God no. But I did really miss his parents. That was the relationship I grieved over.

I dont miss my first boyfriend.

Sometimes I wonder what if. Looking at his life on Instagram, it is what I would have wanted and looks so nice.

Then I remember there was a reason why we broke up.

No, even 45 years later I can still remember that he was rather pompous and boring! I would not have had a happy life with him.

Nope not really thought about him for years. Hes on my facebboknthough Mind you it was nearly 40 years ago.

I used to but not anymore as I can’t get worked up about relationships anymore. We broke up early 1980s but the sad thing is he was in fact the most decent guy I’ve had a relationship with. I was only about eighteen so if someone told me that there were no better fish in the sea (at least not the ones I ended up with) I would have been horrified. He’s obviously still a decent bloke as he’s been happily married for forty years.

@ReminiscingPineapple You're still relatively young and I suspect you miss the child free, single days more than you miss the mental health disaster that was your ex. You're longing for fun and to be carefree and associating all of that with your ex when it wasn't really about him, it was about youth and freedom.

You should probably start a thread about your marriage op, as that is clearly at the root of all this navel gazing

Yes but am very relieved we split up! Our paths have taken very different routes.

My DH and I are happily married with the odd hiccup when I dream about being single but never with my 1st love 🤣 I’ve been with DH since he was 17 😀

I hardly ever think about my first boyfriend but he regularly appears in my dreams. My marriage is a much much better relationship, I could never have been this happy with my ex. I probably dream about him so much because it was such a big time in my life. He was my uni romance so I think my dreams are more about that stage of my life rather than him.

From your description of his MH issues and the ups and downs it sounds like you’ve dodged a bullet with this first boyfriend.

I certainly don’t miss my first boyfriend. He was an abusive arsehole who destroyed every last shred of confidence I had.

My first serious love was from 25-33. We had a lot of really good times, and were very happy for a long time. We had an acrimonious breakup, but now I'm 50, I don't really bear him any ill will. Weirdly, he followed me on social media about a year ago (I'd bumped into his sister, who I still get along with, and she must have told him.) I tweet mainly professionally, as I'm in a job which relies on sharing a lot of events. Well, any 'thinking of him fondly' ended around then, as it turns out he's become a Reform supporter. and massive racist. Lovely.