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why do you wear a poppy?

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oiolehnvn · 06/11/2025 11:45

Lots of red poppies around us at the moment. Disclaimer I am not British but come from a country that is currently waging a war, in fact technically two countries that have been in the news for waging wars and have always been uncomfortable with people supporting or celebrating our army. I am therefore puzzled as to why the Brits wear poppies ever year. If you choose to wear one, what's your rationale? Equally, if you do not - what's yours?

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constantcycle · 06/11/2025 12:06

I wear a white poppy to remember all those lost during wartime, both civilians and military, and as a reminder that war is never the answer.

DinoLil · 06/11/2025 12:03

I wear it in memory of my grandad who was a Desert Rat in WWII.

Autumngirl5 · 06/11/2025 12:02

Wearing a poppy is not about celebrating war. I wear a poppy as a sign of remembrance for people who have been lost during wars. I come from a military family and have lost a family member to war. As others have pointed out, the money raised goes to support charities and I hope people continue to wear their poppies, support the poppy appeal and think about the enormous sacrifices people have made over the years to keep us and others safe.

FullOfMomsense · 06/11/2025 12:01

HelenaWaiting · 06/11/2025 11:52

The poppies are not to celebrate the army. They're to commemorate those who died in war and to raise money to support those with lifelong injuries.

I have answered your question but your tone is bordering on offensive and I'm not sure you have been as clever as you evidently believe in posting this.

This is why people don't ask questions and stay uneducated. The post wasn't even slightly offensive unless you want to be offended and look for reasons to accuse people. Ridiculous.

Newsenmum · 06/11/2025 12:00

Remembering all those poor soldiers who have died - often because they have been forced into war by corrupt leaders. Traditionally was remembering those in WW1&2

FairyBatman · 06/11/2025 12:00

The poppy remembers the sacrifice made by all of those, armed forces or not who have died in the pursuit of freedom.

it started as a symbol of remembrance for this who dies in the ‘Great War’ WW1 and has expended to be a symbol of remembrance for those involved in all conflicts.

Money raised goes to support ex-service personnel experiencing issues after their service.

StarlightRobot · 06/11/2025 11:59

If you are genuinely interested and not being goady… there is a good explanation here:

https://www.britishlegion.org.uk/get-involved/remembrance/the-poppy

I wear it to honour and remember those who have sacrificed for our freedoms and particularly in memory of the sacrifices made in WW1 and WW2.

All about the poppy | Remembrance | Royal British Legion

What is the inspiration and history behind the poppy becoming a symbol of Remembrance?

https://www.britishlegion.org.uk/get-involved/remembrance/the-poppy

BauhausOfEliott · 06/11/2025 11:56

HelenaWaiting · 06/11/2025 11:52

The poppies are not to celebrate the army. They're to commemorate those who died in war and to raise money to support those with lifelong injuries.

I have answered your question but your tone is bordering on offensive and I'm not sure you have been as clever as you evidently believe in posting this.

There's nothing even remotely offensive about the OP's question or tone. It's a reasonable and valid question from someone who isn't British and doesn't necessarily have experience of the whole context of the poppy and how its use has changed over the years.

BauhausOfEliott · 06/11/2025 11:54

Originally, the poppy wasn't about celebrating or supporting our army - it was a symbol of remembrance of the soldiers who had been killed and the money raised from selling poppies was to help soldiers who couldn't work after they'd been disabled by injury, and to support families who were left without a breadwinner.

It started after WW1 when most of the soldiers who died were conscripted, and had no choice in the matter. It had no connection to patriotism or celebration of the military, really.

Technically, that's supposed to be what it's still about - a respectful symbol of mourning for people who died through no fault of their own, in a war that we didn't start. But over recent years, that's been hijacked by people with different causes and motives - unfortunately. I don't like the direction the poppy symbol has gone in, and I don't wear one any more.

HelenaWaiting · 06/11/2025 11:52

The poppies are not to celebrate the army. They're to commemorate those who died in war and to raise money to support those with lifelong injuries.

I have answered your question but your tone is bordering on offensive and I'm not sure you have been as clever as you evidently believe in posting this.

Ablondiebutagoody · 06/11/2025 11:51

The usual reason. To remember those that gave their lives to protect us. I also go to the remembrance service at my local memorial, along with hundreds of others. It is very moving. The poppy money goes to a veterans charity.

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