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A knobhead or trying to bully a "foreigner?"

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AcquadiP · 05/11/2025 15:04

I've just been to the supermarket and headed to the chiller section. A man was blocking the two doors to the section I needed with his trolley. His partner was looking at produce in the opposite aisle. They had a girl with them aged early teens who was wandering back and forward across the aisle. The man had a very unpleasant expression on his face so rather than politely ask him to move, I went to a door not blocked by his trolley and managed to get what I needed from there. The girl was stood in front of this door but seeing me approach she moved away. The man said:
"There's a simple word: 'excuse me' rather than pushing people out of the way."
I replied very calmly that I hadn't pushed anyone out of the way.

I could have added that "excuse me" is two words, not one, and that he was inconsiderate to block access to the chiller cabinet with his trolley but I chose not to. Much to my surprise, what I said silenced him immediately. I expected some sort of pushback. As I carried on with my shoppimg I realised I was wearing a hoodie with "La Dolce Vita" in large colourful type on it and it made me wonder whether he thought I was a foreigner who he could bully?

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Salvadoridory · 05/11/2025 15:16

Jesus Christ

toomuchfaff · 05/11/2025 15:15

NebulousWhistler · 05/11/2025 15:06

Is everything xenophobic or racist these days? I mean, some people are just rude.

I mean, if youre going for the stereotype racist knobhead, most of those wouldnt know multiple languages and have the knowledge to connect you wearing a La Dolce Vita hoodie with you being Italian.

I agree youre overthinking, probably plain old rude

Abhannmor · 05/11/2025 15:12

You are making a couple of assumptions there. That he can read. That he knows La Dolce Vita is from a foreign language and so forth. Sounds more like he's just a bit miserable and thick tbh.

AcquadiP · 05/11/2025 15:12

Zov · 05/11/2025 15:08

This. ^ Reaching so far there @AcquadiP that you'll probably put your back out!

😂

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AcquadiP · 05/11/2025 15:11

GarlicBreadStan · 05/11/2025 15:09

I'm all for calling out racists for their racist behaviour, but he wasn't being racist. Just a regular grade knobhead.

Yeah, you're probably right.

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AcquadiP · 05/11/2025 15:10

NebulousWhistler · 05/11/2025 15:06

Is everything xenophobic or racist these days? I mean, some people are just rude.

Fair enough!

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GarlicBreadStan · 05/11/2025 15:09

I'm all for calling out racists for their racist behaviour, but he wasn't being racist. Just a regular grade knobhead.

Zov · 05/11/2025 15:08

NebulousWhistler · 05/11/2025 15:06

Is everything xenophobic or racist these days? I mean, some people are just rude.

This. ^ Reaching so far there @AcquadiP that you'll probably put your back out!

NebulousWhistler · 05/11/2025 15:06

Is everything xenophobic or racist these days? I mean, some people are just rude.