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to think schools should allow flexibility between packed lunches and school meals?

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NameChanger206 · 05/11/2025 18:32

My child’s primary school had just implemented a policy which asks parents to choose either packed lunch or school meals, with no option to switch day to day (previously we could). It’s in quite a deprived area, and while some days the school lunch options are fine, other days they really aren’t great and many kids simply won’t eat— and I don’t think it’s fair to expect parents to fund a packed lunch every day when free school meals are available in KS1 for all, any many in KS2 too.

Surely it would make sense to allow a bit of flexibility — for example, letting children have school meals on certain days (especially if they’re entitled to free meals) and bring packed lunches on others?

I understand they need to plan catering numbers, but this feels unnecessarily rigid, especially given how tight finances are for many families right now.

AIBU to think schools should show a bit more flexibility here?

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Zempy · 05/11/2025 19:09

Surely if children have FSM they can permanently book in for them but take a packed lunch in when it suits them and just eat it?

LlamaNoDrama · 05/11/2025 19:08

BallerinaRadio · 05/11/2025 18:54

Imagine how difficult it must be got the catering company then

I'm sure they're experienced enough to handle it. Everyone else in catering manages this exact situation and usually with a lot more food choices than a school gives.

FcukBreastCancer · 05/11/2025 19:06

Book day by day online. Completely flexible and select food option.

OneSunnyGuide · 05/11/2025 19:05

Noodledoodledoo · 05/11/2025 19:00

They do that but parents don't read, don't care, don't understand. The funding for free school meals is based on one days take up - if only 100 KS1 students eat on that day out of 200, school are underfunded by 50% for the year, even with incentives to encourage them.
My children are at a 2 form entry school, catering for up to 420 students is not an easy task.

I don't think 420 is impossible. I attended a 3 form entry primary school so about 630 pupils in all .Even if only half those had dinners that's over 300.In addition the kitchen cooked the meals for the next nearest primary school which was 5 minutes drive away. That kitchen must have provided about 500 or more meals each day.

LlamaNoDrama · 05/11/2025 19:04

Every school I've had experience with (7) you can choose on the day.

Gerbera55 · 05/11/2025 19:04

I’m a teacher. We currently allow this flexibility for our school dinners but are thinking of stopping it. Key reasons:

  • the amount of food wasted is atrocious
  • children who have pre-ordered sometimes don’t get what they chose because the last minute changes mean someone else gets the last piece of pie/jacket potato etc
  • parents are supposed to order and pay for meals in advance but don’t, which means office staff are left chasing payments (which have been known to stretch in to the £00s)
  • it takes a huge chunk of time out of each morning for teachers to ask children what they are doing for lunch, complete the lunch register and then for the office staff to upload this information to the payment portal
  • children aren’t always reliable so will tell you they are having a packed lunch but actually were supposed to order a school dinner
  • children will order a school dinner even though they have a packed lunch (cause they don’t like the sandwich that’s been packed) so parents are then charged for a meal and call up having a go, we then have to wipe the payment meaning school is out of pocket

We are looking at saying meals must be ordered a week in advance (unless an emergency, obviously).

edited to add it would be insane to say you have to have school dinner/packed lunch all week though, we will always allow a mixed week, but will say this needs to be booked a week in advance.

IcingOnTheTop · 05/11/2025 19:03

londongirl12 · 05/11/2025 18:59

Our school, you decide each day based on the menu. Ridiculous to just be one or the other the whole time.

It really is.

i used to love our school dinners apart from a turkey pie they’d serve every other week, I think it was on a Thursday. The sight and smell of it made me sick which then meant I’d be sent home (a few times my mum, god bless her, forgot which week it was and sent me for school lunches 😂). It’s crazy to me to have no choice

Storynanny1 · 05/11/2025 19:02

BallerinaRadio · 05/11/2025 18:54

Imagine how difficult it must be got the catering company then

not really, they have the same menu on a three week schedule and I’m sure they have a good idea by the second cycle how popular each meal is. For instance they know that pizza day is popular so it wouldn’t come as a shock and they would have a good idea about how much to make/order in advance of pizza day. It’s worked for many many years so must be acceptable to the catering team.

Didimum · 05/11/2025 19:02

Our kids can change day to day.

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 05/11/2025 19:01

Pupils at the primary school I work in can choose on the day. We're in West Wales.

Noodledoodledoo · 05/11/2025 19:00

NameChanger206 · 05/11/2025 18:49

So they just need to provide advance notice it’s fish and chips on census day? ;)

They do that but parents don't read, don't care, don't understand. The funding for free school meals is based on one days take up - if only 100 KS1 students eat on that day out of 200, school are underfunded by 50% for the year, even with incentives to encourage them.
My children are at a 2 form entry school, catering for up to 420 students is not an easy task.

