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To be cross with this paediatrician?

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Thesunisoutagain · 06/11/2025 09:42

Took my 14 year old who isn’t happy but has been taking his adhd medication for school, to his adhd check up.
The paediatrician had a ‘grown up’ chat with him and things been going well. She said to me it’s his choice now if he takes the medication or not as he is older.
This morning he woke up and said based what the Dr said, he won’t be taking the meds as we can’t make him.
24 hours ago he would not have done that.
Is 14 really an age where it’s reasonable to put the decision making into a child with ADHD??
I feel this Dr made me life so much more difficult.

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Endofyear · 06/11/2025 09:52

I think realistically it's reasonable for a 14 year old to be involved in decision making about his medical care. The paediatrician would hopefully talk through the pros and cons of continuing medication (side effects v reduction of ADHD symptoms) so that he can make an informed decision. I think all you can do is see how things go for him if he is stopping medication and ask for a follow up with the paediatrician if you feel things are slipping.

Thesunisoutagain · 06/11/2025 09:50

He has never thought he needed it. Despite of the fact he was close to exclusion, suspensions.
Home life is also very hard due to his impulsivity but we long given up medicating him for home time.
His view on himself is very different from how everyone else sees him

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youalright · 06/11/2025 09:46

Yeah 14 is definitely old enough to make medical decisions whether that is contraception, adhd medication or any treatment. Has he said why he doesn't want to take them.?

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