‘Just the meat for me please’ Sunday Lunch issue ’

Incredibly rude and entitled!

If you cut out carbs that’s up to you but you don’t pass the costs on to those that are kind enough to invite you over for lunch.

Your sister sounds like she is infatuated. Assuming she is a grown woman it’s not a good look.

How incredibly rude of them

This is only a big deal if you turn it into one. Either serve up as normal and he'll just have the meat, or stick on some extra chicken thighs if you have room in the oven.

Probably explains why I’m so fat 😂

you've read to far into her comment of 'piling his plate high' She was just being light hearted. You've over reacted and caused a bit of a scene.

We must be a particularly greedy family , as that wouldn’t be anywhere near enough for that many people unless it’s the infamous Mumsnet chicken rearing its head 🤣

But there’s no indication he’s going to be rude. It’s unclear whether he even knows this has been said.

Anyway, the situation is on the OP to manage as host and if she really doesn’t want to buy extra chicken, she can just dole out everyone’s portion first and then offer the leftovers as extra. It’s really not a big deal and not worth making a new member of the family unwelcome over.

Ask for BF's details and discuss his dietary requirements with him directly.

My guess is he'll say just do what you'd planned and he'll eat around that, and not tell you he'll also eat before and after he comes.

I think anyone who "needs" a lot of food, and is fussy about it would eat before attending a family dinner and/or when they get home.

I have a large and greedy family. I often do a tray of chicken drumsticks alongside a roast for extra. I started years ago at Christmas to stop them fighting over the 2 legs. It is rude to turn up at somebodies house and expect 40% of the meat when you are only 9% of the guests, but it’s also rude to not do a little extra meat for someone who you know isn’t going to fill up on spuds and you can’t control his (or sis) expectations and you can control your meal.

I have friends who don't eat vegetable apart from potatoes. When they come round for lunch, I still do veggies for everyone else and I serve lunch on platters for people to help themselves to. I don't plate up for anyone and it's never been a problem. I think you're making a mountain out of a molehill.

My ds talks about when he goes to his girlfriend’s house for dinner he needs to eat “hard” broccoli 🤣. But he does without complaint, and thanks them because he was raised to be polite and knows it is just one meal that isn’t exactly to his taste.

Hopefully it is just your SIL fussing over him rather than him being demanding (otherwise I feel for your niece having an arse with no manners for a finance)

fuck that, leftovers are for me later or on the table for everyone. Not one person on their own because they are following some kind of diet. (and before anyone jumps: there would be no "oh you have all the carrots/broccoli/artichokes/roasties" for people who don't eat meat.

Yanbu. Demanding a plateful of the most expensive part of a meal is madness tbh, and obviously having someone frying chops while you're busy on the other hobs/trying to get in and out the oven is a silly idea.

I think you were being rude but I suspect I’m in the minority. My mum isn’t vegetarian but rarely eats meat, I know if I’m having her over I have to make a couple of vegetarian bits as she will avoid meat where possible and is our guest. Similarly, I know when I have certain male family members over for dinner, I have to increase the amount of meat on offer because they have ‘healthy’ appetites and there are certain kids who I know won’t eat veg so when they come over I have to increase the carb offerings. If you’re inviting guests, I think it’s rude not to accommodate their preferences within reason. Your Sil offered to bring the extra meat to accommodate. To ask her to bring it cooked is silly as it won’t taste great reheated.

Butter, honey, steam? You don't just whack some frozen broccoli and carrots in a saucepan for 10 minutes? I always do a cauliflower cheese and maybe some mashed suede, but butter and honey is just for Christmas round here! 😄

I'd happily just buy a bigger/another joint, if the joints are already purchased chuck some extra chicken legs/breasts/chops in the oven. Its really no big deal, especially when DSis has offered to being the chops.

to me it is more about the assumption that OP can just buy and provide more meat.

What happens if the boyfriend is a real hog and just scarfs down most of the meat before anyone else has maybe had a chance at 2nds, or trying one of the other types of meat? OP doesn't know him, and of course he may be really polite and not do that. But given the way a lot of people are, she can't discount that.

I find it the height of rudeness to say "on a cut, give me more meat" as a guest, especially as a first time guest. In that case you decline, or you just eat meat and supplement as soon as you leave?

Cheeky bastards, your house isn’t a Toby Carvery. In fact do they not even restrict meats? I think you’re fine to tell your sister that everyone needs to get some meat so there won’t be the opportunity to “pile his plate high” with that. And then plate up the meat so the stupid prick doesn’t get to just snaffle it. Bollocks would I be accommodating this nonsense.

Don't blame the boyfriend, this is coming from SIL. Ignore her, serve everyone their share of the meet and put the side dishes on the table along with the leftover meat.

I've never had butter or honey on my vegetables. Didn't realise this was a thing.

Why can you just dish up the meat for everyone’s portion as normal, and then when he says no thanks to potatoes say “no problem John you’re welcome to the rest of the chicken”?

My bet is the BF knows nothing of this conversation and would be mortified if he did.