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why do you wear a poppy?

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oiolehnvn · 06/11/2025 11:45

Lots of red poppies around us at the moment. Disclaimer I am not British but come from a country that is currently waging a war, in fact technically two countries that have been in the news for waging wars and have always been uncomfortable with people supporting or celebrating our army. I am therefore puzzled as to why the Brits wear poppies ever year. If you choose to wear one, what's your rationale? Equally, if you do not - what's yours?

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Fearfulsaints · 06/11/2025 13:14

Its a symbol of remembrance and hope for a peaceful future and it supports ex service people. I mainly buy one for the ex service element as I think we seem to treat veterans badly in this country.

I wear one to remember specificallt my great grandfather who died in ww1 and the lives of the men my grandfather served with in ww2. They were from commonwealth countries.

I dint care if someone where one or not. Its meant to be a personal choice and its fine to remember without one and its got oddly political recently. Its also fine to not remember at all.

Needmorelego · 06/11/2025 13:14

@oiolehnvn for WW1 and WW2 there was conscription. Men were called up regardless of what class they were.
Women were also called up for part of WW2.
Even the late Queen Elizabeth II did military service as an 18 year old.
After WW2 there was a brief period of National Service for men. Again it didn't matter what class you were. Your papers came and you went.

oustedbymymate · 06/11/2025 13:13

To remember those that gave everything so that I may have today. Simples.

HappyGolmore2 · 06/11/2025 13:12

Poppy fascism that should be!

HappyGolmore2 · 06/11/2025 13:12

oiolehnvn · 06/11/2025 11:45

Lots of red poppies around us at the moment. Disclaimer I am not British but come from a country that is currently waging a war, in fact technically two countries that have been in the news for waging wars and have always been uncomfortable with people supporting or celebrating our army. I am therefore puzzled as to why the Brits wear poppies ever year. If you choose to wear one, what's your rationale? Equally, if you do not - what's yours?

I can’t bear the poppy racism and I don’t give money to military charities, so I don’t wear a poppy.

rowanrome · 06/11/2025 13:11

To honour those who made the ultimate sacrifice, so I can live the life I live, in the country I love and with the freedom that I have. I also know that the money raised helps veterans.

Wanderdust · 06/11/2025 13:11

My brother used to be in the army and has fought abroad x

Giddykiddy · 06/11/2025 13:10

MermenHunters · 06/11/2025 12:07

I don’t wear one because I’m Irish and, while I also have relatives who fought in the British army, including two who died at the Somme, I am all too aware of atrocities committed by the same army. I don’t see how anyone who has been following the trial of ‘Soldier F’ , or who has the faintest understanding of 20thc Irish history, could not grasp that the poppy is a highly problematic symbol, or that its goal of supporting ex-service personnel isn’t a necessarily a matter of ‘helping heroes’.

Same- I find them jingoistic, much favoured by right wing brexiteers and I am anti war

Makingpeace · 06/11/2025 13:10

Lest we forgot

oiolehnvn · 06/11/2025 13:10

I am genuinely not being goady. In Russia, for example, it's definitely more of a class thing. It's the working classes who tend to go and join the army. Middle classes are much more against the army. The current Russian army fighting in Ukraine is largely composed of working class men - and in part they were sent there to fight the 'fascist'. So I was wondering whether it's similar in the UK.

I also live in a middle class area - and was responding to another person who said they dont see many people in their 30s wear it because where I live, they do. Thats all.

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Craftysue · 06/11/2025 13:07

To honour all those killed in wars . To remember members of my family who served including some who never came home. The money raised also goes to help veterans today

tsmainsqueeze · 06/11/2025 13:06

I'm not interested in the politics ,i wear my poppy with pride in memory of my lost family members and everyone who lost their lives .
I spare a thought too for the many animals who died.

TheFallenMadonna · 06/11/2025 13:06

I wear one on Remembrance Sunday and on 11 November, simply to remember people who have died fighting in war. I observe the silences. I don't like poppy policing or anything performative around remembrance, but I'm not privy to people's motivation and recognise that it is more immediately relevant to some than others.

SundaySunday3 · 06/11/2025 13:05

As a pacifist and member of the PPU, I wear a white poppy.
if you would like to commemorate all those killed in past war but also not fund future warfare & stand for peace, join the PPU ✌🏼

White poppies stand for three things.

🤍 Remembrance of all victims of war, including both civilians and members of the armed forces. We remember people of all nationalities. We remember those killed in wars happening now, as well as in the past. We also remember those who are often excluded from the mainstream, such as refugees and victims of colonial conflicts.

🤍Challenging war and militarism, as well as any attempt to glorify or celebrate war. White poppies encourage us to question the way war is normalised and justified. They remind us of the need to resist war and its causes today.

🤍 A commitment to peace and to seeking nonviolent solutions to conflict. By drawing attention to the devastating human cost of war, white poppies highlight the urgency of our ongoing struggle for peace.

Derpytiger · 06/11/2025 13:04

To remember and respect those who fought for us. My grandfathers both served. It is a mark of respect.

My family was not working class, we were poor. I hope that helps with your query about it being only something done in posh areas. I live in a deprived mining town, there is a remembrance service on Sunday where wreaths will be laid.

PractisingMyTelekenipsis · 06/11/2025 13:03

This has reminded me to try and find some coins before I go to the shop later.

I usually wear one to honour the men (and women) who fought so I could be free.

JudgeBread · 06/11/2025 13:03

I wear one because my great grandfather served, was a POW and came home completely traumatised. I've read his war diaries.

I wear one to remember all the people who suffered and sacrificed to keep their people safe. It's not about glorifying war, it's about celebrating and commemorating courage, sacrifice and service of your country and its people. It's a show of respect.

Nevernonono · 06/11/2025 13:03

HelenaWaiting · 06/11/2025 11:52

The poppies are not to celebrate the army. They're to commemorate those who died in war and to raise money to support those with lifelong injuries.

I have answered your question but your tone is bordering on offensive and I'm not sure you have been as clever as you evidently believe in posting this.

Bordering on offensive? How?

Needmorelego · 06/11/2025 13:02

I think less people wear poppies these days simply due to the logistics of getting one.
People used to get one from the sellers at the entrance to supermarkets or at railway stations etc.
These days people do supermarket home deliveries and work from home.
Smaller shops like newsagents are reluctant to have them because the collection boxes tend to get stolen (sad 🙁).
This doesn't mean they don't care though.

Pollqueen · 06/11/2025 13:02

Lest we forget. It's not in remembrance of war but remembrance of those who sacrificed their lives in war

Remembrance and gratitude

Luna6 · 06/11/2025 13:00

oiolehnvn · 06/11/2025 12:49

Is it a class thing? We live in a 'naice' area in London and lots of people seem to wear them.

No it is not a class thing. Families of all social classes lost their brothers, sons, fathers. Are you deliberately being ignorant and goady?

StarlightRobot · 06/11/2025 12:59

The OP is definitely being goady. No one thinks the poppy is a class thing or about ‘naice’ areas. The OP’s questions have already been answered in full.

I did enjoy reading posts from others about why they wear the poppy, however.

Empra123 · 06/11/2025 12:58

To remember my great uncle killed at El Alamein in 1943

TwistyTurnip · 06/11/2025 12:58

To add to my last post, we need the military. Without them we wouldn’t be able to continue enjoying the freedoms we have now.