OneSunnyGuide · 05/11/2025 18:59

When I at was primary school in the mid 1970s you said on a Monday morning which days you wanted a meal and the class teacher handled all the money. 30 years later when my niece was at the same school it was highly encouraged that all KS1 took up offer of the meal . For KS2 it was encouraged and you could decide week by week. However this was a 3 form entry school so the large number in the school gave the catering people a pretty good approximation of the number of heald required each day. There is one primary school near where I now live where school meals are compulsory as part of the school contract. They do provide for allergies, vegetarians and halal and all the parents know when they chose the school what the requirement is.

onwards2025 · 05/11/2025 18:59

Ours is booked on the day, full flexibility up to around 8am on the day on choosing packed lunch or school dinner, so yes I would find this a pain being so fixed. Reality is I tend to book 2-3 weeks at a time but it is really handy being able to change it for last minute things

dontmalbeconme · 05/11/2025 18:59

Mine were school dinners or packed lunch decided termly (or maybe half termly?) back when my now Uni aged children were in Primary School. I've never known it any other way tbh.

Flexibilty would be fabulous, but the admin must be a nightmare.

NameChanger206 · 05/11/2025 18:59

Bushmillsbabe · 05/11/2025 18:55

We have to order each week, a week in advance, so by Sunday evening for the week 7 days ahead. We can pick which days have each week to week but once submitted it can't be changed. Unless on a medical menu (allergies etc) then have to order a whole half term ahead, but can still mix up dinners with packed lunches.

Yes we’d be happy with this - I.e. no short notice changes, decide a week in advance etc. But if a child is not going to eat the options on a particular day, surely the parent should be allowed to provide them a sandwich?

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londongirl12 · 05/11/2025 18:59

Our school, you decide each day based on the menu. Ridiculous to just be one or the other the whole time.

IcingOnTheTop · 05/11/2025 18:57

We used to get the choice each day. We had to hand in a little ticket

Laughinglama · 05/11/2025 18:57

Our school its one or the other. I have one in KS1 and take advantage of the free school meals. The other in KS2 had the choice and chose packed lunches which to be fair is far cheaper than £2.85 for the school meals. Isn’t an issue at our school however i suppose we know no different the parents just pick which works best and go from there

Bushmillsbabe · 05/11/2025 18:55

We have to order each week, a week in advance, so by Sunday evening for the week 7 days ahead. We can pick which days have each week to week but once submitted it can't be changed. Unless on a medical menu (allergies etc) then have to order a whole half term ahead, but can still mix up dinners with packed lunches.

BallerinaRadio · 05/11/2025 18:54

Storynanny1 · 05/11/2025 18:42

So for the whole term/year they have to have one or the other? That’s ridiculous and I say that as a teacher of 40+ years. I’ve never come across that in any school I’ve taught in or any that my children or grandchildren attend.
Currently in the school my 2 youngest grandchildren attend it’s week at a time, so on Mondays they have to say if they are dinners or packed lunches on each of the days - they can choose either on any day.
That must be really difficult for parents and children at your school to manage - are other parents unhappy? Nothing at schools is ever set in stone so maybe you should let your feelings known?

Imagine how difficult it must be got the catering company then

NameChanger206 · 05/11/2025 18:52

Storynanny1 · 05/11/2025 18:42

So for the whole term/year they have to have one or the other? That’s ridiculous and I say that as a teacher of 40+ years. I’ve never come across that in any school I’ve taught in or any that my children or grandchildren attend.
Currently in the school my 2 youngest grandchildren attend it’s week at a time, so on Mondays they have to say if they are dinners or packed lunches on each of the days - they can choose either on any day.
That must be really difficult for parents and children at your school to manage - are other parents unhappy? Nothing at schools is ever set in stone so maybe you should let your feelings known?

Yes many parents are unhappy. Just wanted to get an idea if this is the norm and we are wasting our time trying to argue with the policy change.

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PracticalPixie · 05/11/2025 18:50

We can choose and make changes up until the night before.

I don't know why that is ok in our school but not others.

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 05/11/2025 18:49

On census day our school really publicises that they get more funding if more people have school meal that day, it's free for everyone, and it's something like burger and chips to get maximum uptake!

NameChanger206 · 05/11/2025 18:49

Noodledoodledoo · 05/11/2025 18:44

We used to have to decided half term by half term and it was all packed or all lunches.
We now have to submit choices by Saturday for the following week, no choices submitted no meal provided either for Free or paid lunches.
Chopping and changing daily would be a nightmare for catering and expensive, the funding for the free school meals is complex and based on census day lunch take up - school fund the difference - families are not the only element who do not have a lot of spare cash.

So they just need to provide advance notice it’s fish and chips on census day? ;)

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MyUmberOrca · 05/11/2025 18:49

You just pick on the day at the school my child has just left. They say packed lunch or school dinner when their name is called out on the register.

It's a small school though so there is no choice. Everyone having a school dinner eats the same thing (or the vegetarian version of it)

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