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Kkk17 · 06/11/2025 07:19

My daughter is 21 and boy is 10 , thinking about not putting up Christmas decorations this year as its only for little kids . And the kids are or bothered. Does anyone still put decorations up with grown up kids xx

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jelllyontheplate · 07/11/2025 11:41

You’ve solved your issue with working evenings and affording the nursery fees for this 2 year old little girl very quickly then. You only posted about it a week ago.

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Kkk17 · 07/11/2025 08:10

AlohaRose · 06/11/2025 11:57

On other threads the OP talks about her 2 year old! So who knows what the heck is going on here?!

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AlohaRose . Its was my step child 2 year old i was looking after them for a while while me ex sorted themselves out but now they have gone back there to live now everything has settled

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jelllyontheplate · 06/11/2025 16:52

What about your 2 year old op?

Danioyellow · 06/11/2025 14:20

I have a 10yo, he’s a little boy still in primary school! Are you this miserly towards everything?

MrsSkylerWhite · 06/11/2025 14:20

Don’t be a Scrooge, he’s only 10!

intrepidpanda · 06/11/2025 14:18

I always put a tree up. I have no kids and go away for Christmas

BauhausOfEliott · 06/11/2025 14:12

@Kkk17 In your other threads you say you do have 'young kids', including a two-year-old.

ithinkilikethislittlelife · 06/11/2025 14:00

What??? Put them up. The Christmas lights are gorgeous. Decorate as a family and make it fun. Christmas music blaring and chat about what you all want for Christmas/ the lovely christmases you’ve already had. It’s up to you to make it memorable surely.

Netcurtainnelly · 06/11/2025 13:54

Kkk17 · 06/11/2025 07:19

My daughter is 21 and boy is 10 , thinking about not putting up Christmas decorations this year as its only for little kids . And the kids are or bothered. Does anyone still put decorations up with grown up kids xx

No gave up decs years ago. Less hassle and cleaner too.

Mikart · 06/11/2025 13:50

I don't decorate the house now apart from some real holly and lights.

DappledThings · 06/11/2025 12:32

I don't think anyone is suggesting that decorations should be only for children, or even that they generally are but that if someone is not inclined to decorate for their own sake is it reasonable to use the children being grown-up as an excuse not to.

To which of course you don't need an excuse to either decorate or not decorate. I never decorated before now DH moved into my flat. Couldn't be arsed but he took the lead with it.

RisenWhine · 06/11/2025 12:19

Kkk17 · 06/11/2025 07:19

My daughter is 21 and boy is 10 , thinking about not putting up Christmas decorations this year as its only for little kids . And the kids are or bothered. Does anyone still put decorations up with grown up kids xx

I was decorating before the kids. It’s bloody Christmas you absolute grinch get some feckin’ tinsel up!

Xxx

blankcanvas3 · 06/11/2025 12:16

I will put up Christmas decorations even after my children have left home. I’ve never known anybody to stop putting up decorations just because their children are older? Decorations are for everybody, not just for kids! Scrooge

harriethoyle · 06/11/2025 12:09

I put decs up and I am 46 and DH 51, and his children are a) not with us this year and b) adults. Come on Ebeneezer!! Get those baubles up...

AlohaRose · 06/11/2025 11:57

BauhausOfEliott · 06/11/2025 11:32

I suspect OP isn't coming back to the thread, but I'm wondering whether she mistyped and her son is actually 19 rather than 10.

Not that it matters, because even if someone's having an adults-only Christmas, that doesn't mean you can't have decorations. Obviously decorating for Christmas isn't a legal requirement, and each to their own. But it's odd to think it's 'only for little kids'. I don't have any kids at all but I've always put something up to make the house look a bit festive at Christmas, I think most people do.

On other threads the OP talks about her 2 year old! So who knows what the heck is going on here?!

BauhausOfEliott · 06/11/2025 11:32

I suspect OP isn't coming back to the thread, but I'm wondering whether she mistyped and her son is actually 19 rather than 10.

Not that it matters, because even if someone's having an adults-only Christmas, that doesn't mean you can't have decorations. Obviously decorating for Christmas isn't a legal requirement, and each to their own. But it's odd to think it's 'only for little kids'. I don't have any kids at all but I've always put something up to make the house look a bit festive at Christmas, I think most people do.

ObtuseMoose · 06/11/2025 11:20

Mansionscoldandgrey · 06/11/2025 10:43

Is your son called Tiny Tim?

Tiny Tim had fabulous Christmases because his family ensured it even though they were poor. It would be way more pertinent to ask if the Ops name is Ebenezer Scrooge!

Lavenderandbrown · 06/11/2025 11:16

My dc both still believed in Santa Claus at 10. I host so I decorate but I do find it worth the effort. A tree is magical at night. For a few years I decorated a 4 foot tree. I put it on a tabletop for height and it sounds goofy but it was very pretty. I even posted it here on the let’s see your tree thread. I missed my big tree so last year I went back to a 7.5 foot. Could you switch to a smaller tree? Prelit with some decorations and you are done. For your child please do a tree

Royaly82 · 06/11/2025 11:12

When you say boy. Do you mean your son? A 10 year old CHILD? Im starting to think this cant be real. Why would not having 'little kids' stop someone putting up Christmas decorations? Do you think its only people with age 9 and under children that do?

DaisyChain505 · 06/11/2025 11:03

You do have a young child.

Do you really want them to grow up and be telling people the story about how his scrounge of a mum stopped Christmas when he was 10.

I don’t have kids and I still put up decorations.

jelllyontheplate · 06/11/2025 11:02

Do you think everyone who doesn’t have kids just doesn’t bother with Christmas? Weird take.

You do have a little kid. He’s 10.

BauhausOfEliott · 06/11/2025 11:00

thinking about not putting up Christmas decorations this year as its only for little kids

If Christmas decorations are 'only for little kids' why do you think non-family-orientated venues like bars, clubs, hotels, restaurants and even office buildings get decorated every year?

Everyone I know who celebrates Christmas puts up some kind of decorations, whether they have kids or not.

IthinkIsawahairbrushbackthere · 06/11/2025 10:49

Once my DC were all away and it was just me and DH I did chance the way I decorate. I bought a slim, pre lit tree to fit in the fireplace and just put a few lights around the window. This year the tree is going in the the window and I am really looking forward to decorating.

waitam · 06/11/2025 10:44

Ask your children. That's what I'd do, and if they want to decorate get THEM to do it and have some fun.

If they can't be bothered, well then don't bother!

Allthings · 06/11/2025 10:43

It wouldn’t be christmas without some decorations. Our DC left home decades ago and we still have a tree and lights.