My DD and I are very close, she is in her 20s and has had 3 long term relationships. The first one ended quite abruptly but she cried for about a week then went on with life. The next guy was lovely, genuinely adored DD but she broke up with him as she found him quite “boring”, the most recent guy though seems to be haunting her. They were together for almost 2 years, they broke up on New Year’s Eve so 10 months ago. They had broke up briefly before that in the summer and briefly in the summer before too. He was a nice enough guy but very flakey.
DD and him have maintained a very close friendship, he calls her after dates ffs! DD has been on dates since they broke up and has had 2 people she dated for a little while (about 6 weeks each then she decided they weren’t right for her), however she seems to be still not over her ex. This morning she called me a bit upset, I asked why and she told me she had a dream where she ran into him and he had a child with someone else. She’s admitted the thought of him with someone else makes her feel sick. She has also told me that she thinks it’s just because he doesn’t want her, in the case of both her exes prior to him it was either a mutual break up or she did it, this is the first time someone has broken up with her. I don’t think their friendship makes it any easier, they talk most days, tell each other about their dating life etc.
DD has already had therapy and stopped going after 4 months as she felt it wasn’t helping.
Shes been very honest with me and said she doesn’t see much point in dating right now as even if it’s good she ends it 6 weeks later and it’s always because she feels bad for not being over her ex.
DD is my only child and I got married to her dad at 21 and we are still together so I don’t have much experience in the world of heartbreak.
AIBU to be worried about this? 10 months feels like a long time to still be waking up crying about the thought of him with someone else?