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‘Just the meat for me please’ Sunday Lunch issue ’

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Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 05/11/2025 13:47

SIS and BIL coming for Sunday Lunch, bringing DN and her BF- recently engaged.
Got a little gift for them and card etc, my parents were coming any way so invited Sunday for food as makes sense.

SIS has just WhatsApped to say jokingly that the BF -mega gym bunny - ‘doesn’t do potatoes and trimmings- but don’t worry he’ll just pile his plate high with meat’
Im doing a couple chickens and a gammon between us all so plenty for everyone alongside stuffing, veg, Yorkies , gravey, cauliflower cheese etc but definitely not for a huge piled up plate of just meat!

I replied lightheartedly to SIS to this effect and she’s not a happy camper at all.
Just texted to say wants him to feel welcome so will bring him a couple of raw pork chops or similar to fry - I’ve said bring them cooked and sliced already in a Tupperware as I won’t be frying chops with all the carnage of the roast going on and my parents milling about under my feet ‘helping’

Shes voice noting at the moment can see the symbol
honestly am I just old or a shit hostess or is this how guests who barely know their hosts I might add expect to be catered for ???

I mean veggie/vegan all power to you
but a plate piled up of meat for lunch seems a bit full on to me ??

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Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 07/11/2025 12:09

Mumofoneandone · 07/11/2025 12:07

That's hilarious!! Someone is looking out for you x

Couldn’t write it lol
but to be fair had given DH and I a good craic xx
He sounds like a harmless enough fella - imagine if he saw this thread lol!
Not going to say anything to anyone I don’t think let it unfold x

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Mumofoneandone · 07/11/2025 12:07

That's hilarious!! Someone is looking out for you x

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Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 07/11/2025 12:03

plot twist -
DD wants to come too with two of her little ones.
DH has to pop into to work Sunday morning to collect something for Monday.
Roast is off.
Too many people, the kids tearing about and no DH as sous chef.

I’ve got two fat cannelloni’s in freezer one veggie one meat
will be them now with salad, coleslaw n garlic bread

my mum is bringing treacle tarts she made lol

carb fest now I’m afraid.

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PumpkinsAndCoconuts · 07/11/2025 08:37

Soontobe60 · 07/11/2025 07:08

He certainly does! Why oh why are all the women - GF, Gfs mum and GFs aunt - pandering to this man’s weird eating habits?
The only thing you need to know is if a guest has any allergies, any absolute dislikes or is vegetarian / vegan.
Not liking vegetables and wanting a ridiculous amount of protein to fit in with a diet cult is not something I’d be specifically catering for. He’d get the same as everyone else with a side order of a tin of corned beef if he wanted more meat!

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I absolutely agree. Why has fussiness become a virtue?

sashh · 07/11/2025 07:49

ACynicalDad · 07/11/2025 07:04

Tim of dog meat coming right up.

I'm not that mean but I would have a couple of tins of Spam and corned beef near his plate.

Soontobe60 · 07/11/2025 07:08

Washingupdone · 06/11/2025 23:40

Oh my goodness, he has every woman fixing his needs.

He certainly does! Why oh why are all the women - GF, Gfs mum and GFs aunt - pandering to this man’s weird eating habits?
The only thing you need to know is if a guest has any allergies, any absolute dislikes or is vegetarian / vegan.
Not liking vegetables and wanting a ridiculous amount of protein to fit in with a diet cult is not something I’d be specifically catering for. He’d get the same as everyone else with a side order of a tin of corned beef if he wanted more meat!

Amy454 · 07/11/2025 07:06

He’ll likely be an insufferable bore so I wouldn’t worry too much about upsetting him.

I have a close friend who is an elite athlete. He is a household name right at the top of his sport. He of course eats well and trains a lot but would never be as ridiculous as this.

Emilygilmoreshandbag · 07/11/2025 07:05

Thats absolutely nuts. Adults who choose to eat high protein don’t need catering to.
His options are to choose from the food available and not eat more than his fair share of any one item, or he goes off his diet for one meal which wont do him any harm (and actually might boost his metabolism).
If he is worried he will be hungry he can eat a couple of packets of ham on the way to your house!

Sounds like a good way to get constipation tbh- no vegetables at all?? Not even the green ones?

