‘Just the meat for me please’ Sunday Lunch issue ’

Yes, vegans and vegetarians tend to be thinking of a bigger picture than purely themselves. This "piling the plate high with meat" is so toe curlingly self indulgent. Take the same amount as everyone else, politely pass on the potatoes and cauliflower cheese and then eat more at home if necessary. Simple.

I don’t think not wanting animals to be tortured and killed is “spurious” meat is also expensive. If I went to someone’s house I’d be putting the cheapest part of the meal on my plate not touching the most expensive part. Your comparison is ridiculous

Being vegetarian/vegan doesn’t involve ‘piling your plate up high’ with the most expensive food type being served, which is also supposed to be shared with the rest of the guests. I also don’t think the diet being spoken about is chosen for ethical reasons.

Carnivore diet tends to be much more costly.

I wonder if he was 'gentle parented'......

People choose to be vegetarian/vegan though. And it's a pretty standard expectation that we cater to them. Carnivore diet is just the opposite end of that same spectrum. They are both chosen diets for equally spurious ethical/health reasons.

Maybe serve a nice protein shake on the side.

His own avocado and mayo!!!

Poor DN, living with this tedious embarrassment for the rest of her life. Is she sure about this? What’s going to happen when they have DC? (Not expecting you to answered OP, just thinking aloud!)

I wonder what he'd do if it was my house. I only cook vegetarian food. A big pile of boiled eggs?

I with you too on this, although I would have a couple of potatoes, a spoonful of caulie cheese (if I made it I would use low fat cheese, skimmed milk etc) but would load my plate up with steamed vegetables and lean meat. That's how I cook at home and only the kids have yorkshires. When I see my parents they are forever trying to get me to have pudding which I always get out of just wish I didn't have to keep explaining I don't want any. I work out about 4/5 a week and weigh in with my PT.

I also agree he probably doesn't get it as this is just normal life for him and how he eats all the time.

I think I’d have done this. Said, yeah, sure lots of meat for everyone, and then assume he’ll behave like a civilised human on the day.

They sound totally batshit though.

Since when did people get to be so rude and entitled.

20 quid says he grumbles about it being thighs not breast. He will want the leaner low fat cut.

Nothing the ops sister has said makes him sound like the laid back person you describe. After the op was a bit wtf the sister literally phoned to say no no you have to provide for him and he can’t eat gammon, he will need a whole chicken for himself.

he sounds like an absolute tosser and the niece will be miserable if she marries him.

Exactly. It is an ED, or bordering on one, to be that restrictive.

I'd be very uptight about this. The selfishness, greed, egotism and lack of respect for the animals he's eating....I don't think I could ever bring myself to like him after that start.

JFC what kind of weirdo turns up for a roast and demands just meat. So rude.

You choosing to only eat selective parts doesn't entitle you to take more of the selective parts, especially when they're the more expensive parts.

He doesn't expect you to have avocado and special home made mayo, so why does he expect you to have extra meat for him.

He should bring his own pack if thighs or whatever, pre-cooked

And @Mondaytuesdayhappydays please do tell us whether his physique justifies all of the hassle

I used to go to church, thankfully came to my senses but that's another story.
The women mostly provided the food for a sharing meal (a main or a dessert for 6 to 8 folk), and one or two men would bring a sharing bag of crisps, yet who would be pushing to the front to pile their plates up with all the best food? Yup, the men. One family of 7 did turn up with a small bowl of jelly and then all eats loads too, which would be forgiveable if they were struggling moneywise, but the mother frequently went on about all the supposedly posh stuff she bought and acted like money grew on trees so......

Lord. Is there anything more boring than people banging on about protein goals and macros? No-one cares how many grams of protein you have decided you have to eat. That’s your business. It’s like a person I work with who spent one lunchtime demonstrating her superior lungeing technique. It’s beyond tedious to anyone but you. This chap needs to turn up, eat what he’s given and go home to admire his muscles in the mirror. It’s one meal. People are so self-involved.

Which is what the DN boyfriend should do.

Buy him a live chicken. He can get fit chasing it round the garden then cook it on an open fire and eat it with his bare hands. Caveman diet and lifestyle thus thoroughly catered for.

No, if it were a special, one-off meal, I'd enjoy every single bite of what I was served. OP's food sounds amazing as an occasional treat.

If it were just a Sunday lunch that happens regularly/semi-regularly, I would eat a normal portion of chicken and a small portion of the less sexy veg and adjust the rest of my meals that day to fit.

BUT I am doing this for health/vanity reasons. If I were training for a competition, I would stick rigidly to my meal plan, but I'd either decline the invitation or bring my own (pre-prepped) food

Yep. This.

He is a CF. And so is she.

They get what the host prepares or they bring their own. Not complicated.

And btw I have massive food intolerances and am well used to having to bring my own. Such is life.