Husband and Lindor

I'd be more likely to say, "Oi, those are MY chocolates, get your sticky fingers out of them and eat your own chocolate."

My boyfriend is the same...anything sweet around and he'll eat the whole thing there and then. I just don't buy sweet treats anymore, dessert for us both is always fruit now, maybe some dark chocolate, ...with the exception of birthdays, christmas, easter etc.

I'm so disappointed by all the people saying "well, you can't expect any better, hide/don't buy them"

He's an adult. No adult should ever need to be hiding food from another adult in a house. That, far more than having to remind him not to chow them all down with no consideration for anyone else, would be babying/controlling him.

It's a very simple case of willpower and acknowledgement that "I have been asked not to indiscriminately over-consume this treat food that my partner bought".

If you can't expect that very basic level of consideration in terms of food (where he could, and apparently does, buy his own very easily), then how do you expect any consideration on anything bigger, such as not cheating?

"Well, I saw it, and I wanted it, and I never think about anyone else usually, so you can't be mad at me about it this time..." 🙄

We buy our food together but we buy our own treats.

If one of my family kept finishing my treats, I would not be happy.

You need to learn to hide them better. Have you thought of keeping them in your knickers? Then if he wants chocolate... well things could get very interesting!

Come on. Everyone knows that in a world where a mere sniff of a lettuce leaf is enough to leave you stuffed until Christmas, a single Lindor lasts at least a week.

Any more is sheer gluttony. Oink oink.

If someone snapped 'only one a day' at me, I would the entire lot right then and there. If someone ate my box of chocolates that I had paid for, I would tell them to replace it. Both are rude and not the actions of equal loving partners.

No

I'll have one maybe sometimes

We have separate chocolates and crisps. Everything else is shared, but we do crisps and chocolate so differently.

DH will have chocolate last ages, but he'll have one/two every single day. Whereas I'll only have chocolate every few months, but I'll have it for a couple of days and then it's done.

Crisps I'm a binge eater of. If I've got one packet I'm happy. If there's six packets that I could eat then I'll eat six. So now we have our own share. Which means I eat mine straight away but don't touch anyone else's.

The kids have treat boxes as well and have a much healthier attitude toward food than I did at their age. They don't ever say "oh can I have one too" and only have their treats when they actually fancy them.

he finds them and complains "you've been hiding the chocolate again".

Yes, I have, because if I don't you'll hoover it up.

I'm a hooverer, I can't have chocolate it in the house for this reason and I live with a hider. I'm not offended that he hides it, it's a practical move!

However you don't sound as though you like him very much, all things considered.

Honestly, if someone ate my chocolates I'd be telling them to fuck off. I remember dividing a bag of minstrels with my ex husband. He'd gone to bed but I still divided them as equally as I could and didn't scoff his while his back was turned.

Tracking what he eats and saying "one a day" are awful and I'd be furious in his position. The issue is that he's eating it all so there is none left for you, so say that. The way you've phrased it makes it sound like you are his mum not his wife.

We buy a load of different Lindt chocolates at Christmas and put them in a big glass bowl instead of having the crappy Quality Streets - they look much more festive and taste even better! My favourite are the strawberry ones! They last for ages as well because it's almost impossible to eat more than 3 in one sitting. That's not me being all competitive small portiony, it's just that they're really rich compared to some chocolates!
I love Lindt!

I occasionally eat half a Lindor and wrap the other half up for later. Anyone else?

Stop treating your husband like a recalcitrant toddler, it's not a good look. If he wants to eat chocolate all day, then that's his decision. He's an adult and capable of managing his food intake without your interference.

It's not controlling. It's just trying to get the greedy pig to not scoff all ops treats. Frustration is allowed when you get pissed off. If ops dh is bothered all he has to do is leave her chocolate alone. You shouldn't need to hide stuff because he has no self control.

'Only one a day' would bring out the worst in me. Some people just hate authority. I'd be sitting there smeared in chocolate after that... probably in a semi-comatose state.

Do you and your family buy there own seperate food or do you all share like an actual family

Ask what treats he wants from the supermarket and put them in the cupboard. Hide your own treats and each time he finds them move your hiding place. That's what I do anyway.

I do share when I open stuff e.g. in the evening for us all to enjoy but if they (the family) know where it is there will be nothing there.

Interesting, Lindor are most definitely avoidably bingeable to me and what's more should preferably be avoided at all costs. Now Malteasers on the other hand...

@Clementina49er I'm with you on this one!

A box of chocolates bought together is to share. I must admit I am a big chocolate fan of Lindt so would eat a box very quickly!! That's why I don't buy them very often!

But if you buy your own box of chocolates, then that is YOURS, and if your DH wanted one, then he should have asked.

My DH often buys some nice snacks and I wouldn't dream of helping myself without asking and wouldn't dare eat more than a couple as that's just rude.

It's not surprising you snapped as his behaviour was greedy and rude.

You need to speak to him about this, and say that you bought them for yourself as he ate nearly the entire box of the ones you got in the supermarket, and you snapped because he had not only helped himself without asking, but eaten the majority of them.

Hide it, buy extra or ask him not to eat your box of chocolates.

It was mean to snap and shame him for liking a couple of chocolates. Your comments about his weight and appetite sound very mean spirited.

You know ultra-processed foods like chocolate are highly addictive to many people OP? If your husband is an addict, it is hard to not consume them. So, either don't buy them, buy them with the expectation an addict will strughle with control, or buy and lock away. Don't judge him, just be relieved you don't have the food-addict genes.

It sounds like you were going to have more than 'one-a-day" though?