ACynicalDad · 07/11/2025 07:04

Tim of dog meat coming right up.

landlordhell · 07/11/2025 06:59

Yes he can have meat only but only the same portion as everybody else .

Rhodie72 · 07/11/2025 06:56

My sympathies lie with OP. A guest is expected to eat what's put in front of them. Unless there's a health issue/veggie/vegan coming to eat.
The OP is not a restaurant, it's family coming over for a meal. Any weird 'meat only' diets should then provide for themselves. End of.

SatsumaDog · 07/11/2025 05:23

So he’s not demanding anything then. A lot of fuss about nothing.

Bluedenimdoglover · 07/11/2025 05:18

Meat and plain veg, no potatoes - either that or they bring his own ready cooked chicken. Honestly - plateful of meat!

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 07/11/2025 00:17

So this was all her Mum’s weird take after all! Bonkers.

Valeriekat · 07/11/2025 00:14

YaWeeFurryBastard · 05/11/2025 13:53

I think you were rude. If a guest was GF surely you’d cater for them, I don’t see how this is any different? Just buy a bit extra meat so there’s enough to go round.

Meat is the most expensive part of the meal. He would be greedy to expect to have most of it.

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Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 06/11/2025 23:46

Washingupdone · 06/11/2025 23:40

Oh my goodness, he has every woman fixing his needs.

Doesn’t he??
what are we playing at!!

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Starconundrum · 06/11/2025 23:41

Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 06/11/2025 23:33

So just had a text from DN
I sent one earlier saying ‘Hey DN looking forward to Sunday and meeting your betrothed again properly ! Been ages so should be nice - mum gave me the heads up re the roast - him being more of a meat man, but all good got loads in!’

DN reply said it all

‘Bloody mum lol
yes he is bit of a meat head
it’s all good tho he will go with the flow. Might bring a couple of bits of that’s okay
as he don’t really do veg.
mums bringing a berry and frozen yogurt pudding too he will deffo eat so I said bring meringue nests too for the others which will be like Eton mess’ then.
Hope that’s okay
see you Sunday

Lost in translation then!

Good luck for Sunday and have fun

Washingupdone · 06/11/2025 23:40

Oh my goodness, he has every woman fixing his needs.

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Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 06/11/2025 23:33

So just had a text from DN
I sent one earlier saying ‘Hey DN looking forward to Sunday and meeting your betrothed again properly ! Been ages so should be nice - mum gave me the heads up re the roast - him being more of a meat man, but all good got loads in!’

DN reply said it all

‘Bloody mum lol
yes he is bit of a meat head
it’s all good tho he will go with the flow. Might bring a couple of bits of that’s okay
as he don’t really do veg.
mums bringing a berry and frozen yogurt pudding too he will deffo eat so I said bring meringue nests too for the others which will be like Eton mess’ then.
Hope that’s okay
see you Sunday

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stomachamelon · 06/11/2025 21:10

Totally following….

herbaltincture · 06/11/2025 21:01

pottylolly · 06/11/2025 14:45

Bowel cancer rates are increasing the highest amongst vegetarians in India (who often eat all their meals cooked from scratch 5-10 portions of veg per day) as they’re least likely to exercise

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I'd love to see your reference for that 'fact'. Meanwhile:

A major factor influencing colorectal cancer in India is diet. The traditional Indian diet, high in refined carbohydrates, sugar, and low in fiber, has changed significantly over the years. The increasing consumption of processed and red meats, along with fast food, is also contributing to the rise in cancer cases. These dietary habits increase inflammation in the gut, making it more susceptible to cancerous changes.

Why Indians Are at Greater Risk of Colorectal Cancer: What You Need to Know

blacksax · 06/11/2025 20:51

A mega gym bunny should be into healthy eating, so he should be piling his plate high with veg.

NamelessNancy · 06/11/2025 20:39

Am I the only one who has spent most of this thread reminded of the hot mailman on the Good Place? Bit niche maybe? Poor DN!

PlumpHobbit · 06/11/2025 20:29

You just know hes hoping someone will ask about it, so he has the excuse to bang on about his training schedule and muscles etc

Have followed thread as looking forward to OP's update!

HevenlyMeS · 06/11/2025 20:27

😂Bless you & can just imagine his face /their faces 😆