We all think we would be the perfect parent
And it’s all well and good saying you would smack them under certain circumstances but you didn’t have any and the practice is much easier than the theory. Plus love gets in the way, pesky strong, amazing emotion that love for your small children, nothing like it. Nothing, nothing prepares you for it.
It’s perfectly possible to be a firm, effective parent without resorting to physical violence.
There is also the flip side parents who swear at and hit their child so their kids are scared shadows.
Some people are better parents than others like all things in life, some kids are easier than others. What works with one of your children doesn’t work with others (naughty step I am looking at you).
I’ve never hit our children, and had them completely under control with voice, yes a couple of times we had to leave because the countdown ran out, no long lasting damage. Only had to do that a couple of times.
You build trust with them, if they trust you do things for their best interests they don’t need to understand why they just need to accept it, once they get that rest is straightforward.
You’ve never had them you have no idea what you are talking about. You have no idea what you would’ve done as a parent.
Ours are teenagers now, fun, kind, ambitious, one at college one doing GCSEs. They have mates they talk to and hang out with, but still tell us , talk to us for advice when they feel they need it, they don’t get into fights or exhibit any aggressive behaviour out the house, because they haven’t seen it from us . If you hit a small child who you are supposed to love more than anyone else, someone much smaller and weaker than you - what message does that send to a child? That violence is a way of getting things done? If your mum would hit you then surely it’s not so bad if you hit others? Yeah you know nothing about this. Hitting is never the answer.